My boyfriend was diagnosed with cirrhosis of the liver a year and a half ago. Since then he has become more of an alcoholic than ever. He hasn't seen a doctor in over a year and doesn't want to see one. When he was first diagnosed his platelets in his blood were low and they wanted to do a transfusion so he could get his biopsy done. The doctor had him booked with a liver specialist never went to that appointment either. He is looking more sicker everyday has liver spots all over his face, lost weight, had swelling in the stomach and legs but that has stopped for now, sleeping pattern is all mixed up, his mental behavior has changed, loss of memory, spider veins everywhere and so on.This is so hard for me to deal with and I know he's being very selfish and not thinking of what he's putting his family and me through!When he first went to the doctor I'm sure he was in his last stage so I'm wondering how long does a person live for with that disease and especially with the excessive amount of drinking he's doing.I love him and have stood by him but now I'm starting to feel very angry with him knowing how selfish he's being and what he's putting me through.I feel like leaving him but the guilty side of me makes me stay because all I keep thinking is what if he goes and I'm not there for him.I'm in a rock and a hard place but I also feel I'm gonna be sick myself if I keep going through this with him.This is the most stressful thing a person has to go through and I don't wish it upon anyone.Can someone please give me an answer as to how much longer he has thank you.
Last Stage Liver Cirrhosis - How Long Till Someone Passes If They Still Continue To Drink?
Question posted by Anonymous on 6 Jan 2013
Last updated on 11 June 2022
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I'm sorry you're going through this, and please don't take this the wrong way as I'm not judging you as I'm in the same boat myself and have received plenty of judgement and criticism, so I want to reiterate this is coming from a place of compassion, you may feel guilty and not able to leave because you have fallen into an enabler/codependent role. It's very hard when we fall in love with addicts and alcoholics. And I'm assuming you've done some care taking as well, such as trying to get him to appoinments, etc. You need to take care of yourself now. This stress is going to wear you out and you deserve better. He's given up on life and with that, you. As harsh as that may sound, when an alcoholic is in his/her disease, they are selfish, have to regard for others and he's made his choice. There's no turning back now, even if he quits drinking, it may buy him some time. I feel for you. I've been here.
It's called tough love. And if you find him in a lucid moment where you can speak to him, you can tell him you're not going to watch him kill himself. You're going to go take care of yourself. And do not get sucked back into the trap by any thing he may say to keep you around.
Saying it is one thing, but you walking out that door is another, and it's empowerment. Why should you sit this out with him? I know you love him but this is doing damage to yourself and taking your time away.
It's hard to say how long it will be but it's not pleasant, it's miserable.
I think it's time you take care of yourself. If you'd like to talk more you can ask me a PQ, but you can also google average life span... just to see what it says but if hes not in the hospital yet, it may be awhile and hopefully if he gets to the hospital he will choose hospice if he's near death so that they can make him as comfortable as possible and then it's pretty quick, and of course you should be with him at that time but I know your stress and anxiety level is just making you feel crazy. I feel for you. In case you don't know when his belly swells its called ascites, and the mental status is due to his ammonia level and something called encephalopathy. As the bloating gets worse is when he is likely going to need to go to the hospital. You could try an ALONON meeting where you may find some support with people in similar situations. Please take care of yourself. Warmest regards!
Hi Cupcake and thank you for getting back to me and giving me information of what to look for.Your right about going to an Alanon meeting that is what my Dr.
even suggested.As for the person saying I buy his alcohol no I don't!First of all we don't live together as husband and wife he's only my boyfriend for 10 years now.I would never live with him due to his alcoholism.Most part I would never buy his alcohol especially when I don't agree with his drinking all the time and now especially with his liver disease.He buys his own and has from day one.I have also sat down and talked to him about funeral arrangements and what his wishes are when he goes and like I said he seems to think he's invincible and that he's not going to die.He is too far gone to help with anything now the alcohol has control of his life and that's all he cares about.It's sad and very hard to watch but I can't do anymore for him.He has to be the person to change himself and if he don't want to my hands are tied.I know it's just a matter of time and like the one person said he's like a ticking time bomb ready to explode.I try not to be around him that much anymore cause it bothers me to see him killing himself and being selfish about it.Your right cupcake I have to start thinking about myself before I become sick over all this.I'm just gonna see him occasionally to show that I still care but I'm not gonna drain myself with worrying about him anymore.I think what I want more than anything is a happy ending with one another before he goes but I don't think that's gonna happen not with all the drinking he's doing.I have to just grin and bear it for now and if it gets anymore harder for me to handle than I'll have no choice but to walk away I have kids and grandchildren and other family members who love and care about me and want to see me around for awhile instead of having someone like him drag me through my death bed.
