i been with this guy for 14 months now and recently there has been rumors that hes using drugs heroin and I was in disbelief cause growing up I saw so much of it I figured I'd know the signs and since he works late nights when I see him half the time he's exhausted and I thought it was due to lack of sleep however he finally admitted to being on pills dan,dan, xanax and volumes all of which I know nothing about except that they're downers I think so he claims he's not doing it anymore and that he's never done heroin however I see many changes in him and so randomly one day I bought a home drug test I made him give me a urine sample in front of me and he passed the test but I still believe he is using his behavior is really weird, am I wrong? Could he have done something to pass the test? If he were on any of those pills would it have come back positive? Someone please help :(
I dont know how to determine if my boyfriend is on drugs I feel so stupid someone help?
Question posted by angiebruno1 on 20 July 2010
Last updated on 20 July 2010
It sound to me like methamphetamine . Is it prevalent in your town? He will not tell you the truth if he is using anything because he knows how you feel about it and if you test him he will find ways to avoid it and that is how you will know. Where there's smoke, there's fire. People don't usually talk about drug free people who are regular Joe's or they would get beat up quite alot by those people. Tell him who you heard those rumors from and see what he does then. Just my opinion - we have alot of crank around here and that is what the behavior looks like. They also use xanax to come down to try and get sleep and look normal but they sweat alot and do not have any energy without it. Get out now if you are not prepared for a life of being a nurse or supporting someone elses drug habit. Good Luck honey.
Wow you sound more like a probation officer than a girlfriend:) thats good though that you have him on a tight leash you must really really love him. Have you checked out his body im sure you would see sores on his body from shooting. In your heart do you really feel like he is using? what would you do if he was would you get him some help or leave him? ive talked to another lady with the similar problem except she knew he was an addict she didnt leave him till it hit home. Unless you warned him about the drug test there is no way he could have covered it up! Its really all about how you feel about the situation i mean these people may be saying this cause they are jeoulous of your relationship together you know there are haters out there that dont have a person in their life to love so they want to break up your happiness. Again go with what you feel and know let your heart guide you it will let you know what to do.
Ok.Angiebruno1. I think those tests that are over the counter at the drug store can be drug specific. What I mean is that on the box it would say this one is for marijuana this other one is for uppers and this other one is for opiate (heroin) drugs., so yea its possible the drug test you got was not for the one he is abusing. Sometimes you should trust your instincts. What I mean is you notice something is different with him. You care about him so that would be a very important thing for him and you to talk over. There may be many different things other than drugs that would cause erratic behavoir. I would stress that you care about him and that maybe if it is a very strong difference from the normal way that he is then a Drs visit may be in order.just to get a check up about that and just in general.Just because you are young doesn't mean you shouldn't have Drs checkups? I hope I am not assuming to much here. But he did pass one test so maybe a Drs visit wouldn't hurt.
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