My boyfriend was diagnosed with cirrhosis of the liver a year and a half ago. Since then he has become more of an alcoholic than ever. He hasn't seen a doctor in over a year and doesn't want to see one. When he was first diagnosed his platelets in his blood were low and they wanted to do a transfusion so he could get his biopsy done. The doctor had him booked with a liver specialist never went to that appointment either. He is looking more sicker everyday has liver spots all over his face, lost weight, had swelling in the stomach and legs but that has stopped for now, sleeping pattern is all mixed up, his mental behavior has changed, loss of memory, spider veins everywhere and so on.This is so hard for me to deal with and I know he's being very selfish and not thinking of what he's putting his family and me through!When he first went to the doctor I'm sure he was in his last stage so I'm wondering how long does a person live for with that disease and especially with the excessive amount of drinking he's doing.I love him and have stood by him but now I'm starting to feel very angry with him knowing how selfish he's being and what he's putting me through.I feel like leaving him but the guilty side of me makes me stay because all I keep thinking is what if he goes and I'm not there for him.I'm in a rock and a hard place but I also feel I'm gonna be sick myself if I keep going through this with him.This is the most stressful thing a person has to go through and I don't wish it upon anyone.Can someone please give me an answer as to how much longer he has thank you.
Last Stage Liver Cirrhosis - How Long Till Someone Passes If They Still Continue To Drink?
Question posted by Anonymous on 6 Jan 2013
Last updated on 11 June 2022 by determinedcookie12
For me….the itchiest part is the liver area first….then it eventually escalated to my arms and legs
So….I think you eventually become itchy every where
I am very emotional reading your post as I’ve just lost my father to cirrhosis of the liver in the last month, my father was diagnosed last year but never told us and had lead me to believe it had only gotten as far as alcoholic hepatitis. All of the symptoms you have described above he would have had last year and was treated for and I was able to find out from his doctor after his death he was prescribed and had been taking medication for cirrhosis which he for whatever reason stopped taking in August. He complained of being tired around this time but seemed to be doing ok then until 2 weeks before his death where he tried to pass his symptoms off as a kidney infection within 2 weeks in December he was dead. If your partner values his life he needs to go to hospital now or it may be a matter of days.
My brother is currently hospitalized for final stage cirrhosis. He displayed exactly the symptoms you describe. He is being moved from palliative care to a hospice setting.
His only hope would have been a liver transplant however, one must be sober for 6 months to qualify and the physicians agree that he will not last that long.
This is the most senseless, and preventable disease I could imagine.
I suggest that you focus on self care as your boyfriend is a alcoholic who is so ill that he is incapable of helping himself. Unless he submits to detoxification and treatment , you will eventually be calling 911.
My brother was admitted to the hospital 3 times before he could be convinced to stay. He is now unconscious ( my sister has power of attorney) and we are waiting for his nightmare to be over.
Please, take care of yourself.
My husband got told he had stage 4 and he lived 16 months
Each person who suffers from cirrhosis has their own path. No two people will go through the same experience. My mother was diagnosed with 4 autoimmune diseases 20 years ago. Three years ago she was diagnosed with cirrhosis. It was only noticed because she had varices bleeds in her esophagus. At that time her lab values were normal. At first she would have bleeds every 6 months but as time went buy they became more frequent. The second year her bleeds were around every 3 months. Her labs were still normal but the cirrhosis was showing up on the ultra sound and liver scans. The family didn’t notice at first but there were some changes in her cognitive thinking. It was very suttle. We didn’t think much of it because she was in her 70s. By the third year she was averaging bleeds every 6 weeks. She was in tremendous pain. Her acsites was barely controlled and she was taking lactose to keep the encephalopathy at bay. Her labs were abdormal but not by much.
Her labs never really showed just how severe her liver was. Because she was bleeding a lot her doctor did a tips procedure. Re-routing the blood around the liver. Her health rapidly Diminished after that. The lactolose was the only thing keeping her alive and she wasn’t tolerating it well. She would become severely dehydrated and if she did not take it the ammonia levels would increase so high that she went into a comma. 4 weeks after the surgery I made the decision to put her on hospice. It was the most difficult thing I have ever done. She passed away 1 week later.
My mom was diagnosed with cirrhosis 12 years ago after she was brought into the ER with active esophageal varies. She went in for the TIPS procedure, but during the process it was determined that the varies stopped bleeding, therefore, she did not get the shunt. She continued to drink on and off for another 6 to 8 years. 4 years ago she suffered from hundreds of micro strokes, due to mostly unknown reasons, though I have speculations. She left the hospital after 3 months and normalized. In the past 3 years, her gait and appearance has changed drastically: she walks as if in slow motion, barely eats, looks pregnant, has paper-like skin that tears and bleeds with the slightest touch, and looks 20 years older than she is. Just this past week she has been readmitted due to active esophageal varices. The drinking does not stop. It is torturous. Just torturous.