Well that's great you don't live with him. I'm so sorry that you're still suffering though. But you're right, your children and grand children don't need to see you sad or sick over someone that has chosen his own path, which is selfish to those that love him and a very unpleasant way at best. If he does make it to the hospital, which I imagine he will eventually as things stop working and something might scare him, I don't know, maybe you can make peace then. If he has any lucid moments which may not be likely as his ammonia levels rise he will lave altered mental status and if he does make it to the hospital, during withdrawal he will be delirious. All you can do is write him a letter. It may at least help you with getting your feelings out but we don't know how he will react, but you only need to worry about you.
I'm sorry to assume you may have enabled his drinking, I just know I have enabled a person by letting them use when they shouldn't but I'm not stronger than that disease so I'd just say nothing. And it did make me sick and miserable. Stay strong. Find support in the meetings. You choose when to see him I jut fear one day you don't want to be the one to find him no longer in this life. Is he lucid ever or is he drinking 24/7. There's going to come a time he won't be able to make it out of the house to buy it. I'm hoping someone some how will get him to a hospital, maybe if he's belligerent in public. I don't know. I'm so sorry. I know how difficult it is. My heart goes out to you and if you know the serenity prayer, say it as many times as you need to as you're powerless over his addiction so you need to accept things you cannot change, courage to change the things you can which applies only to you and the wisdom to know the difference! My adaptation of the prayer :) I will keep you in my heart and please keep me updated or fall on me for support. I'm here. Much love to you and yours!
Thank you so much for your support it's very much appreciated and I thank everyone that has answered to me for their kindness and support as well.I will keep everyone posted on what's going on.I keep hoping he'll get just a little sick so the drinking will have to stop but I guess that's not gonna happen it's just gonna hit him all at once and hard!I don't know if the mental state he is now is caused because he's drunk all the time or if it's the toxic's going to his brain.All I know is he's losing his memory and I know that will be caused from both as well and he's very mean a lot of times.He likes to go in his own nest and be by himself for days so he can drink his face off and no one knows what's going on but he can't pull the wool on my eyes anymore because I'm a little too smart now for those games.Last week I didn't hear from him for a few days and he had no air time on his cell and he had me thinking ...
all kinds of awful thoughts.I was ready to call the police to go and check on him.When I did finally get a hold of him he gave me major attitude so I didn't talk to him for a few days after that.I wanted him to know that you don't treat me this way especially when I'm the only one he has that truly cares.One day he will see that when he's laid up on his death bed and by then it will be too late.I know he's gonna be gone one day soon and I have to learn to accept it but on the other hand I'm grieving and he's not even gone yet!It bottles my mind this is not easy to go through and I don't wish this on anyone.Everyone tells me to leave but it's kind of hard right now especially when I know he'll be gone soon one day.I've stuck it out this far with him so the way I look at it I might as well stick it out to the end.I just put limits on things and don't allow myself to be caught up around him for too long when I know he's drinking his life away.It is really a rock and a hard place but I guess it's the silly thing we call love.
Yes it is. We know what we should do. Everyone tells us too. But we can't. I know exactly how that feels. Out hearts guide us against our own will sometimes, or rather block out what our mind tells us to do. Stay strong! Alcoholism and addiction are things that nobody truly understands. Unless you've been there and recovered I guess.
His moods you've described are very typical. The memory loss can be related to something as simple as blackouts or more severe as increased ammonia levels causing encephalopathy. I hope too, for your sake and his something gets him into the hospital. And it needs to be a hospital where they try to get an alcoholic out before they start going into DT's because once that happens, they cannot release them. My hospital that I work at is an Adventist hospital and based on the religious beliefs of Adventists, there is no alcohol allowed where as other hospitals, like a metro/inner city hospital will start an alcoholic on an alcohol IV or give them alcohol so they don't need to admit them. Talk about messed up!!! But a hospital is still a financial institution and many addicts/alcoholics don't have insurance and once they're admitted, they can be there up to 6 months. That's rare but we did have one patient that was.
