I'm currently in a crushing marital separation after 28 yrs. with my wife. Am in major depression, starting Pristiq after a month of Prozac. I have tried melatonin, Tylenol and Advil PM, Benedryl and have read as many sleep related articles as I can. I took a month of Lunesta and now am taking 10m Ambien and 1m Xanax, but still sleep only 2-4 hrs. a night! Killing me!! I fear getting hooked on these drugs but gotta have some sleep! Any ideas are very appreciated, Thanx
Dying for sleep, but getting no relief! HELP!?
Question posted by lewie62 on 20 Feb 2010
Last updated on 7 May 2023
I had trouble sleeping for 8 weeks post knee surgery. I took Trazodone at 50 mg. I was able to sleep.
I know you mention lots of sleep aids, but i'm going to share with you some and some ways that i get a full 8 hours sleep. I do take an ssri and Klonopin in morning and one at 5pm.
First I start slowing myself down about 830pm, (I always go to bed at ten, no matter what! they say it's the best thing to do, go to bed at certain time of night). I change into my pajamas and take my Lunesta, 2mg. Then I hang out, read, use computer for simple entertainment. Brush my teeth and all. Then I take a Belsomra 20mg, Trazodone 150 mg and zanaflex: a muscle relaxer with a side effect of being tired!. And a natural supplement with Melatonin, Gaba, lemon balm and chamomile and lavender and valerian root. Get right into bed, expecially with the Trazodone, who has a 15 min window to sleep.
Don't rely on any Benadryl based sleep aides as some people it works the opposite on. Ambien is a little more like a help to fall asleep but not stay asleep. I hope this helps and you can snooze well.! I know it's 12 years that you get my answer, but that's cuz i just joined this group and hope youre still able to read older messages!
After my husband died from the 9-11 attacks, i slept no more than 3 hours. Here I am in 2022 after NO DR could put me to sleep with all the sleep meds provided by science. I am a master's in science. So, here's what I did. I am taking 400 mg of trazodone, cut down Klonopin to 1 mg, Topamax 100 mg. and that's it from the doctor. Mind you that gives me 3 hours of sleep for 31 or so years. uh huh. So, I have added extended relief Melatonin, finding the correct dosage at 20mg. you must bear in mind it must contain Vitamin B6 in order to open the blood vessels. The prescription medicines close down the blood vessels, so you have a constricted flow of blood. This in fact, slows the medications' ability to flow through the brain and the ability for your serotonin levels to stay consistent so you can happily sleep the night away! Good luck! Remember to start Melatonin at 5 mg first (extended release) (if it is a under the tounge kind, swallow it whole), everyone's body is different.
I've read through the posts from your question. Most of the answers are about what kinds of meds to take to get some sleep. A few people mentioned alternative ways.
I have trouble sleeping, too. When l can think of someone else's situation, I start generating ideas.
Spouse is no longer in the master bedroom: remove ALL their things; remove anything that reminds you of him/her; thoroughly clean the room and what is left.
This is your room...
Depending on what furniture you kept in you room because you like it, you may need to visit the other rooms of the house and switch out for some pieces of furniture you like. Or is it time to go shopping, only if you can do so without going into debt. Remember second hand stores, garage sells, and hand me downs? Let your family and friends know what items to be looking for.
Rearrange the bed room. Clean the bed room. If you decide to keep everything. Move it and clean it. Okay you don't want to move it and someone cleans for you. Clean it anyway. This process does something to us. At this point, it is what time? And how many drugs ago? Stop. Get up, find several rags, dish clothes, washcloth, good ones, old ones, that's not going to stop us. Find cleaners. Can't? Mix water and a little baking soda. Wipe on with wet clothe, wipe off with Dry clothe.
Do the whole room. Even if you think you are getting tired. Start at the top work down. Ceiling fans, use a safe ladder. Cob webs in corners, use a broom with a towel wrapped around it. Safety is always first. If you have no way of reaching the ceiling safely, skip it.
The whole room. If you think you are ready to sleep when you are done, put your equipment away and go to sleep. Getting up at your normal.
Not ready to sleep? Move to the next room. Bathroom. If you haven't, remove all things that are not yours, then remove everything that reminds you of the other person.
Clean! Take everything out of the draws and wipe them down. Start at the top, work down, be safe.
Morning comes and you didn't sleep? You were productive. You have rooms that are clean. You did not spend the night thinking badly about yourself, not being able to sleep, why you are in this situation, and how not sleeping was going to adversely affect you tomorrow.
No naps. Walk, move around as necessary to stay awake. Stay away from caffeine, especially after three pm. Go to bed at your regular time. If you can't sleep or if you wake up and can't fall back asleep, repeat the above.
If you have children that may want the items you are moving out of your space. Depending on the item and how you feel about it, it could in a spare room. Some items could go into the child's room. Attics.
Children are not attached, sell it, donate it, give it away.
I have problems sleeping as well dr put me on Ativan and has worked well for me. it will also help to alleviate some of the anxiety and stress you are feeling. I too went through a divorce I know it feels like your heart was ripped out of your chest but I promise after some time your wounds will heal. I have you in my prayers as well, I have also taken trazadone by itself it didn't work but with 1 mg of Ativan I slept like a baby hope this helps.
First, I am so sorry that you are going through such a difficult time - take it day by day, and know and believe (have Faith) that things will get better! Are you working with a counselor? If not, that could really help you to process some of the things you are working through... As far as the meds, you may want to talk with you doctor about possible alternatives to Pristiq. The reason I say this is that Pristiq is a little different that some other antidepressant/anti-anxiety meds in that it is almost impossible to get off it (or switch to another medication). They call it "discontinuation symptoms" - but it is really pretty awful and almost intolerable to to get off of this medication (should you ever wish to somewhere down the road). Not sure if you feel that the Pristiq is causing sleep problems - I know it did for me, and I was put on Xanax as well.
