This is why I hate doctors... in my area, they are jerks and care only about themselves and their career... here it is..
The other night, I couldn't sleep. i knew I had a UTI and felt terrible, but dealt with it because I don't trust doctors. Sometimes I can treat it myself with homeopathic remedies and I'm ok,,, but after another sleepless night, I got up around 2 in the morning and felt so dizzy I passed out cold on my kitchen floor. When I came too, my husband was looking over me scared to death, I don't know what happened, but I felt like my BP was skyhigh, so he got scared and called the Ambulance {mistake #!} they came out, and saw I could walk and was alert, so they asked if I wanted to go to the hospital, and my husband convinced me to go. So, I got in the Ambulance feeling very emabressed, and they treated me very badly and told me that I was keeping them from more important duties, I felt like I could've jumped out and walked home. I felt so bad I even apoligized, because I diddn't know what else to say. and I hadn't slept in 2 days. So, I get to the hospital and was greeted by actually a very nice nurse, who was compationate and actually cared.
So, after and urine sample and a bp check {was 184/104} and a 2 hour wait. The doctor came in calling me by my last name, I knew that wasn't good. He said I would not have died from my HBP today, but I would eventually and that wasn't a reason to be there.and then he asked what the problem was and I told him, when he saw I came in by ambulance, he proceeded to tell me that I was a bad person, that someone could have died because I took an ambulance, and that an ambulance ride costs 600$, and then he told me that people die every day because of someone like me and I was "taxing the system", When he left I cried so hard that when the nurse came in, she couldn't understand what I was saying. When I finally got it out, she was understanding and said what he said was horrible and she wrote down in my chart what he had said to me and gave me a number to call to complain, when I told my husband and when he picked me up what happened, he immediatly called that person to complain, after he told her she said,"oh no, not again". So, I hope he got in trouble. I hope I recieve something in the mail for a law suit against him or something but I don't think I would get that lucky. I already don't trust dr anyway, and this confirmed my feelings. I have many diagnosis and I haven't been to my dr for a while because I dont trust any one I have even had. My Grandfather was the lead medical director and an MD at that hospital for 55 years. If he was still alive that dr would've been fired on the spot... so there it is, sorry so long, sometimes I think about it and cry, where is the compassion? What about the hippocratic oath? Its all lost now adays... something needs to be done.. thanks for reading... PS~when I left my BP was 202/126... I left anyway!
This is why I hate doctors... my horrible story?
Question posted by chronicpainhurts on 20 March 2010
Last updated on 6 July 2022
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I feel for you. I too am terrified of doctors and being ill, and this convid medical tyranny and dystopia has made things much worse. I think the best way forward is to try and live as well as possible and to somehow detach from this horrendous system that is all about money these days, rather than healing. Hard to trust the medical establishment now and somewhat scary to not know who or where to turn when you're ill. Hopefully some sort of parallel society will evolve and we can move away from the squalidness of what we have on offer now. Stay strong.
I have been through the same thing multiple times. I pass out too. Your story sounds like I just read about my life and experiences. I’m going through hell now and feel like I should just give up. I have had some great doctors and so many horrible ones. I was misdiagnosed for half my life. Now, I was stable and healthy my whole team left and the new people pushed me off and closed my case with reasons that were not facts and now, I ran out of meds and can’t find another doctor anywhere. Since, covid (I’m on the East coast where it hit the worst) no one is taking new pts or insurance. I told them I would pay out of pocket and drive two hours & still nothing.
I really hope that you can find relief from your situation. I was in the medical field. You could have had a stroke with you BP so high. I don’t understand people in general anymore. I wish you the best.
Muse
OMG, I agree totally with both of you! Compassionate Care is something of the past. Have you ever noticed that every Doctors Office, Clinic, etc. Tells you how much they care for you in advertisements? If the were, they wouldnt have to tell you. My son in law, who has passed, but we had so many bad issues with him. EMT's once let him walk to the ambulance while in CHF and BP 206/147. They told him they could give him a ride with he wanted. He stumbled but did not fall in the truck. My Mom had a major stroke, taken to the hospital, I knew it was an end stage thing, I asked if she was being monitored, they said no, I asked if she was getting fluids, again they said no.