I forgot to mention another thing that may happen,upper or lower GI bleed, most times upper as they develop what's called varies in their esophagus. Esophageal varices are abnormal, enlarged veins in the lower part of the esophagus — the tube that connects the throat and stomach. Esophageal varices occur most often in people with serious liver diseases.
Esophageal varices develop when normal blood flow to your liver is slowed. The blood then backs up into nearby smaller blood vessels, such as those in your esophagus, causing the vessels to swell. Sometimes, esophageal varices can rupture, causing life-threatening bleeding.Liver diseases and other causes of esophageal varices
Esophageal varices are most often a complication of cirrhosis — Since in this case we know the cirrhosis is alcohol related, the risk of variceal bleeding is far greater as he continues to drink. Not saying this is a good thing at all as its life threatening, but the chance this may happen is high and perhaps vomiting blood will be enough to get him into the hospital. Just thinking of you. Sending love.
Hi Cupcake I will probably never know what's going on inside his body because he's not willing to go to the doctor's.I talked to him yesterday about going to see the doctor and he fluffed it off as usual and started harping on me saying I'm Miss know it all.I guess the only way he'll be going to one is when he's almost on his death bed.He has me so frustrated and confused that I don't know whether I'm coming or going anymore.At first I had pity on him when he first found out about it now I feel very angry towards him!If he don't care than my hands are tied and I guess he'll be going the way he wants to go and that is with a beer in his hands.Thank you for thinking of me and trying to give me more advice but I can't help someone who don't want the help.He tells me he feels fine only that he's been coughing a lot for the past 5 days and he doesn't know what that is caused from.Other than that I have nothing to ...
worry about.So I told him straight out and bluntly if you don't care about your life than why should I do what you want but don't say I didn't try.
Good for you. I think you're starting your grieving process already. Nobody can change another human being. You've tried. You've offered love and support. It's clear he doesn't want it. So start living your life!!! You've got support on here when needed. Wishing you strength!
hi i just lost my uncle on the 8th of this month. He was fine one day and the next day he was sick in the hospital dieing of liver cirrhosis. My grandpa had liver cirrhosis and was told that he wouldnt make it another month and he lived 11 years until his heart stop and was brain dead he was on life suport for 24 hrs til taken off. My uncle was told he liver cirrhosis in Feb of this year and die in on April 8th the thing stressful and depressing because before they started giving him treament he was fine was in alil pain but he was eating, talking, smily,joking he was being him self then they started giving him the meds he started vomitting bleeding he ketp falling hitting his head when he died the doctors told my family his back was broken.
The hospital did do there job right its like they didnt care about him be careful with those hospital claiming they are there to help people but u know about that the dotcors sent my uncle home and told him to go die at home i live in san antonio tx and my uncle was in 3 hospital and none of them help my uncle they treated him like he was nothing i hope this can help someone out
You know I hear people talking about people being selfish! And to a extent I see what your saying! But if I may add! Don't be so quick to judge! I was diagnosed with cirrhosis with cause unknown! I'm sick three to four days a week and have to go in and get drained about every other month! Sometimes the fight ain't worth fighting anymore! There are worst things then dying! Its been about a year for me since I was diagnosed and sometimes i wishes I had never knew! The sad part is I know no more now then I did then! I've always been a very independent man! I took pride in providing for my family! And now I feel like I useless! And they have the nerve to ask me if I'm depressed! No... my life has bern turned up side down... but I have no reason to be depressed! No matter how strong you are believe me it still can break you!
You know I hear people talking about people being selfish! And to a extent I see what your saying! But if I may add! Don't be so quick to judge! I was diagnosed with cirrhosis with cause unknown! I'm sick three to four days a week and have to go in and get drained about every other month! Sometimes the fight ain't worth fighting anymore! There are worst things then dying! Its been about a year for me since I was diagnosed and sometimes i wishes I had never knew! The sad part is I know no more now then I did then! I've always been a very independent man! I took pride in providing for my family! And now I feel like I'm useless! And they have the nerve to ask me if I'm depressed! No... my life has been turned up side down... but I have no reason to be depressed! No matter how strong you are believe me it still can break you!
