I'm currently in a crushing marital separation after 28 yrs. with my wife. Am in major depression, starting Pristiq after a month of Prozac. I have tried melatonin, Tylenol and Advil PM, Benedryl and have read as many sleep related articles as I can. I took a month of Lunesta and now am taking 10m Ambien and 1m Xanax, but still sleep only 2-4 hrs. a night! Killing me!! I fear getting hooked on these drugs but gotta have some sleep! Any ideas are very appreciated, Thanx
From what I was told you are supposed to use your bed (when alone) for nothing but sleep. Do not watch t.v. in bed, read in bed or talk on the phone Go to bed at the same hour every night and get out of bed at the time. If you can't sleep get up and go to another room to watch t.v. or if you have a chair in your room you can read. With all this said if you are experiencing racing thoughts nothing can help you to feel completely numb to your circumstances. Also medication alone can cause sleepless nights. Is your doctor weaning you off of Prozac and going on Prestiq could in of itself can cause sleepness nights. I was also told to keep the room dark no night lights.
with all the meds you are taking to sleep maybe whats keeping you awake. In any event it would not hurt to get professional help as in counseling and maybe a phychiatrist. If your not maybe if you see one he will be able to get the right recipe to help your symptons. I am so sorry for your situation and and I will pray that the emotional pain that is eating you apart. Good Luck God Bless Hope this helps a little.
With all of the regular sleep-aids (e.g., Lunesta, Ambien, etc.), I have found that they tend to work for around a week or so... then they just stop. More importantly, I definitely think that you should consider talking to your doctor (or simply researching some info.) about using Xanax to help you go to sleep. As far as using benzodiazepines for sleep, Xanax is by far one of the the worst choices; it has one of the shortest half-lives of the entire group of BZDs (i.e., 4-6 hours... probably why you are waking-up after 2-4 hours) and have an extremely high potential to leading to dependency, even on dosages as small as 1mg per day (and it is associated with some very serious w/d effects--seizures being the most severe).
If you find that the Xanax works for you, my suggestion of a drug within the same family would be either temazepam (Restoril) or triazolam (Halcion)... diazepam (Valium) may even be worth a try as well, but its half-life is very-long comparatively and thus may cause some morning (lingering) drowsiness. Lastly, if you want to stay-clear of any potentially addictive substances, then the best choices I know of are probably Remeron (already mentioned above) and Trazadone (which I found to be the most effective by far... it is an 'old' anti-depressant that is primarily prescribed for insomnia nowadays... it will knock you out, and if you don't take too much, there is very little chance of any 'hangover-effect' such as the feeling I experienced after taking Ambien, Lunesta, and the 5-7 other sleep-aids I have tried). Furthermore, it never lost its effectiveness over the 3 months that I took it (and I did not have to taper-off of it to discontinue my use... there are no potential w/d effects of discontinuing it abruptly). Lastly, it's super-cheap (like 8 cents a pill).
Oh! I just remembered one more that actually worked pretty well for me at a different time: Seroquel. No morning drowsiness, and no unpleasant side-effects... so you may wish to look into that as well...
Hope this can be of some help, and I wish you the best of luck in resolving this issue!
i went through the same thing when my marriage ended after 20 years, it seemed i had no need for sleep at all, i got so depressed i went tu the er, and asked for help. i went tu mental health and they gave me anti depressant, lorazepam, for anxiety. i believe that the lorazepam helped me tu relax enough tu get a few hours of sleep, i also started working out and walking at least 2 times a day i couldnt even watch tv because something would be on to remind me, as time went by (months) i lost so much weight that i was having tu go for blood test every week tu watch for dehydration even though i drank water like going out of style.give yourself time tu heal and yu might discuss using the anxiety drug also. try not to worry about how much sleep your getting dont fight it if you find youself wide awake so be it. clean house anything work puzzals or try reading a book. and yes a hot bath.
the pain yu feel is very real, yu are not alone. have you tried counseling? at least find someone yu can talk their ear off. it really helps, even if its someone from here.. good luck, i promise it does get better in time...
