I use to love having sex a lot now can't even "express, happiness" anyone know how to fix this. All quotes opinions and thoughts are welcome and much ablidged! Jaime}litlmommag
Is there a viagra for women?
Question posted by litlmommag on 30 Sep 2011
Last updated on 18 July 2013 by Mommy2Be420
25 Answers
Mommy2Be420
18 July 2013
Yes, there are methods to increase the sexual experience for women. There's been studies that have shown that Viagra helps women achieve orgasms easier by increasing blood flow, increases the feeling of warmth, tingling and fullness. Some lubricants and other medications claim to increase libido but I would be wary of those. I've tried warming lube before and it heated up so much it burnt the inside of me. I'd go for natural remedies before trying anything man-made.
vegasvick
27 May 2013
I have noticed that giving a female a viagra can make them hornier. I did this with a placebo effect back when i was younger in high school when i took a girl to a movie and she couldnt last 40 minutes in there without making me leave and going at it in my ride. So try taking a viagra for yourself and wait about 30 mins to an hour ;)
shedevil2014
1 Oct 2012
I am glad to see i am not the only female that feels this way. I am 40 yrs old and had a hysterectomy back in 2007. Every since then, my sex drive has crashed and burned. I don't even have the urge. I still try really hard to take care of my husband of 22 yrs. I don't want to loose him. He is an awesome loving husband. But I have back problems and have to take meds now, but back then i wasn't on anything. He has gotten to where he is even afraid to touch me because he never knows how i am feeling. I have never turned him down and I told him that, but still he is afraid to try so now I am the one that has to start something. The bad thing is that I am NEVER in the mood and I am so numb in the important places, that it just feels like I am letting him down. I don't ever tell him Im not in the mood, but I think he sences it. I don't feel attractive at all.
There has to be something out there that doesn't cost an arm and a leg that will get me in the mood within an hour or so. Please if anyone knows of anything I can get without or without a script (over the counter), please let me know. I talked to my old doctor about it a few years ago and she said it was because my husband don't turn me on enough. That is a bunch of bs. He is very loving and romantic. That really upset me. My husband is very understanding, but I know its got to get old. Please is there help out there for someone like me?
chipmaster1
21 Jan 2012
My Bride of 24 years and I recently had a lady friend and her husband come and stay for a week. They were friends from High school 40 years ago and this subject came up and interesting enough we don't have this problem yet but my friends wife who is a good friend of mine also lost her desire at 39 after a histerectomy until she saw a show on the Doctors called the G Spot Shot. She said it was costly and gets it every 2 years but the first night they stayed here we had to get up and remove pictures off the guest bed room outer wall by the living room about 2:00am because we thought they were going to knock them down off the wall.
The next day while they were out I took foam rubber and lightly glued it to the back of the headboard in the guest bedroom because they dented the sheetrock.They are both 59 and we believe they brought the subject up because someone else where they had stayed told them they thought wild animals were staying in their guest room. My Bride Rita had said that since she had lost her breast due to stage 4 cancer and 12 other surgeries 22 years that if it ever happened to her she would be out of luck because the estrogen and other hormones they had back then to use on women due to loss of sex drive was dangerous for women whom had had cancer but now she says that if and when it happens she knows what to do and the shots are getting cheaper every day.( My fear is she will probably hurt me )lol
Hopes this information helps someone,
.O •.♫.Bobby.♫.• O.
Inactive
21 Jan 2012
Thanks Bobby!! You'll be a happy, even IF she hurts you!!
I needed the giggle.
Again, nice design!!
Inactive
18 Jan 2012
I would also like to know the answer to this question i am 24 i have a 4 year old and my husband always complains that i am never in the mood its like when the kid came out my sex drive dissappeared as well help
Inactive
19 Jan 2012
Hi krys444,
As your child gets older things will get much better in that department! Right now you have your hands full, don't you? You are juggling so many things that you are last on the list, and that doesn't put a girl in the mood, does it?
When my daughter was little that is just how I felt anyway, so I know how you feel, been there!!
Tell him if he helps out, maybe you'd be in the mood more!!
Best wishes,
sweet lemon
beecharmer
6 Jan 2012
Sadly ..NO ! ... there is no Viagra for woman.
There is however a hormone, that can be given in difficult situations, and if you are very very (RICH ) as you then may just say I want it !!
.. ( It will improve the sexual response for woman, though the side affects are not good, .. (1)increase in facial hair, (2) deeper voice, in most, but not all cases, as the hormone given is the male Testosterone, hence the side affects. many other not good, I would rather not take this hormone, but it is there, so ask .( good luck,) as it is only given in bad cases on the national heath in u.k )
patty2011
27 Nov 2011
Have you tried checking your thyriod levels
rvnew
18 Nov 2011
I think they are working on it but viagra works the same way in a woman as it does a man. I was told this by my female psychiatrist when I told her the SSRI's were preventing orgasm. A man needs blood flow to his penis for an erection and subsequently the orgasm. A woman also needs blood flow to the clitorus for orgasm. Viagra allows the blood flow to happen. I tried it and it worked. The same cautions apply about any heart concerns before using Viagra. Fast forward to now... I have high blood pressure so I'm not considering using Viagra because of my SSRI use, however, there's an amino acid called l-arginine that is a vasodiolater that is used in capsules and creams for the same purpose as Viagra. My doctor checked with a urologist about it's use for orgasm, in my case, and the urologist said it was ok to use.
