... an old coat tucked in our closet. The pills turned out to be Acyclovir. I found on here it is used to treat Herpes virus. Does that mean he may have herpes? He has never told me this. I am going to get checked before I ask him. :-( I hope he is taking this for something else. I am afraid to know the truth. He has never hidden any kind of medical problem from me. I guess there is just one way to find out. How do I approach him about this?
Hi, I have been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years. I am a little upset. I found some pills in?
- 28 Apr 2011 by whathappened
- 5 August 2018
- herpes simplex encephalitis, herpes simplex - suppression, herpes simplex, herpes zoster, varicella-zoster, acyclovir, herpes simplex, mucocutaneous/immunocompetent host, herpes simplex, mucocutaneous/immunocompromised host
How contagious is this? I am mad at him. I am sad for him. I feel betrayed and I feel like he may be scared to loose me. I really am not sure how to feel.Added 29 Apr 2011:
I didn't know how to bring it up yesterday. He was in such a good mood. He was so sweet. I don't want him to think I think bad of him. I don't want my days to pass and sink into denial. He makes me so happy. I want to face what it is and move on. I feel like the bad guy. I’m so depressed.
Acyclovir is used for herpes viruses but there are three different types of herpes people can use them for. The first is the Herpes Simplex Type 2 which causes the genital herpes. Then there is the Herpes Simplex Type 1 which causes cold sores. And finally, acyclovir is also used for Herpes Zoster which causes shingles. Even if the man has Herpes Simplex Type 2, they are mainly contagious during breakouts-when he has active blisters. A very good frind of mine is married to a man with genital herpes. They have been married for over 20 years and she has never contracted them from him. They have 2 beautiful children together. Many people are frightened to tell their partners they have herpes because they find themselves being shunned by partners who are afraid of contracting herpes, and rightly so, but a person can have an active sexual relationship with someone with herpes as long as they take precautions during outbreaks.
Yes, it would have been more honest to tell you, but if you love this man then think about his side and his possible fears of losing you once you find out. It may not even be for genital herpes. He may just get cold sores. Read up on Herpes then ask him about it in a non acusatory manner. Let him tell you his reasons for not disclosing this. Give him a chance. You could lose out on a wonderful loving relationship.
I have herpes and it is a very sensitive issue to bring up to someone for fear of isolation. Nonetheless, you have to trust that the person will see you as more than the disease. You do need to confront him about it but do it as non-judmental yet honestly as you can. YOU have the right to be informed and it is a betrayal to have such information hidden from you. So I say approach it without being confrontational but still with the level of extreme concern.
All the best!
I feel for you. I really do, because I know how you feel and how your boyfriend feels. Typically acyclovir is used to treat one thing. It suppresses outbreaks of the herpes virus and in my opinion also shortens the pain and time when you do have an outbreak. I have HSV type 1- and have been with my husband for 4 years. He does not have it. It is possible to have a long and enjoyable sexual relationship when one person has it and the other does not. The key is just to avoid relations during an outbreak. In my experience, outbreaks can be brought on by stress and physical trauma to the area where the outbreaks happen. Many people who have this are not symptomatic. For those of us unlucky enough to have this condition, the meds help. You need to talk to your boyfriend if you think you are in it for the long haul. It took me several weeks to muster the courage to tell my husband when we first started dating. After I did, this huge weight lifted off my shoulders.
It will be an uncomfortable and awkward conversation.. just try to be compassionate toward your boyfriend. The fact that he is taking this med means he is trying to suppress the symptoms so YOU don't get it. He cares. He is just embarrassed.
Not necessarily. A lot of doctors prescribed this for treating genital herpes, but it can treat the beginning stage of shingles and also severe throat infection caused by virus.
- Acyclovir Information for Consumers
- Acyclovir Information for Healthcare Professionals (includes dosage details)
- Side Effects of Acyclovir (detailed)
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