I asked so are you just going to check on her every 8 hours to see if shes dead yet? I had Actinic Chilitis (skin cancer) on my lips, went to dermatologist, got the 1 minute visit, tells me to use a cream, my lips got really bad, after 6 visits I have destruction of my skin because they dropped the ball. Chronic back pain for years and years. After how many doctors and tests, the only thing that they can still offer me is drugs. Pain pills are hard on your body and can destroy healthy organs. I take the pain. I am trying to bring matter like this to the front and to the general public, its a tough battle.
You are not behaving in reality if you expect compassion from today's health care providers. My blood pressure is at least 20 points less before going into certain health care providers offices. I went in for a colonoscopy recently after having changed insurers 6 months prior, notifying the office that the procedure required preapproval according to my ins handbook, yet upon arrival they had the old ins, had not requested preapproval. When I reminded them I had been checking with them over the past 6 months and they assured me they had changed the insurance and gotten all the preaporovals, they said you must have been talking to downstairs. I responded, don't you people talk to each other? While I was polite and seemingly calm on the exterior, I was totally enraged with the incompetence. They called the insurer, then called me in to speak with them and the insurer reassured me that I did not need preapproval unless their ins was my primary, which it was not.
That was cleared up but by this time my blood pressure was 200/101 and too high to perform the procedure. I was sent home. They insisted I go to emergency room. I went home instead and meditated and got my pressure down. It was reported to my referring physician who followed up and wanted to put me on a 4th hypertensive Rx. I already take 3, all which have serious side effects and I have a family hx of my mother developing Steven Johnson syndrome and dying from sepsis as a result of poly pharmacy... which is always in the back of my mind. I delayed filling the called in Rx untill I could discuss my concerns and side effects of extreme dizziness with the doctor who walked out and would not discuss it with me because I had not filled the Rx and started taking it without discussion.
I totally agree with you!! I am 66yo ret. Nurse. The demize of our medical system sickens me! I was totally dedicated to my patients and went into nursing to make a difference! We in this nation are in terrible situation! I personally battle lymphedema and osteoarthritis. I am overweight but also full of fluid. The blatant stupidity of doctors I have seen astounds me and the lack of compassion and respect leaves me wishing to live in the 60s and 70s again. We are all in trouble as baby boomers reach old age! Enormous change is needed in medical schools and training is so lacking. I pray daily for a miracle in a society that has no knowledge of "hands on care" ! You are not alone in your struggle!! I care and many others care! God bless you and hold on to the hope that will be a change!
As horrible as your experience was it seems you forget to take care of yourself . With blood pressure that high. your only concern should be controlling your blood pressure not weather someone is behaving like a horses hindquarter.
You are not alone about your feelings. I have to go my see my "cardo" for a check up.
three years ago I had an EKG and was told I had afib. Not to worry about it as it was less then one percent. During easter of 2017 I began feel sluggish and had trouble breathing and chest pains.
My PCP checked me and said no problems. I did a follow up with my "cardo" and no problems.
In may of 2017 I could not sleep, eat solid foods and began to feel weaken. I went to the local "Urgent Care" where I was told I was having heart problems and go see my PCP. The "Urgent Care" doc gave me Eliquist to prevent a stroke. When I saw my PCP he said I had a 20% chance of having a heart attack with the next ten years. He could treat me but I needed more tests. I left and went to my "Cardo" . The nurse practioner listened to my problem and said the "Cardo" will get back to me. He never did.
Four days later I went back to "Urgent Care"
where an x-ray revealed I have fluid in my lungs, chest pains and heart failure. When I went to the ER I was told to come back for more tests. When I mentioned the chest pains, they admitted me.
I spent four days getting my strength back and lungs pumped out. I have yet to receive a report of my condition as of today. I have no faith in any of my doctors except those at the "Urgent Care" who i can say "saved my life". My advise is find another doctor as I will be doing.
I am so very sorry to hear of your very bad experience with doctors.
If it is any consolation, the problem is worldwide and I hate the doctors whom deliberately euthanased my young sister because she was ill.
I will never set foot inside a clinic ever again.
I am a qualified homoeopathic practitioner and I can take care of myself.
I just wanted to let you know that you are not alone HATING doctors. I personally don't trust them any more.
Is your practice anywhere near Bristol? Do you have a website?
I'll never go to ER again. Ever. Always a bad experience. Especially if they find out you have Fibromyalgia & CFS.