Realized late last year that after 2 years of being on these drugs, that it was having an affect on my health (and personality)... I was thankfully able to get off of Xanax and am now working with a holistic MD to help balance my body and hopefully be able to decrease my Pristiq dosage from 100mg to 50mg.
I have been taking something called "Sleep" that I found from a place out in CA called Point of Return. You may want to look them up (or even give them a call). They also have a natural supplement called "Relax" that works really well. I have found how important it is that we become our own health advocates - and look for solutions to the underlying issues and treat the whole picture/person. The pharmacy meds usually just treat the symptoms - and most times end up causing more side effects (which require more medications)!
I hope this helps to some degree... take good care and God Bless!
PS) you may want to try exercise too - I just take daily walks with my dog and I find it to really help with stress relief...
I must say, I have found Seroquel very beneficial at a dose of 12.5- 25 mg. I know its label as an antipsychotic can be offputting, but at a low dose it apparently is basically an antihistamine, I've found it very beneficial in getting a good 8 hours sleep.
Since you are already on Xanax which is a benzodiazepam, the ambien or lunesta will not be of much help as they are not exactly benzos. but they fall into that same category somehow. I have been having major insomnia issues too recently after a sudden medical diagnoses. It took a second neurologist and weeks of no luck with lunesta and ambien on top of klonopin, a benzodiazepam, to explain this to me. She prescribed trazodone..sleeping like a baby now. It is so strong for me, I found out the first night not to take it until I was ready to get into bed..not brush my teeth..literally in bed. Call your dr. Ask for it.nothing worse than physical or emotional pain made worse by lack of sleep.I just noticed your question was 3 yrs old after this answer. Hope the poster is much better and I helped someone! :)
Hi lewie. Sheesh! I have the same problem with sleep. Have you tried Klonopin and increase Ambien? I couldn't sleep when I was on vacation, so I tried two Ambien, and I slept for 8 hours. You need to ask your doc about that. We both need to find out if we can take two Ambien. Klonopin is much better, in my pea brain opinion, than Xanax. Believe it or not, it's stronger and doesn't give me the sleepy affect. Talk to you doc about any med I might suggest. I'm not a professional. Just a person with the same problem. Our other friends will probably help you more. I wish I could do more for you. All I can tell you is that I understand. How can we function without 6-8 hrs of sleep? The Amen Clinic says that we all need 8 hrs. of sleep. Nothing less. Dream on, Dr. Amen.
God bless you, my friend lewie.
i have had chronic depression all my life. went to dr. after dr.finally found
one thathas made a coctail of meds for me and have been depression free for
at least 7 yrs.i also have add for which i take resperital for.i am on 7 kinds
of meds.affexer,abilify,2meds not for depression,nexium for girds,and a blood
pressure pill.also resperital. these are my day meds. for sleep i take trazodone,
130mg hr of sleep and also klonapin 2mg at hr of sleep.
now these are pretty heavy drugs for somone who is just looking for sleep,but
i have worked my way up for these doses.
trazodone is wonderful for sleep. you must ask your dr.about all of this.
xanax? i thought it was taken off the marget for being so addictive?
there are other trangs, i like klonopin myself.
of course anything one takes is going to be addictive. i have even taken
melatonin with my trazodone before, it worked for a while,then one gets used to it.well my friend,it sounds to me your depression is very new,it is tough
going through divorce,i have been through 2,but back then i did not realize
i had clinical depression. my divorce and having a son with a breakdown,
made mine comeforth with a bang.listen, i could go on and on,sorry i did
so. but u need to sleep!!! it can bring on a psycotic break if u don't.
ask your dr. to try a small dose of trazodone and increase as needed.
i sincerley hope that i have given u some food for thought.
i would love to hear from u how u are doing? mully123
I was having the same issue, but the doctor told me to take the 20 milligrams of prozac at night instead of the morning. At first I thought that would only make it worse. It helped completely. Maybe you could try a new one. I don't think lexapro ever made me not sleep at night.
It could be that one or some of the meds could have an adverse reaction in your body, remember everyone has a different body chemistry. I had the same problem, I took Xanax, then Ambien it had a reverse reaction I was wide awake. My psych put me on Klonopin which in my case works longer then the Xanax, I then was switched to Restoril 30mg I will stay asleep for at least 6 hours. I also have a relaxation CD and Yoga, it helps me put my mind OFF the negative bench. Talk to your doctor, everyone is different and sometimes it will take some time to find the right combination that works for you. I hope you will soon recover from this and I wish you all the best, hang in there it will get better every day is a new day.
I was on prestiq but quit cold turkey. When I was on it I couldn't sleep either. Doing yard work and working helped me sleep easier. Good luck.
I was hoping to get some good answers but it all seems the same I went for 114 days of insomnia I would sleep for about 3 hrs and be wide awake eventually my body was so wore out I had no energy at all then my brain started to play tricks on me it was awful I tried Ambien, Lunesta, wine hot baths every thing imaginable finally I just came out of it and now sleep for 5 hrs a night I wish I could get more but I'll take it, I've quit driving tho because my reaction time seems to be slowed and at one point I had to pull over because I forgot where I was and how to get home also couldn't remember how to use my cell to call for help talk about a severe panic attack that was a doosy so I just don't drive. Maybe at some point they'll find something to knock me out other than a ball bat ;)
I was born an insomniac. First got relief from Dalmane so I could keep a job. Then depression hit me for a much different reason (insomnia contributing). I was given amitriptyline Asendin and slept thru every night for years. After a later depression case I was given Mirtazapine again sleeping so well, with occasional small Ativan added. Good luck Friend.
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