My husband has advanced cirrhosis of the liver but it is not alcohol related. There is somewhat of a stigma attached to having this condition as it is generally assumed by people that you must be an alcoholic. Sadly his condition is deteriorating and the disease is just sapping the life out of him. He has lost a lot of weight and muscle tone so is extremely weak and has virtually no quality of life whatsoever. We recently saw a top Consultant who carries out liver transplants but unfortunately he is too ill and too old at 77 to have a transplant. Life is bleak as all the joy seems to have gone out of his life despite our attempts to cheer him up. 0n a good note we did get some good advice from the Consultant on changes to his diet (he needs high protein) and some medication which should help with the hepatic encephalopathy (confusion and depression like symptoms including disorientation, impaired fitness to drive and other symptoms).
Cupcake7667 is quite right about the ammonia level. Watching a much loved husband who was quite fit and well (apart from flare-ups with the liver from time to time) end up with multiple organ failure and being close to death is almost more than a person can stand. The diagnosis after liver biopsy was devastating. It is all so much to take in and the worst thing is that you know they are dying but they don't and you can't tell them because then they would lose the will to live. Life is hard and bleak and sad but you have to try and keep a smile on your face and cope and do whatever needs doing. 0ther than intermediate care for 6 weeks after being discharged from hospital you are left to get on with it. The Care provided really did not help as their role is to get you back to how you were - it's not going to happen with the advance state of the disease - and on the days when he could not get out of bed or sit up they are not allowed to help due to Health & Safety Rules. They observe more than anything but did wash his back and lower legs and feet and put cream on those parts to stop the intense itching which some patients with this disease suffer with. My heart goes out to anyone with advanced cirrhosis and to their loved ones but the worst thing is knowing that there is no cure and that it was not self inflicted.
This is very eye-opening.
Thank you for this.
I suggest you sit and have a serious talk with him regarding his funeral arrangements. Don't talk around it. Just ask him what he wants. Yes, he is committing suicide, but he is beyond caring. If you know his family, let them know he is going to pass soon and that you want certain things to happen for the funeral that he has requested. Hospice is very helpful with this and pays for pain meds and such.
No one has a magic wand to tell you when someone will pass. Even a doctor can't be sure.
Perhaps it will knock some reality into him. Perhaps he will just get mad. Resist fighting, begging and pleading. You know they don't work.
If you can, get him to a funeral home or at least get some info. Pamphlets are better as they can just sit there than the Internet. Let him know you will help with this, if you choose. You know he is not helping himself. He would qualify for hospice. They do help with passing at home and will analyze his situation. He will have to see a doctor. Be ready to dial 911 when he turns yellow. It starts with the eyes where the whites turn yellow.
I am so sorry. So very sorry. You are brave to stay with him. Help him with the closure of his life, if you choose. Bring in the family. And stop buying him alcohol. He will go into withdrawal and you can get him to the hospital. We did this with my mom. We told her that was our choice. She got too sick to get the booze. I drove her to the hospital.
Your grief is already starting for his death. You have time to evaluate and prepare. Share good times when able. Leave if too much. Take very good care of yourself. None of this is your fault.
There is no happy ending except that his pain will end. However, you will do what you are able and that will last as a lesson through your life. Many of us here have had major experiences. Yes, it can make one stronger. Or it can make one a chronic whiner. Your kindness is what you will remember, no matter what you do. Stay strong. Stay strong. Karen
Karen brings up a great point! One I didn't think of in my reply that hasn't posted yet. Cut off his alcohol supply but make sure you're not alone, have his family there, friends, etc., anyone who can buy him alcohol because once those DT's start ( delirium tremors) which I'm sure you know and he's in withdrawal he will have to go to the hospital and this process can be expedited in as much a comfortable way as possible. He needs to have a living will and be a DNR/DNI so they don't do any aggressive measures but move him to hospice as soon as medically able. Still waiting on my post...
