we don't have any physical relation since 1 year. somebody suggested me to give my husband gonadil f or proxeed sachet.can you help me in saving my married life.which of these medicane shuold i give to my husband.or can you suggest any other useful medicine.
My husband is impotent, I insisted him alot to go to doctor but he keeps on refusing?
Question posted by mumtaz mashwani on 15 Oct 2011
Last updated on 6 September 2012 by Solver
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6 Answers
Solver
6 Sep 2012
Taking of Gondail f 02 caps twice a day with combination of ginsing product (Qurshi laboratries). use to serve him white onion in raw form with lunch. it will take one and half month. you will notice a drastic improvement in your hubby.
maximus99
16 Oct 2011
Opiates mess with hormones, I have had issues since being in sub. I'm off it for 10 days. Can't wait until my virility comes back.
litlmommag
16 Oct 2011
Mash my answer is take it slow like you are dating romance him tell him how ht he loks today give him a pat on his but on occasion don't expect the sex but slowly work to it. Get him interest bus do other plat full thing to incorage sex but at least stay phtsical in other ways good luck
Inactive
15 Oct 2011
If you can get him to go to a doctor, they might check his testosterone levels too. This is the male hormone that allows the man to become erect. His could be low & thus the no interest. Just an idea you might present to him, but like Thor said, don't call him impotent even tho this is a correct term, a man doesn't like to hear it. Just say "Honey< maybe you need a shot of testosterone or something to help you in the sex department." " I love you & would like to resume our marital relations." I don't know give it a try, & oh welcome to the site. You'll find you'll get lots of help here. Good luck & let us know how it goes...
Thor283
16 Oct 2011
Since I started answering this, I think I should tell you all something else about ED. I would not have expected anyone to know this, unless a man told you. Just because a man has ED, and cannot get erect, Does Not mean he has no interest. Actually that's irrelevant. He may have tons of interest, or he may have convinced himself he doesn't have an interest so he doesn't have to deal with the entire issue. So there's nothing wrong with testing for testosterone levels, but that usually isn't a cause of ED. I have a friend who met a man, and has now married him, who has ED. He can only get partially erect, not enough for penetration. She was surprised to find out that he still had a most avid interest in going to bed with her, and pleasuring her in all kinds of other ways. I think she was shocked. She called me and asked how can a man be into having any sex when he can't maintain an erection. Well, I don't quite know how.
What I do know is being able to get and stay erect has nothing to do with sexual desire. Many, if not most men with ED are still very much into getting in bed with their lady. The problem is he can't do that 1 thing that society puts so much emphasis on. But as all you ladies should know, there are many ways to send you gals to the moon and back, without an erection. And as my friend discovered, if you give him the chance, he will do it. I actually never knew this neither. But it is something I feel all women need to know, because unfortunately, as we men get older this ugly thing happens to way too many of us. And if it happens to us, it's happening to you too. So you need to know that the man with ED can still have plenty of sexual desire.
The biggest cause of ED in older men is lack of blood flow to the penis. That's why Viagra is such a success. Blood flow is the only thing Viagra helps with.
Inactive
16 Oct 2011
The reason I gave about the testoserone levels is based on my brother & yes you are right not being erect did not interfere with his lust of the opposite sex!Just frustration about not getting it up! My bro & I are close & we talk about everything folks. Don't be shocked...
Thor283
17 Oct 2011
Hi Again Mary,
I'm not shocked. Considering all the female friends & cousins I have who tell me their sexual experiences, it doesn't surprise me in the least. I just wanted to throw that out there, because before I came to know E D, I too thought the lack of an erection meant no sexual desire. But it sure doesn't. It might be better if it did, but it doesn't. The other bad thing is I was warned at 32 from older men, if I kept smoking Tobacco the odds were I'd come to know E D. They were right. And nowadays I know so many young men who continue to smoke cigs. When I tell them, it will lead to ED they laugh. I did too. But it sure isn't a laughing matter.
The other reason I threw this knowledge out there was so when women meet a man with ED, you know he still has a sexual desire. Because I had that other cousin who really thought her current husband would not want sex with her. He does, just no intercourse. And she can also still do things to him. The issue is he can't maintain the erection. But if she keeps going on him, she can still bring him to a climax. Proving where there is a will there is a way.