What might be a problem is finding the right l-arginine cream to use. The advertisement is confusing. They all claim to do the job but you need to know if the creme/product you choose has an adquate amount of l-arginine to do the job. I also read that using a compounding pharmacy might be a good alternative. I didn't persue the product because the relationship I was in didn't work out. Hope this helps you out.
litlmommag
18 Nov 2011
I'm going 2 write tht down and ask my neuro to I have an apt dec1 I know I'm losing feeling in my leggs and my lower back I can't even feel injections in my back so I'm gonna ask him about feeling in mt vajja. And as posted in another response I don't have a cervix either so I wonder even though the hysterectomy was a miracle for me. Maybe between that and the ms I might have to except this is the way it is gonna be with the opiates antidepressants and everything else. I hope its not for all of you! Thanks everyone again for your answer this is helpful for us all
LiverLips
28 Nov 2011
Great question Jaime! Thank you so much! I don't need something like this but I do know how it feels to have desires & the other person won't or can't.
I'm pleased that people don't mind talking about their intimate issues here, just as if we were "real" friends & family.
The support on this site should be bottled & sold after being formulated into pain medication. What a dream! Minimal pain for everyone in the world...
I wish everyone a better week!
Love, Wendy :)
litlmommag
28 Nov 2011
Hi all I really do appreciate this conversation. So mant people in the world embarassed or ashame to talk about intimate and private parts of their lives to their drs and even to loved ones. i just figured maybe everyone on here may not of ever seen each other are good friends and talking to people when you candbseen {joke love u girl} helps all of us talk things over with people who we see everyday. {candbeseen i see the best part of you your heart and friendly thoughts your beautiful} people here are awesome and i really do hope we can all be open and honest no matter how personal or uncomfortable it can be because you have all been my rock when i needed you and my laughter when ive felt like crying and most of all wonderful friends that i cant even express. ecxept you are all the best. thank you all your all beautiful im sure inside and out
litlmommag
28 Nov 2011
I'm sorry I forgot thank you wendy hope you are well through the new year happy holidays everyone
slbasketcase
18 Oct 2011
There is no viagra 4 women but it is in the works. R u on any antidepressants? BC everytime I start on antidepressants I have no libido or very little and currently I'm on Prozac 20mg a day, but I was on 80mg about 5 months ago and u want 2 talk about no feelings at all, lol! I was numb 2 everything, I couldn't even cry so that's y I'm on the lower dosage now.
Good luck!
Inactive
19 Oct 2011
Hi slbasket,
I went off of prozac for this exact reason!!! BAD SIDE EFFECT!!! Very bad indeed!!
Lara
Bhedge
16 Oct 2011
I have this problem due to perimenopause, and the standard treatment is testosterone cream that is applied in the area that is the problem. This increases your libido (desire). I have a coworker who is on anti-depressants and uses testosterone cream to get around the loss of libido that is a side effect of that medicine. If everything is working once things get going and you feel something... maybe just not as intense as before, I'd go see your gynecologist. I can't use the testosterone because it gives me more headaches, but I know that once my husband and I start things, as long as I am not experiencing dryness from perimenopause, most of the feelings are there, they just are buried.
It really depends upon whether your husband is fine with initiating things without getting an exaggerated response. If this is the case, you might try the KY Intense. Supposedly, this new product can spice things up just a tad, so if you have the feelings, and just not the desire, communicate with your husband that he will need to initiate everything, and make sure he knows that what he is doing is feeling good. With drugs and old age, we need more communication with our partners to sustain a healthy sex life.
Good luck!
Inactive
16 Oct 2011
Great answer, as usual Bhedge!! Thank you for your input!!
litlmommag
15 Oct 2011
Hi all I'm so glad you all have answered and wanted to talk thank you! I asked my husband what he thught he said you show me you love everyday even when we don't make love you you sat thank you to me for being here you give me the look like when we meant you satisfy me everyday! Then he added all the caos of everyday sometimes all we need to knw that we love each other as much or me than the day we meant. He's a sweety just like coby. Take care
SandraLHoutz
4 July 2012
Sounds like you have a wonderfully understanding hubby ... which can be so critical in times like this :) You will get through this with his help ... there are other ways to be intimate without full on intercourse ... just a thought :) Start with a nice massage and see how it goes?