Btw in the ER I have been treated that way and recently I was in the hospital. I felt like a prisoner. I have never been homicidal until I went to that hell hole... still getting medical bills from them. I am not paying... they can try suing me I have lawyers in mind... my insurance didn't pay $160,000. Out Of the much higher unnecessary bills and stay and told me I am not responsible for any of the unpaid bill's... so yes, as I was in the field. I know they over bill and fill beds if beds aren't full they don't get paid but I was never treated so poorly I needed my soma they wouldn't five it to me I made them call code Grey I took down two security guards I was knocked out felt no pain but I have make a seen to be out of pain its not right its medical malpractice I kept a journal of dates times and the person if needed there's more to it phones dying lol chat soon take cat we all
I had a doctor I trusted fully for years. Then, something changed I felt he no longer cared as if he gave up on me. In 2006 I was injured badly in massage school. He sent me for x-ray and that was it . He prescribed me soma and anti-inflammatory. I would go back again and again. He told me "there was nothing else we can do, soma is working. Live with it." So, I stayed away as much as possible. Got second opinion, and more tests. Holistic approaches worked but, money didn't. I told him about chiropractor /physical therapy worked wonders with the soma. He didn't want to hear it didn't even want to read the assessment from the chiropractor... a year later he fired me for no real reason. After, being my doctor for over 13years... for the best but, just like you I don't trust doctors. I have a great. PD. If she ever fires me I won't go to another one she has once over a misunderstanding.
She is the best the only one who I can be fully honest with and trust not send to hospital for stupid things like others... There are doctors out there for me, getting a new pcp to understand me&treat me as a person while treating me is why I haven't looked for a new doc yet. I guess it's a way to protect myself from feeling hopeless again. I also have to take in consideration all doctors are different and just try instead of suffer. I already have my guard up lol... I hope you can find someone who you trust. I have PTSD I don't trust male doctors too much and have been diagnosed with some stuff at 19-24 gyn stuff have to drug me to go...
JUST keep trying and I will take my own advise!
Hey, I know this happened a few years ago to you. But, especially with rescue on a friday or the weekend (our EMT's are the most amazing people and they will make a call for you if you ask them to even if you drive up to the station. I trust there judgement more than a lot of ER docs a lot) I totally have been through the same things myself and with my uncle whom has CP and was exposed to hydrogen sulfide and each time we have to tell him why he is coming in with a head ache that he just cannot sleep with or that he just needs to be sure he ISNT having a stroke because he has had a small one from what is in his system. I know how horrible some of them have become. I really think over the past 5 years was really when they started to change too. Our economy effected their lives and their staff and practice insurance.
I however think the first event of reports like that they need to require psych visits for them to check out how they are doing and check for god complex or stress signs... and from there create a class for all the bad doctors and nurses to go to for their bed manners or etiquette!
That's terrible and you shouldn't only report him but the EMT's who were so rude to you as well. There's no excuse for how they treated you and they're very much in the wrong profession. You and your husband did the right thing and I hope if you're ever in that situation again you won't let them "bully" you into not getting the help you need... that's how people die!
I was diagnosed with severe osteoarthritis in spine and shoulders. Surgeon operated then never saw me again. Sent his physician's assistant every time. The pa commented that I should be happy that I didn't have something worse. No kidding. Progressive joint degeneration and cripple hood. Ok I'm grateful. And he's an a.. Too many experiences with the medical profession to express my disgust. These jerks make a good living and they hurt people with immunity on a daily basis.
I hate dr's also, they called me names and ridiculed me when i was having a hard time on chemo. my stomache was holding on to liquid and they said i was fat, which im not. my bp was 200/135 had to deal with that, i made a complaint and they black listed me from kaiser permanente they would not treat it and say everything is in my head, so had to go to the emergency room to get help, the dr's there were like omg. DR's are evil in my opinion, i use to trust them i do not anymore. it was very bad and i had a breakdown cause of it. Try doing chemo and the dr's tell you its all in your head you need an anti psychotic, it was insane. twilight zone music, took my gf with me and she didn
t even believe it. She was like wtf was that, all i can say is this is how they treat me so had to cancel the insurance now i have no insurance and my health is getting bad. one foot in the grave and one out. you can't sue kaiser either you sign a paper when you get it through your employer not only that they made me get the insurance which i found odd. Something bad is going to happen someday they will piss off the wrong person and they will go postal, you can bet on it.
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