Sometimes I think my generation is the first one where the majority of us refuse to get old and quit enjoying the things we always did. I know there have been individuals like this before. But I think we're the first where almost all of us, are like this. But we still get ED and arthritis. However, these things need not stop us from enjoying as much as we can. I just wanted to encourage everyone with that.
Inactive
18 Oct 2011
Hey there Thor, I am the first of the Baby Boomers & I totally agree about not letting getting older do me in, in any way!
litlmommag
15 Oct 2011
Hi, i totally agree with thr. try to take it very easy and slow and think of it as the beginning of you dating {I don't know how quickly it went but} remember when you was younger and the romance was there but not the love making at least in the bedroom take your relationship back and remember why you feel in love and reming him. You need to do this tell him everyday how you love smething that he does wheather its his coffe in the morn or thank you for taking the trrash. Make his favorite meal for dinner litl suddle about it tap him n his butt say nice pants sexxy. Let him know that he is desirable even withut penatrtion that you can make love in other ways besides that. And find new ways to make each other feel good! When its took slow and easy can still be lots of fun. I can give you some other ideas of that but don't think apropriate on the sight blog pq me if you would like.
Y/f jaime ps check ut my question on viagra for women pps you are not alone he is feeling unworthy right now show him he is even withut sex and it will come back and when it does it will be worth it
Thor283
15 Oct 2011
Hi manahil jafri,
This is a very sensitive topic for most men, and I hope you can understand why. Please start by not calling it being "impotent". Call it E D or Erectile Dysfunction. You may think words are only words, but not so. Words are very powerful things, and that word impotent stings like a bee. So call it E D.
I'm not sure what those substances you mentioned are. Are they Herbs? There may be herbs that can help, I don't know. What I do know is that if his problem is a blood flow problem to his penis then Viagra should be able to help. Levitra and Cialis can probably help also. I have had Viagra and Levitra, and Viagra worked better for me. I never had Cialis yet. However, it depends on what is causing your husband's ED? This is why you need a doc. But let me ask you a few questions, and I may be able to help you figure this out.
How old is your husband? If he is a young man, it probably is not a blood flow problem. If he's young, as in under 37 or 38, the first thing to suspect is some kind of anxiety. This can have nothing to do with you. In fact in the large majority of cases E D has Nothing at all to do with the woman. I know this for a fact. So please believe me. This is not your fault.
Does he have diabetes? Does he have High Blood Pressure? Does he have Benign Prostrate Enlargement? If he has this then he would have a hard time getting a urine flow started. He would go in the bathroom to urinate and be in there up to 15 minutes, or more, just to urinate. Trust me on that too.
Does he smoke? Smoking is one of the biggest causes of ED. Does he drink alcohol? If yes how much? Alcohol in large quantities can also cause ED.
Is he very stressed out, especially at work? Does he work very long hours and come home exhausted? Being exhausted can cause even a young man to experience ED.
Can he get any part of an erection at all? In other words can he get semi erect, but not hard enough to penetrate you? That's also very common. It's also common for a man with ED to get erect while he or you is touching his penis, but as soon as you let go the erection starts to go down. Does this happen? If he is young you need to find out if he can make himself erect, and stay erect? Like I said, even a man with ED can get erect sometimes, but he will lose it before he can get into position to penetrate you.
So I am going to try and help you figure out what his problem may be, but he does need a doc. You will have to approach this in a very loving way. You need to be very compassionate and sensitive about it. If you talk in an accusatory way he will just shut you out. You have to make him understand that you love him and this problem is interfering with you demonstrating your love in a physical way to him. Also tell him you want him to get pleasure from you. Don't focus on you want pleasure from his erection. I know you do, that's just natural. But don't emphasize that. Emphasize what you would like to do to him, but can't because he can't get erect. And again, be careful which words you use. Be gentle with words.
I wait for your answers.
Inactive
16 Oct 2011
Hi I totally agree with Thor and all the other posts. Just wanted to chime in
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