i had the same problem have tried everything and then my neurologist gave me elavil for migraines,and it not only worked on the migrains but i have been getting great sleep..you should talk to your dr about something like this.i also take klonipin and ativan neither one of them helped me for sleep either..the elavil was a life saver
Thanks guys for all the tips! Keep 'em coming, I'm desperate for help. Last nite I wanted to try it without the drugs, so I took warm shower, Cammomile tea and Nyquil. Went to bed at 10:00. At 1:00 still awake, took the Ambien and slept very lightly for awhile, but back awake after just a couple hours. Very frustrating!
hey buddy i had the same problem for a long time. i could take an abien.or klonipin everything you would think would make me sleepy but nothing worked..i ran across this medicine for migraines, iit a trycyclic antidepressant called elavil.i have been takeing it for 2 months and been sleeping like a baby..i couldnt believe something like that could make me sleep so well.. good luck
you sound just like me i have tried everything but nothing was working,i took evrything you could think of for sleep.then i talked to my neurologist about and he gave me elavil,and every since i have been sleeping like a baby.and it works great for my depression,so talk to your doc about it.i did not think it would help either but man what a difference. good luck
I can safely say I know how you feel I am on pain medicine not alot, I can not sleep I am on ambien and tranzadone and still have trouble falling asleep then get only 1 hr here an hour there when the morn comes I only get total of 3-4 hours sleep its killing me I need sleep how long can someone go with out sleep? I have also tried lunesta rozerem and nothing helps also vitamins melatonin promote sleep nothin can;t take it anymore let me know if you find anything that helps lots of luck
yea i am having the same problem minus the divorce.but like you i have tried everything melatonin,lunesta,ambien,klonipin,ativan,benadryl.ive tried everything.and then last night i came across something that worked really well. a while back i was prescribed a babituate for migrains, i only had one left so i split it in half i went to bed about 9pm and woke up at 5;30 so i finally got a nights sleep and only woke up twice but weny right back to sleep.so i will try it again tonight and man if it keeps working i am calling my neurologist and get more..it is called fiorcet.so if you cant find anything to work talk to your doc about this.he should go for it if he really wants to help.well i wish you luck
I have been there and understand. My wife left me and I waited fifteen years for her to come back. She didn't and I spent all that time fooling my self.
They leave because they don't love you anymore. I had two Brake down because of her, I hurt so bad, there are no word to tell how much you hurt.
Don't do the kill yourself thing, because you will hurt all the other who care deeply for you. I would like to ask you to turn to God, but I won't preach.
He did not cause the problem, your wife did. I know it's like a death in the family. The deep, deep hurt. The one you think you will never get past. I can tell you, you can get passed this. Don't drink over her, alcohol is a depressant and will only make things worse.
You did not leave, she did. You did the right thing, you wanted to stay together, she didn't. You did right, she didn't. You can still love her, but move on. If by chance she wants to come back, have some rules so she can't hurt you again. When you go to bed, go with a clean heart.
Forgive her, clean up any hate or hard feelings. It does not help to think bad about her. Go to sleep not hating will help you rest. I know it hurts and will be the hardest thing to deal with. Don't feel bad, you left the door open and she left you. You could do no more, you did your best.
dude i hate to bring you down but i have been suffering like you for years.hence i am up now.anyway i have tried everything ,xanax,ambien,restoril,ativan,melatonin,ambien,lunesta,every antidepressant you can think of.every med you can think of.i feel like shit constantly.but i have just been trying to learn to deal with it.but i must say it is killing me,i am constantly having moodswings,dont want to be around anyone,gained about 20 pounds i am a mess.but anyway i hope that you find something that helps you. i would not wish this hell on my worst enemy.it feels like a constant bad dream.but hey what can i do,ive seen dr after doctor but there is nothing that has helped..but i will put you in my prayers and i truelly hope that you find a soulution..and if you do please let me know i still hold out some hope.and sorry if i come off a little crazy,but thats what it does to you when you are worn out all the time..good luck
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