Karen I have sat down with him and talked about funeral arrangements of what he wants and all the things he's gonna go through with this and all he has to say is I'm not going anywhere and everyone who drinks has cirrhosis.He's in pure denial or more bluntly he don't care!I have talked to his family about everything and told them you better be prepared for his death soon.His sister understands completely but his mom is a little more harder to talk to.I do not buy his alcohol and never have!I would be a Hippocrate if I did and not caring as well.Your right I am starting to grief his death because I know it's coming soon one day.Do I want to accept it no but I have no choice but too.He did this to himself and I know I can't change his way of living no matter how much I harp on him.All I can do is be there till the end and know I did the right thing.Thank you for your support Karen and I'm trying to keep strong.
Green eyes. You have a good foothold in the truth and it will help you get through it. You are very kind to be there. Your eyes are open and I am glad the sister understands. The support from her and others will make this doable. That you are already grieving is where you ought to be. No false hopes. This is truly real for you. When my mom died from her drinking and making with the resultant cancers and liver trouble, same thing for me but sister couldn't grasp it.
By the way, I also have green eyes. Maybe that is our strength? Ha-ha. Don't forget to laugh and cry as you need to. You can stop the pleading and let things unfold. It never was your battle anyway.
I put the companion drinking in for other readers as much as checking with you. Enabling an alcoholic, drug user or obesity is all the same. It sounds like you have high standards and good ethics. They will take you through life.
If you can, work on the plans for the end. It came suddenly for us, though the process took months. When she died the first thing they asked was which funeral home. Really, last breath and two minutes later, where. Shocking. Always depends upon who is with you. Be prepared. It is part of grieving. I know you will be strong and will make it through this. Write anytime.
Hi. Glad this question came up again. Been wondering how you are doing. By the way, heavy drinking with liver failure produces severe withdrawal. He will need the hospital. That is what I did with my mom. They actually told me to get her a drink so she did not have seizures.
Be careful getting rid of the booze. You cannot predict how he will react. I don't want you in the hospital as well. When his health gets bad enough, the hospital and hospice are the key. Be sure there are no weapons in your house. People will hallucinate when they withdraw from alcohol. He will be drinking less and less because his liver is failing and the alcohol slows down being processed. Don't give it unless he can get it. When he can't, call that ambulance. These are ideas so you are prepared. Don't hesitate when he turns yellow, the eyes yellow first. Get him in to the doctor and they will send him to the hospital. Many possibilities. Take care of yourself. Karen
My heart goes out to you. I am going through the very same thing. My boyfriend is at the end stage of cirrhosis and is still drinking, he has been in the hospital from throwing up blood as well as passing blood in his stools and I mean alot of it. He does not have a appetite at all and is always tired. He can only work two days a week and has to leave early sometimes. He can't do any of the things he use to do, he is tired and irratable all the time. I feel like you that he is being very selfish and at the same time can't bring myself to kick him out. He was told that he may have 6 months but I feel it will be less. He has all the symptoms that show he is very close to dying yet he acts like it isn't going to happen. I am not sure if he really believe that or if he knows he is dying and doesn't see any reason to stop drinking. Either way I am a basket case just waiting for the time to come and I am having to see a doctor for my depression. I am so sorry someone else is going through this hell and my prayers are with you.
Hi I was told 8 yrs ago I had cirrhosis of the live Stage 3 .. I am into stage 4 now..As you were saying about your boyfriend is still con't to drink is as everyone knows a slow {some times or it can be fast} death wish. To him I would like to say NO we all don't don't cont to drink! The day I was told I have never touched a drop sense!! I wish I had an easy answer for you I give you so much credit on your love and dedication in sticking with him. But you may need to play good cop bad cop sorta speak. You can not do it for him. He has to make the proper choice for himself . I don't see cirrhosis having control over me .. I have control over it!! My hope is that you can find peace in yourself you have done all you can :) . Respect yourself enough to know these are his choices and when the end does come it will be his burden he will have to take with him. Good luck wishing only the Best :)
22 years he was told at 18 no more drinking jaundice his eyes still yellow has son prior daughter w me now 18 I'm now perm disability stress caused 2 neck surgery diabetes insomnia high bp 13 meds which ruin my teeth u name it was hospital twice back to back has stage 3 hep c on top severe alcoholic an knows gonna put assistance living I cannot care for him nerve damage I can barely wash my hair so please make choices for u first while u can
Hi I am new to this web site I am going thru this right now with my mother she is bed ridden due to cirrhosis she has the varases when they rubber band it up my mother had that done 25 years ago and out of know where it got her again they say by Thanksgiving she will pass away so sad.I joined this website just to help me get info n to see how it was for other people at the last stage what they went thru with there loved one
Hi, i'm sorry to say that he is probably very close to losing his life. Being diagnosed with Liver Cirrhosis this long ago and doing nothing to treat it, on the contrary, making the condition worse, he is like a ticking time bomb. I'm sorry to be so blunt, this must be so, so hard for you! Is he taking ANYTHING to protect his health, vitamin B for his liver function or Thiamine for his brain health? It is not surprising that his memory is being affected. Have you tried conveying just how worried you are about him & how hard/stressful it is for you having to deal with this situation? I really feel for you! Is there a 'reason' that he started drinking in the first place? A tragedy in his life? Something that could be worked through possibly?
