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Separation Anxiety Disorder


Separation anxiety disorder is a condition that causes your child to feel anxious. Anxiety occurs when he or she is separated from something familiar. Examples of familiar things include parents or regular caregivers, and the child's home. Separation anxiety is normal for children 6 to 30 months of age. Your child may have this disorder if symptoms last past 30 months. Your child may also have this disorder if symptoms do not get better as your child gets older. Separation anxiety disorder may also happen in older children, between 4 and 12 years of age.


Call 911 for any of the following:

  • Your child has chest pain, tightness, or heaviness that may spread to his or her shoulders, arms, jaw, neck, or back.
  • Your child says he or she feels like hurting himself or herself, or someone else.

Contact your child's healthcare provider:

  • Your child's symptoms get worse or do not get better with treatment.
  • Your child has new or worsening symptoms.
  • You have questions or concerns about your child's condition or care.


  • Medicines may be used to help your child feel less nervous, anxious, or depressed.
  • Give your child's medicine as directed. Contact your child's healthcare provider if you think the medicine is not working as expected. Tell him or her if your child is allergic to any medicine. Keep a current list of the medicines, vitamins, and herbs your child takes. Include the amounts, and when, how, and why they are taken. Bring the list or the medicines in their containers to follow-up visits. Carry your child's medicine list with you in case of an emergency.

Follow up with your child's healthcare provider as directed:

Write down your questions so you remember to ask them during your visits.

How to help your child:

  • Try to leave your child with people he or she knows. Use the same babysitter as much as possible. If you have to use a new babysitter, invite him or her to spend time with your child while you are there. If your child will begin daycare, visit the daycare a few times together before you leave your child there.
  • Create a routine with your child. Tell your child that you will be back. Stay calm and try not to show that you are sad or anxious. Leave quickly after you say goodbye. Children become more upset when they are sleepy or hungry. If possible, leave after your child has eaten or taken a nap.
  • Tell caregivers or teachers to distract your child when you leave him or her. Tell caregivers or teachers to start a new activity. They can also give your child his or her favorite toy to play with.
  • Keep promises to your child. Return when you said you would. This will help your child trust you. It will also help decrease your child's anxiety.
  • Help your child practice deep breathing. Deep breathing can help your child relax when he or she is anxious. Your child should learn to take slow, deep breaths several times a day, or before you have to leave him or her. Tell your child to breathe in through the nose and out through the mouth.

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