I use to love having sex a lot now can't even "express, happiness" anyone know how to fix this. All quotes opinions and thoughts are welcome and much ablidged! Jaime}litlmommag
Is there a viagra for women?
Question posted by litlmommag on 30 Sep 2011
Last updated on 18 July 2013
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25 Answers Page 2
crazed50
13 Oct 2011
Dearest Colby..I think u r more of man for admitting ur problem..to me it makes u more sensative kind hearted and a well rounded real man..dont know if ur married..if u r ur wife is a very lucky women..if single..ur just the kind of man every women wants ..dont know if we've talked with each other or not..but i would really like to get to know u better..maybe u can give me some advice on my grubby A of a husband... well just wanted u to know..if any men read about ur problem and think ur a wimp..its not true..they're the wimps..cause honey ur a real man and thats rare..and very special... really nice to here there is at least one out there... sincerely C50
LiverLips
12 Oct 2011
Dear Coby, bless you! One of the best things that you can do when suffering from depression is to try to communicate & express your thoughts & feelings & emotions & what's going on inside your head. It's extremely frustrating when your partner doesn't share any of that; they sometimes may start to feel excluded & unappreciated & sometimes even unloved.
My ex-husband had severe depression & most times he couldn't even look at me, let alone talk or be physical. The physical part of our relationship seemed to hurt him & give him pain & make him physically sick, yes, sick to his stomach! How do you think that made me feel? It was a very cold & austere period for both of us. It was also quite a learning experience for me.
jaime, perhaps instead of trying for the actual act, just start little & consider it as foreplay. Hugging & touching & kissing is so great in my books! Just to have that warm human contact, skin on skin, could give you a major boost. No pressure, let things flow...
My Dave & I have a severely reduced sex life presently. (I have a reduced life period! LOL) So, sometimes other things have to be substituted instead. Enjoying the person you're with & talking & touching & laughing is so very, very sexy to me! Dave looks at me, right at me, and my face, looks deep into my eyes, with his sexy stare, as if he's looking right into me, into my body... Small, simple gestures like that could be considered as part of my lovemaking experience right now.
Feel the warmth, the human contact, the closeness. Sit close & next to each other, touching. Ask your partner what he'd like, what does he miss? It's a time for compromise & perhaps looking outside the box. What did you like to do when you were brand new lovers with each other? Perhaps timid, exploring? Time to explore now & try different methods. Perhaps rent an explicit movie one night; have a warm bubble bath; relax with a sensual massage; share a romantic novel; act out a fantasy. Try to figure out something that you'd both benefit from & enjoy. If it doesn't work, then on to the next... & then the next...
Thank you both, Coby & jaime! Great question jaime! Good luck!
from Wendy :)
litlmommag
13 Oct 2011
Coby and liverlips and all the other responses I'm sorry but children stopped me in the middle of typing and my mind went blank I do agree with everyone. It isn't that I don't have a wonderful love life cause I do but when a women tells her doc that she can't hit hieghts like she should the dr is like well maybe you just need to not be bored. They act like women can't have the same prob as men cause the differnce in equipment. I don't think a man or women should be embaressed or feel inadequate in their relationship from this problem. And I know their is other satisfaction found in trying to achieve and making each other fufilled. But personally I am 35 yrs old suppose to be at my prime and I don't wanna miss a thing. But honstly since I turned 30 I have had a huge decline in libido and hieghtened climax. I miss the climax...