Need help, or words. Just words.
im 34 and 21 months ago i lost my mom to cancer and my dad didnt take it well when she went through all the treatment and when she dies he got told he had alcholic cirrhosis of the liver and he continued to drink and stop taking his meds it was so fustrating and im so angry but what could i do?
i have 2 small children of my own so i couldnt look after him full time and tbh i dont think he would have wanted me too as he was good at sneaking alcohol - 2 weeks ago i went to see him and i noticed hes chest was rattling and he was very sleepy so i called an ambulance took 5 sodding hours to come but when he was admitted her perked up abit he was eating and altough yellow with a big belly and water swelling around 1 ankle he seemed fine - they told us it was broncitus and there treating him with antibiotics - 2 days later he was still fine we was talking and laughing then 23rd december he rang me of his mobile at 1am then again at 4am saying awful things like he can see my kids been raped (there only 10) and seeing things so i phoned the hospital and he was delusanal which was shocking as they never rang me to tell me i found out through my own dad ringing me telling me these horrible things :( they told us it was an infection and there treating it but all is fine :/ i went to see him a few days later and on new years eve (yesterday) and i heard they had to sedate him a few times as he was been running around shouting spiting in nurses faces etc but for the best part of 4 days hes been sleeping alot and confusesd well anyway got a call today to go in and the told me he has deteriated fast they think its pnumonia now he has a rattling on his chest, bruising everywhere, he looks in so much pain :( 6 months pregnant but hes not gone into a full coma but hes sleeping 99% time unless you wake him - im so scared ive had to come home to be with my children but im dreading that call - i cant believe ive lost both parents before im 35 :(
Every thing I have just read is like your talking about my brother in law
He had fluid in his stomach and legs, he had bulging veins all over, he too was mentality all over the place.
On Monday night I visited him he found it hard to walk even. He was gasping for breath's, I begged him to go to hospital.
He wouldn't, he died alone on Tuesday in the bathroom.
Your boyfriend is living on a day to day time my friend he could die any time
I'm sorry your feeling like this but his mental state is to blame
My friend just passed due to Cirrhosis of the Liver. I did not know the symptoms but from what I have seen the swelling in the body gets the worst before death and yellow skin and eyes seems to be the final stages. I am not a medical professional but just a regular person and I know all patients are different so I do not know if how she went and how fast is typical or not. She too kept drinking even though she was not an alcoholic. Her memory started going and she would not be able to focus her thoughts and slept a lot toward the end as well even though she carried on like she was okay and didn't tell anyone her diagnosis except her boyfriend. He wanted to take her to the hospital but she said the family doctor was doing tests and wanted to wait til after the Canadian Thanksgiving. She did spend it with family and friends. She passed a few days after in her sleep.
I read that what can happen is that the liver or the swelling gets so large that there is lack of blood flow from the liver to the rest of the body. Also something about the esophagus and suffocation. She did bring up some fluid in her sleep so I still wonder if that is how she went... but I like to think she went in her sleep and didn't suffer .. I hope ... I hope ...
My mom was diagnosed with cirrhosis of the liver almost 3 years ago. Jan of 2015. She almost died while in the hospital with gods good graces she miraculously survived but she never quit drinking. She is still alive. It is different for everyone.
My sister was diagnosed with Alcoholic Cirrhosis in Dec 15. The doctor said she wouldn't see 2017. She is schizophrenic as well as alcoholic. Has complication of ascities which is under control. Her mental behaviour can be different to her normal self because of the schizophrenia but I feel it's different than previous 25 years of schizophrenia as she is so angry to me and very hard to be around. I think it's the mental confusion encephalopathy playing a part now. She is suicidal at times. Has not stopped drinking at all. Her husband died in front of her 2 years ago but that's just made her want to carry on drinking. He was alcoholic too. I've been living in fear from those doctors words ever since. I can't believe her body can take the effect of all the toxins going in her body. Chain smokes as well. Doesn't eat. Gets sick,tired and lost all muscle. Lost about 3 stone before diagnosis. No appetite.
I really despair for her and have spent a lifetime trying to help her. It used to be cider and lager now she has moved into wine and vodka and whiskey. Quite out of character. Everyday I pray for her to be stronger. I can't get help for her from doctors as they just assess her and deem her ok and an alcoholic and tell her to go to a group counciling. She needs sectioning but won't go. All I know is that I can't live her life for her and I've tried to do all I can and love her. It's a cruel sad waiting game that cannot be cured. We do not live together. Unless you live 24/7 with someone to care, support and coach them and control their every move, it is impossible to do. So how long has she got? Who knows ? Im grieving already.
My mother died from cirrhosis/liver. 3 weeks before my wedding. She knew she was going to die and she kept drinking. Your boyfriend still might have a chance but honestly not to be cold but be prepared two see him taken out in a body bag. I wasn't prepared when my mother was.
My dad found out he has cirrohsis in april. 2017. Today were taking him off life support.
I have a family member who has just been diagnosed with cirrosis of the liver but we dont know how long she has had it and she still drink like nothing is wrong
Wanted to know how you are coping after being caregiver for ill boyfriend? Hope you've found a measure of solace.
Friend now facing end stage liver disease... ascites, varices, vomiting, diarrhea, weakness, fatigue, loss of appetite, abdominal distention. Multiple hospitalizations. Hernia. Shunt. Most troubling is mental confusion.
Personality changes are significant and include anger, suicidal ideation, despair and then moments of hope and courage.
His pain is excruciating. I can hear him scream across the street. He's only 40.
Not one doctor has offered palliative or hospice care. I'm calling about help for him tomorrow.
NOTE TO ALL ON THIS THREAD: my heartfelt gratitude for your input. Your experiences have given me insight to my friend's condition. Now, help can be negotiated. My heart goes with you. Nurture peace.
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