Your right it is extremely hard for me and I have told him many of times how stressed out I'm over this and how much I care and worry about him but he seems to think he's invisible and he'll never break down and if he ends up really sick over it then that will be the time for him to quit.I keep telling him it will be too late by then!I've tried getting him to read up on the computer about it all and he seems to think I'm Miss no it all.He's in so much denial and doesn't seem to care.I guess he figures if he goes he might as well keep on drinking and be happy when he goes.Believe me drinking doesn't make you happy it only hides the pain.His dad was an alcoholic and so was his mom so that is what he was raised around.His ex wife stopped him from seeing his daughter probably due to his alcoholism and I think that made it worse for him.I went as far as looking his daughter and ex wife up on the computer but was not successful with his daughter ...
but did find his wife sent her a message and told her about his condition and tried getting her to let him see his daughter before he goes but never got a response.My hands are tied I've tried everything and now I'm so frustrated with all of this that I just feel like walking away but on the other hand my guilt is getting the best of me.I do love him and it's obvious or I wouldn't have been with him for 10 years now and struggling through his alcoholism.Not only am I dealing with his problem but I'm also dealing with my son who also has a drug addiction so believe me my life isn't easy.My boyfriend is not taking any vitamins or anything for his memory he was on water pills but stopped that as well.I think the only thing that keeps him going is he eats healthy.Thank you for answering back to my question and for your concern Delila.
I'm sorry to here about the past difficulties your husband has been through. Maybe it would be worth trying to contact his ex-wife again. It can't hurt i guess? Like you say, maybe seeing his daughter will give him a reality check and he may realise that there is more to life than drinking? I'm so sorry for you being in this situation, i wish i could help! I am here if you want to talk. I have experience in this area too so i do understand how very hard it must be on you. My thoughts are with you during this tough time and i hope & pray your husband finds the strength to change his life, and yours...
I can so relate to this person, I am going through the same thing with my x, who still lives with me, now we are room mates for obivous reasons. He has no family here. I don't know what to do! Major denial. He was just released from the Hospital two day ago, with mager gi bleed from portal vein in his upper stomach. This was the second time, last was two years ago, at that time it was varcies esophageal that was banded. I know I cannot take this on myself, and hate what he is doing to me. I am so angry!!! I need him to go, however I don't know where he would go. I am so stressed and scared. I can so releate to this lady. Prayers Prayers Prayers. Hugs...
Hi debbigal, i'm so sorry to hear that you re also going through this nightmare. It is a little difficult to advise as i don't know where you live? I am in the UK and it is reasonably easy to home someone in this condition with a supported housing association or a hospice. Have you looked in to either of these? I'm here if you want to talk more. It is so difficult for everyone affected by these situations, i know. Is your, now, room mate trying or desiring to do anything to help himself?
To the person who suggested getting his daughter involved: Please don't take that advice. My daughters are going through hell with their father today. He's in the hospital and has stated he has no intention of quitting. The doctor has said he hasn't seen a worse case. I involved them and I regret it. My daughter hasn't had a father. She's had a drunk and an alcoholic but she's tender-hearted adn can't stand to see a stray animal suffer. He is the one that made these decisions to make alcohol more important than his daughter. Whey should she get to see him in the final stages and make her suffer. DON'T involve the daughter.