a lot!! when you go from climbing mt st hellen to not climbing ant hills it really puts a damper on your thoughts of if your spouse can enjoy it as much as you'd like them to or think your faking it. I know this isn't a subject people like to talk about in a public forum but I do appreciate everyone who responded to this. And for the man I do believe you are not alone in any way. And I'm sure any women would be glad to discover how to motivate you in the same ways our husband do us. There is a reason you see ads on tv constantly of viagra and other male enhancements. For some reason people think for a women she may be doing something wrong. In my opinion those are the people who need a book on improving their sex lives. People like us are honest in what we know is how we can be and want it back. Sorry so long and drawed out! Hope I don't get banned for inappropreate comments lol. Thank yoou everyone! Your friend jaime }litlmommag
Coby416
11 Oct 2011
jaime, I have read all the replies and from a male perspective I hate to admit it, I feel very similar. This is very embarassing to say. Oh maybe I could take a viagra but I have yet to even think about that. I think over the years taking the pain meds my testostorone level must have dropped. Taking the suboxone strips under the tongue every day is depressing. The suboxone might take away the physical withdrawals, but I am still depressed because I have to take the strips not to be sick. I suppose I am depressed because I got my self in this position to begin with. My desire level is zero, I do not even think about engaging, afraid I will not be able to perform. I am sure men might view me as a wimp or something less then a real man but right now but I just do not care. My mission is to get off the suboxone, then to take the tests to check my testostorone levels and deal with it.
Besides what kind of a relationship would it be if I said I have to take a pill ( viagra) in order for me to make love? At the end of the day, I think once I am happy with me, the direction I am taking and free of all the pills, I bet my life, my desire, my fears will all be different.
I am sure even people that have not had a dependancy problem when they reach a certain age also go through a down time in this area. It passes from what I have heard. Sometimes they do need to spice things up. I know there have been studies that show a reduction in testostorone over long use of opiates. Once I am back and free from the mental anguish I am suffering from, excercising regualry and again proud of me, my desire hopefully will improve/return. The spark will re-appear. If I have to I will look into, as I said, the medical side and possible testostorone patches. Viagra will not be in my future until I am 90.
I guess what I am saying, you are not alone and as we all learn from this our collective experiences can help each other. It is possible I am also the only male that feels this way and if that is the case, I'd be surprised. The bottom line is depression, suboxone, opiates et all; Effect both male and female.
You are not alone. I think I already regret being so open but I say this in hopes that if there are others they too can know they are not alone in this area.
I hope you find your solution soon but if you do not, dont keep worrying about it, in time I am certain it will change. Our minds and bodies are going through a lot of repair, it will take time, just like our urges for a pill.
All my best to you
Coby
Inactive
15 Oct 2011
This is very true. My borther had his testosterone checked & now gets injections for it. He cannot take viagra for men because of congestive heart failure, & the injections are working for him at 70. Hormones do play a big part in our sexualityl. I had a hysterectomy at 22 & got hormone shots & wow is all I can say, but as I have aged don't find the need as much plus I got phlebitis about 3 times from the shots. Have your hormones checked & your thyroid levels too. Good answer Coby...
crazed50
9 Oct 2011
Some of the questions on here mirror my life so its freaky..i have this problem too..been thinking about having hormone levels checked out..i here that helps lots of things..like weight ,energy, sex life..sleep.gonna check it out so let u know if its worth the effort..best wishes..litlm..take care..C50
genericaid
9 Oct 2011
Women should not take regular Viagra, because it is created for men's use only. There is a medicine called Female Viagra - the first Sildenafil in the world for ladies fulfills their secret intimate desires: enhances libido or even returns need of sex drive, enhances stages of excitement throughout foreplay, advantages blood flow and engorgement of the clitoris, amplifies sexual feeling and brings more regular interest in, and pleasure of sex.
rvnew
28 Nov 2011
I did some research on this subject and Viagra has been prescribed for over 150,000 women. Like I said in my response both male and female need adequate blood flow to the genital areas for orgasm. Viagra does that for men and women both. I tried it and it worked. You are right about their being a Viagra for women. However, Viagra is a brand name so technically there is not a "Viagra" for women but as far as the meaning associated with Viagra, there is a drug that works for women the same way Viagra works for men. As you said it's called sildenafil which is not a brand name. Sildenafil is an in-gredient in Viagra so it's basically the same medication. Now, according to what I read it works for people like many of us who are on antidepressants and can't orgasm but have the desire for sex. It will not work to help people who for psychological reasons don't have an interest or desire for sex. I just googled sildenafil so anybody else who's interested just check it out for yourself.
angelalf
7 Aug 2012
Thank you thank you thank you for the answer to the question I've been looking for since I've been on this new medication. Do most insurances cover this medicine? Do you need a specialist? is this medicine expensive?
