and painful and red like some skin comes off And there is a burning feeling. Also I never orgasm with guys, I only orgasm when I masturbate alone, is this normal? I know that I have no infection or std as I am clear or those. Any help for a swollen clit, red burning vagina and help for orgasm ?
Every time I have sex my clit gets swollen?
Question posted by Me-g206 on 10 July 2019
Last updated on 12 July 2019
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LousArk
10 July 2019
It's natural for the clitoris to swell to an extent during arousal.
If it's swollen for more than a few days after sex, it could be a medical issue.
If it's swelling to the point of bleeding then its being rubbed too hard/much, which I suspect is the case because you're struggling with orgasm. If it's over rubbed then it could be swollen for a few days afterwards.
Alternatively, if you don't think it's being rubbed much but still swollen & raw, I'd see the doctor.
It's common for women to struggle with orgasm. Sometimes medications & other things can interfere, but often it's just a cycle of not reaching orgasm, so the next time you expect to not reach it, so don't. Or if you are selfconscious about letting go in front of a partner, that can be part of it.
It can take time with a partner you trust to let go enough to orgasm, or to show him what yoi need to reach orgasm.
Aloe vera based lubricant & other natural types can help with friction, but often they make it too slippy to manipulate easily.
Sex toys can help.
If the vaginal lips are red & sore that could be from sex, but, again, if it goes on longer than a few days after sex, then you may have an infection.
If after a few days it's itchy or you have extra discharge, that may also be an infection.
Me-g206
11 July 2019
Usually it stays swollen and a bit painful for 2-3 days. No bleeding occurs and probably it is rubbed too much. Should I feel embarrassed when my clit is swollen in front of my sexual partner because that's how I feel, and I really try to hide it.
LousArk
12 July 2019
That's normal then, to be swollen that long after rubbing.
I don't know what your relationship with your sexual partner is like, or how experienced he/she is. If he/she's understanding about lack of orgasm then you could either just tell him/her, or you could have sex less & offer him/her oral sex or offer to masturbate him/her, so you're touching your clitoris less.
In terms of the swelling, perhaps he/she needs to be guided as to other things that turn you on, so that you are touching the clitoris less, & only towards the end of sex. For a woman, orgasm tends to start in the mind. Foreplay is v important & sex toys can help if used properly.
Men tend to be visual so looking is enough stimulation, but women tend to like imagining & fantasising.
As a guy gets older & usually more experienced, he tends to understand this more than a younger guy. Not always but it may just be experience he needs & most guys get off on learning what gets a woman off.
If your partner is not understanding of everything then maybe they're not the right partner.
LousArk
12 July 2019
If it's a guy he prob won't even notice the swelling. It's def not a big deal or something to be embarrassed about.
If you don't make a big deal out of it I doubt he will.
Satisfying (orgasmic) sex usually takes a partner you're very comfortable with, & being comfortable with your own body in front of him/her.
Until I had that, I used to just say don't worry about waiting for me as it tends not to happen. As long as the guy involved knew it wasn't his fault, they tended to be ok about that.
It tends to be v immature people that would laugh about someone's sexual issues, in which case... find someone else. They're not worth that.
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