My husband was told in 2006 that he had cirrhosis. He went to rehab came home and drank again. Now 2014 he is in serious health, he has wernike encyphalopahty (spelling is probably wrong) He can't hardly remember anything. I have seen no spider veins, but he drinks Vodka straight from the bottle, no chaser. He has esophageal varices that once upon a time had shrunk..years ago. He falls around all the time.He pretty much knows he's dying and is to selfish to care about anyone including himself. It's so sad. We have only been married for 11 yrs. All I can say is take care of yourself. He has to want to stop and get help, we cannot do it for them. Prayers to anyone who has to deal with this
my brother has been diagnosed with cirrhosis of the liver and he is in and out of hospital all the time cos his blood count is always low he still drinks its heart breaking to see him like this he has had bands fitted but still bleeds he his back in hospital now and his belly has got bigger his legs and feet swelled up i dont no how long he has left its so sad to see him like this he his 62 years old he drinks cider the big bottle every day he said he not drinking any more but when he comes out of hospital he starts to drink again
I can relate to every single word this lady is saying I lost my wife to cirrhosis they told her several times she had cirrhosis and several more times that she didn't it is very difficult to watch them hurt themselves but there's not much we can do unfortunately except for be there by their side until the very last second at the very last minute that is exactly what I did for my wife I am still in mourning as it has only been 2 months this is a very difficult thing to go through tell him he is not alone but he needs hel
My husband is going threw the same thing. Everyday I have tried to get him to stop. 24years if marriage 4 beautiful kids 3 grand children 1grand daughter on the way, and he feels he does't want to live. Our kids hate us. I do not deink, hate to smell , but live him heart b soul. I am 46 and cannot imagine my life with out him. I pray to god it is never to late. The Dr told him a year n half ago if ever touched another drink he was a Dr was man. HD Fri KS puts of blackberry everyday. My heart is broke n.
I so know how u feel, but leaving him is never an option, I just pray to god this will be the last day. I hope things get better for u both. Keep praying god. I believe he will verge only one to save them.
My husband's pain is horrible everyday. Ita horrible for any o e to watch.
God bless.
Gina Gibson
I am also going thru the same thing it sounds like you are it’s so difficult and sad to watch them as they get worse and don’t care about anything except more alcohol. I wish there were an online support group it would be full 24/7 I think . I need someone to talk to if u know of anything besides alanon let me know.i do completely understand and I feel your pain as well it’s horrifically hard to deal with and keep going on with your life it’s a heavy burden for sure .
I've seen people die of cirrhosis. Its not rapid, but it is miserable. For him to continue to drink and act like he has is like committing suicide slowly. I would have alot of trouble feeling for him since he isn't caring about himself.
Thank you for responding back kaismama.When you say not rapid how long of a life span does it usually take?Your also right I'm having a difficult time with my feelings towards him right now cause he is basically committing suicide and being selfish too!I felt sorry for him for the longest part now I don't anymore.I never thought it would come to this of me feeling this way because I have a big heart.
He did it to himself. It can take months of pure misery before one dies. He's not even seeing the dr and doing anything to help himself.
Hi greeneye, I have sent an answer that should be posting soon. It may help you come to terms with your feelings and addresses other things. Hopefully it posts soon. Stay strong and take care of yourself!
What the hell is wrong with you, Kaismama? It's a disease and he needs unconditional love from his family. Who are you to judge so harshly? Shame on you...
I have different illnesses, which has been a part of my life for quite some time. Without knowing God as I have come to know him, I would not have been able to get through as I have. Some years ago, I should have experienced full blown of my hep c which was gotten frm surgery, years ago. This was years before blood was checked for good or bad. I have had M.S., arthritis, nerve damages in every area of my body, arteriosclerosis, fibromyalgia, hypertension, I think I am missing something, but anyway, all of these pretty much, affect/or effect my memory. My physical mobility is not as good it should be. I have good and bad days. But my God is stronger than these illnesses. The last several months, I have been getting repeated blood works since the first one that told me me my liver was normal and some other areas are normal or not to worry about it. So I give God the reason for my faith in God.
I forgot to say that I am a non-practicing alcoholic. I quit many years ago. One has to learn to love themselves in order to overcome their bad habits and practices. I smoked like a choo-choo train and drank to blow out the fire of smoke. jk. but I did both in such a bad way. I pay consequences for the things I have done. But I am sober and proud working hard to over come my illnesses. This, I thought might need to be made known so I am not just talking. Thanks for your time.