Jennyalis
3 Oct 2011
Jaime... your illness at present is causing a lot of unwelcome physical effects. Your disinterest in sex is most likely due to this. If you are not feeling good, you are tired, dizzy, unbalanced, numb... how do you expect to have amorous feelings. Your private parts do become numb also. This disease can effect every part of our bodies for a period of time.
DO NOT take anything from sex shops, naturopathic stores or health food stores. You will not know if they will work unusually because of your meds or if your meds will work in a funny way because of them.
As far as I know, there are no "viagra" pills for women. There has been talk of "testoterone patches" however, I believe they are still in the works.
Talk to your neurologist and family Dr. about these issues
navygirl1
1 Oct 2011
i don't know of anything like that but recently i met someone that im starting to like and it helps b/c i was having a low drive due to depression and meds but liking someone and trying new things like erotic massages amazing!!! no sex just a lot of foreplay is a good start
gailawannabe
30 Sep 2011
I have heard that Viagra can be used by women, even though it doesn't have as dramatic a response as men see. Ask your physician - there are contraindications because of the blood pressure increase that Viagra causes, that may restrict its use for you.
I use romantica - erotic love stories as a way of getting me going - some of those scenes are pretty steamy (and explicit - not everyone would want to read them) - my husband certainly benefits! lol There are lots of publishers on line - my favorite is Elloras Cave.
angelalf
7 Aug 2012
My dr recently prescribed me Viagra and my insurance would not cover it. Years ago I took one of my boyfriends pills and sex was out of the question due to the side effect of terrible vomiting.I know their must be something out there, if not can someone please invent Niagra.
Beepoo
30 Sep 2011
Yea and let me know what doc has to say!! They do have those pills that make it really good in like the stripper stores!! if they don't have any out I need to become a chemist.. For real!!
Inactive
30 Sep 2011
Jaime, I don't know of a script for this, there could be. Please ask your doc about this. There are things like oils and the stimulintes like KY jelly. You might try that. Von-1
Inactive
30 Sep 2011
Be very careful what you buy in a sex shop, I think thats the last place I would buy a pill... It may have something to do with the meds you are on, please talk to your doc. Vonnie
Studfinder
12 Oct 2011
I think if you're shopping for a lube or a toy at a sex shop, you can be confident that you're not going to get anything that would hurt you. However, I could not invest in any pill, or super sex growth hormone creams, etc. You don't know WHAT is in that stuff... and most of it is only designed to play to your fantasies and desires. Most lubes, water-based or personal lubricants are fine, whether they are from a chain grocery store or a sex shop. Just ask a clerk for a recommendation or if they have any experience with a brand or product. They'll be only too happy to educate you and make a recommendation. After all, they see all kinds walk into their shop and have heard it all before!
Inactive
19 Jan 2012
HAS ANYONE seen Jaime? I am very worried!!
Lara
jej111
23 Feb 2013
My Wife of 28 years and I "love" olive oil. It's a great lubricant, cheap, no side effects, you can ingest it orally, and it's wonderful for anal sex. Harley Guy/Duluth, Ga.
jej111
23 Feb 2013
My Wife of 28 years and I "love" olive oil. It's a great lubricant, cheap, no side effects, you can ingest it orally, and it's wonderful for anal sex. Harley Guy/Duluth, Ga.
killer13
18 July 2013
KY YOURS + MINE will send you over the moon and back!! Two bottles blue for him and pink for her. I'm single and have been happy for years. I just use both oils, the pink is definitely magical, and the blue adds a subtle warm sensation. When mixed, POW!! And I am convinced you are suffering from severe sexual dysfunction side effects from your medications.
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