Inactive
14 Oct 2011
Hi gang,
I am on hold with my doc as I type this... arghhhhhhhh!!! OK, no answer, so I left a message, he should be all over my question like white on rice!!! He will call me back, to be sure.
I do think that my problem with the O is prozac, as I stated before. But I will get back to you asap!!!
And again, thank you Jaime for bringing this topic up, we all need to discuss this openly and without embarassment!!! (yeah I'm one to talk about not being embarassed, right??) ugh.
Love to all !!!
Lara
Coby416
13 Oct 2011
I read your last post and I think your approach will be just fine. If I were your husband and I knew you were at least trying I would be very please and work with you in every aspect. I'd try anything with you to help you through the hesitancy or the struggle. be patient. You seem to have the right attitude and I hope it all works out for you so that the end will be climatic.
You have my best wishes.
Thank you for the very nice comments Crazed and others. I am somewhat embarassed. I think I am sensitive and more then anything else I use to love sex. Airplanes, restaurants, you name it... I mean an entire day of foreplay, like out shopping, was not unheard of. Even at times alone. I just have not felt it lately. I need to see my Dr but I also think unless someone can tell me that they have no problem, the suboxone might very well be part of my problem. Before that the pain pills had to decrease the libido.
It is not coincidental that so many of us are talking about this, the pills have an effect. Depression has an effect. The combination must not lead to the type of passion needed to motivate the desire. Before I panic, I am going to see how I will be when I am off the suboxone, which I hope will be in a couple of months. We are all passionate people and in time we will find our own individual answers. The more we let it bother us the harder it gets, so we just have to chill and be confident, when all is right, that part of us, never really leaves. We just have to uncover the mystery of why our desire stays hidden , which we will , this I am sure of. It is possible our mind has prioritized other life changes first. Once they are corrected then we can make the adjusments in this complicated area.
To all , hoping a tremendous day!
Coby
UNLVGRAD
14 Oct 2011
I was on subs for 9 months and had little desire to be intimate. Then when I went off the subs I noticed a change in being able to climax better without subs but the little desire still stayed :(
litlmommag
18 Oct 2011
Coby it sounds to me like you have tons of passion to me that's what love making is all anout any women would be lucky to have you now and when th meds wear of you have lots of passion and I'm glad you posted! Thank you for a mans insight
angelalf
7 Aug 2012
Hey everyone, I'm new to this.Unlvgrad, can I please ask if it was hard to get off the Suboxone and how long you were on them. Thanks everyone.I enjoy this website and will use it more often:-)
gatekeeper64
13 Oct 2011
Yeah, it's called red wine. lol
Inactive
13 Oct 2011
omg, Red Wine!! Thanx for the giggle gatekeeper, HILARIOUS!!!
litlmommag
13 Oct 2011
I'm sorry I really like sex every part of it. The emtional connection the holding hands the warm hug the laying in someones arms the look in someones eyes.. heck I can't watch my husband take his shirt off without being all gaga like a litl girl. Hense my name litl momma. Kind of like on here knowing that you can make someone else feel that good just gives me a rush. So if I can't have a multiple the satisfacation that I can make him is very rewarding to me. But I would love to know I can every once in a while be able to have that big o again and show him I am appreciating his efforts as much I as ireally do. And this has been b4 the medications 4 me. I mean I did have a hysterectmy and I have lots of med probs with the ms and things but I guess this is my prayer to God to bring back my old friend once again.
Coby my advise fr yu is just what has been said all through here already I am not gonna give up I am gonna give as much pleasure to my loved one as I can in an out of the bedroom let him know how desirable I find him how even though all equipment isn't functioning the mind body and soul is still not closed for bussiness. And I make sure I tell him thank you for making me happy and for being here showing me his happiness. The litl things in life are mre to me than the big and most of the time can be more amazing. Good health to you all and good love! Take care jaime litlmommag
Inactive
13 Oct 2011
Hi Jaime and everyone else!!
I just had a doc appointment and forgot to ask him this question!! GRRRR!!
His office is closed tomorrow, but I shall call on friday to find out.
I am suffering from lack of orgasms lately (God, am I embarassed!!! )
and tis getting annoying!
I believe tis med related, as I used to have multiples and spontaneous O's in my sleep even (God, the embarassment is now getting worse!!) so, what's a woman to do? I am going OFF of Prozac as of tomorrow!! I think that is my problem again, went off of it, things were fine, then back on, and things are NOT FINE NOW.
IF Viagra works for women, then I shall give it a try! I really miss the apex part of sex, got me girlz? Jaime, I am SO glad you brought this topic up, because I've been wanting to for two weeks now, just didn't have the ovaries to do so. Unlike me!!
After I speak to Dr. John, I shall post on Friday, promise goils !!
Love all of ye,
Lara
Inactive
13 Oct 2011
I bet this Q goes to two pages within a day, what say all of you?
lol
SandraLHoutz
4 July 2012
No need to be embarrassed :) We're all friends here! :)
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