Hi guy's I was just reading some post. I am so sorry for ur boyfriend and what ur going thru, they are pretty much saying this us what I, by what I hear it's terrible, Im hanging oh to God with all I have. I want to say this I want to make it as easy for people as I can, its so hard on Loved ones, and I HV to fight anger some, I brought this email n my self not taking care of my surgery, I pray God give u strength, and helps him to think right about this, if u need a friend I'm here. Thank u
I was recently diagnosed with Cirrhosis of the Liver and I was given 75% survival rate for the next 2 years. Now I'm not an alcoholic but I would have a shot of a strong one once a month or so and I do NOT have hepatitis of any kind so this liver disease that I have just acquired is a total mystery, and not even my doctor can figure out how I got it and this type of thing does not run in my family so it's not generic. My question is how do I get rid of it or can I?
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How can you be so blind and not see that he's given up?
My father past then my wife following. Him the next year from cirrhosis now 8 years later im at end stages I seen the selfishness. My father lived a great life i left it to him to do as he pleased.he raised a great beautiful family. My wife's passing came on so fast
Chirohsis is not just from the drinking/drugging. My uncle died from it and he never drank except for one drink at the beginning of the new year. He was a Diabetic, and as I've read some of those meds are harmful to the liver. Most of the new medications today will say may be harmful to the liver. We all know the liver is our filter.
He has every right to live how he wants. He is not obligated to change for anyone. Living with an alcoholic is a valid enough reason to leave. If you feel guilty seek therapy. You have lots of issues to confront about yourself.
My mom has been diagnosed with Cirrhosis of the liver caused by fatty liver disease caused by diabetes. She was diagnosed with diabetes in 1977. She was insulin dependent from the start. Her memory isn't what it use to be. She has started building up fluid in her abdomen and having to have a paracentesises done to drain the fluid off. Since the January 1, she has had 4 or 5 done. The amount of fluid they drain off is increasing. It was every 3 weeks and has now gone to every 2 weeks. On the last one, they drew off 10 liters of fluid! She was told that she know has fluid in her lungs (CHF). She has had to increase the amount of time she is using her oxygen because of the fluid in her lungs. I do not want to lose her, but know if will be inevitable. I just pray to God that she just goes in her sleep and doesn't have to suffer. I, too, am wondering where we are on her timeline.
alcoholism is considered disease but there is no ice challenges for this like there is for ALS. Please it is a disease and it effects so many people. It is so hard on the family and loved ones. We hate this! Let us try and find a cure! Please I don't want to die.
my wife has cirrhosis of the liver she does not drink and her ammonia levels have been over three times as high as they should be. She is being put on a drug to lower it. How advanced is her cirrhosis?
That's exactly how I feel!My boyfriend hid his condition from me for a year.He also wasn't symptomatic.After being hospitalized the first time for varicies,he stopped drinking... but now he's drinking even more than he did before.He expects me to take care of him,and take him to frequent doctors appointments, where he lies and says he isn't drinking... it's so frustrating!Part of me wants him to move out,but he has nowhere else to go,and not even a family member is willing to help in any way...
Hi, I am an Alcoholic and I would like to try and explain a few things to you. I totaly understand how people looking from the outside find this a very selfish act But I can assure you I get NO pleasure pouring that stuff down my neck every day !! It is a NUMMER that stops me from hurting !! I am hurting my family which breaks my heart on a daily basis but my husband understands and will never walk away, even though he is watching me die every day. I have tried EVERTHING to get of it but I cant !! Please dont call us selfish unless you have been in or close to someone who is suffering. Thanks x
Plantys wifey, what were your husband is very final symptoms if you don't mind me asking? I am so very sorry for you and your guys' kids loss!
Does anyone know how long till death in stage 4 alcoholic liver cirrhosis? I'm caring for my ex husband and he's already been in the hospital twice in the last month and a half. He has quit drinking but unfortunately it's too late. He has tolerable days and then there are tougher ones. He doesn't want to be bothered most of the time.The Dr gave him 2 months... just thought someone could help me out that's been through it or something similar. I would appreciate any info.
One reason he may be drinking so much ,is he is in depression, he's probably feeling very confused. My aunt is doing the same thing, she looks like a skeleton. She looks as bad as my nephew that died from Aids.
I wonder if aids and cirrhosis are about alike?
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