My husband says I talk about my pain to much, that he is tired of hearing about it?
Question posted by sheeddy on 17 Feb 2015
Last updated on 2 July 2020 by balbanese
I have Rheumatoid Arthritis and am in sever pain all the time. My husband who was my best friend said I talk about my pain to much and he is tired of hearing about it. He said I should stop talking about it people don't want to hear it. He said I should worry about how other people are feeling when they are around me as it effects them as well. He said I should be more positive.
I hate him! he expects me to stop feeling what Im feeling so that I can worry about everyone elses feelings. He thinks I should act positive so others arent uncomfortable around me. He was my best friend now I don't feel like I have anyone to talk to. I don't even want to be in the same room with him let alone the same house.
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balbanese
17 Feb 2015
Don't hate, he needs pity. Find yourself a group or two, stress management, pain management It can wear on a person who can't relate, but not a spouse. I had the same thing. Best to get into the community, hospice, homeless, anything to help others and get you out of the house for a while. All this is doing is pulling you down. The pain alone is enough. Hang in there.
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kaismama
17 Feb 2015
Tell him for me he's a jerk. He is supposed to be your support, in sickness and in health, remember those vows? He doesn't. If you need to talk about it he should listen. I bet if he were sick he'd expect you to listen and not just that, help him. My bf and I had a perfect relationship, he listened and supported me and I listened and supported him, all thru his cancer too, right up till he drew his last breath. That's what a loving couple does, not tell someone they talk about pain too much.
