i have been constipated since this morning and i have to go but its to big and too hard and its making my butt hurt. i am so uncomfortable. i drank some mirilax this morning but it didnt help. it is trying to come out but its too big. my husband suggested an enema?? will that make me have the urge to push or will it soften it all up? because i dont want anything that is going to make me want to push with it this hard. i am in tears please help
19 Jul 2013
An enema will more give you the urge to go. I would try a glycerin suppository. It's a bit uncomfortable but if you can keep it in for 20-30 minutes it will help soften the stool and make you go. I have IBS so I battle this all the time. I would recommend a suppository over the enema.
20 Jul 2013
I would do like the previous poster said, try a glycerin suppository first to try to soften it up. If not, you may have to break the hard ball up digitally (with your fingers). This can happen with bad constipation. Hopefully the supp. will do the trick but if it doesnt, get a medical glove, apply some KYJelly or Vaseline and GENTLY insert a finger and try to gently break up the ball of stool. You should be able to break it up enough to pass it. If you are not able to do so then you may have to go to the hospital and have a nurse help you. An enema may not be effective because you wont likely be able to get it past the stool and if you do, it will just increase the pressure behind it and if the ball of stool is big and hard enough, it can tear the anal opening leading to a painful fissure. You dont want that. This is very very painful I know! Good Luck!
20 Jul 2013
Oh how I can relate to your condition right now! It has happened to me several times in my life! Now I take a stool softener and a sennosides (to help go) every evening because my meds constipate me. I no longer get this problem. So start that now and stop eating cheese and things that make your stool hard until the stool softener and sennoside do their job.
Good luck girl,
13 Aug 2013
I just had success using the glove/vaseline suggestion; I've used this trick once before awhile ago. I've been constipated for the last 4 days and I've had the urge to go almost all day at work but without luck after trying several times in the ladies room. When I got home I applied vaseline around the anus. I didn't try to break it up but instead just pushed, and also helped the stool to come out using the gloved hand; it was very thick, hard and dry and it was no wonder that I couldn't pass it. I needed relief so badly all day and I feel so much better now. I really appreciate the helpful tips here, especially on a topic that isn't the most pleasant to talk about.
29 Apr 2014
I stil hav had no luck at usin the bathrm. 2day is day 19. I feel as tho I'm dyin. Ther is so much pressure nd the stool is so large tht its like pushn my meow meow shut makin sex nearly impossible nd extremely painful whn I try. Idk wut 2 do. Iv made 3 trips 2 the er nd theyv done nuthn.
19 Jan 2016
I have been struggling with constipation for over 3 weeks. I've tried laxatives, suppository, prune juice, warm liquids like coffee, drinking extra water, going to the hospital and getting treatment and fluids. The hospital told me to try an enema and thus far, still absolutely nothing... Out of three weeks had one very small bm after a laxative. Have to strain to be able to urinate because I think the tube is being cut off. I'm miserable and would try anything. I have IBS with Constipation and Diarrhea and right now I've obviously been in a constipation phase... The medicines I am on are making it worse. The hospital Dr did not take me very seriously but I'm over ten pounds heavier than I was, my pee tube is being compressed and I have a constant urge to go. Plus I've been having stomach pain and recently started having A LOT of painful gas.
Any suggestions for me??? I don't know what else to try...
28 Jan 2016
I'm 2.5 yrs late in answering this, haha ;) but I'm posting anyways!!!
Ever since having my first child of 3 back in 2010, I experience HARD and PAINFUL bowel movements, they are a weekly thing for me as a result of constipation. Besides the various meds that have been reccomended in the answers to your question, and what doctors prescribe etc..These are the things I find have helped ME, GIGANTICALLY!
1-I recommend pacing and stepping heel to toe (put your weight down on your heel) as soon as you realize its going to be one of those bathroom times. The constant motion seemed to help push the movement through me.
2-Take DEEP breaths through your nose and out your mouth during these painful bowel movements.
3-Every time you sit down to try and push, make sure you have your feet ELEVATED! I use my childrens potty. You can IMMEDIATELY feel the difference internally... you'll understand... apparently there is a footstool thats been created for just this reason lol
4-When you are ready to push, take a DEEP breath through your nose and push as if you are having a baby (I'm 100% SERIOUS... it's soo true)
GOOD LUCK TO ANYONE WHO READS THIS! I FEEL YOUR PAIN!!! xo
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