... and we are newlyweds. He has tried Levitra however it isn't working and we now have arguments from this. I feel this is making our relationship worse. We have been married about six months and I have never had more than oral with him. My needs as a woman are not being met. After 30 minutes game is over. What else can my husband take or do for us to both be more satisfied? He gives up and goes to sleep and I am left upset. I want to help but don't know what to do. Anyone have any suggestions?
Erectile Dysfunction - My husband has tried Levitra. He has diabetes and is 50 years old. I am 31?
Question posted by bcindyfree on 1 Jan 2010
Last updated on 29 December 2016 by deejay_gary
Make sure he takes his diabetes Medication properly. He may have some artery damage or nerve damage in the penis. There is a new treatment in Isreal that can create new growth of artery in the penis. Can take six months to fully repair. However not yet approve In America. Works wonders.
Come see me. I'll give you what that old man cant. ;-)
It's so good to know it's you that asking for sex.. Am a diabetic type 2 my wife simply lost interest to have sex with me.. It's that possible.?or she doesn't want because she can't reach her orgasm or have lost love in me.
You are both losing out on a beautiful side of marriage. Admittedly, being a male, I understand his frustration and embarassment better than yours. But I see the difference for my wife, too. There are other pills that he could talk to his doctor about, different drugs work better for different males. I would suggest stressing the advantages of his seeking the help of his Doctor (who WILL understand). Another possibility is an implant. (No drugs to possibly interfere with his diabetes medications.) My Dad had one for many years before he passed, - - and loved it. Hope this helps :)
Something else I thought of. You don't make any mention of HOW he is taking the pills. The literature says that Levitra can be taken with or without food. My doses of Levitra work FAR BETTER (and more quickly) when taken on an EMPTY STOMACH. Try giving him a pill at least 2-3 hours after ANY food, and an hour before the next food. With diabetes that can be tricky, but there's nothing wrong with taking it the first thing in the morning. Try working with the timing of WHEN the medication is taken, it just might do the trick! GOOD LUCK.
I am also type 2 diabetic and I have issues with maintaining erections. Thankfully my wife is understanding with me. Maybe I can't make love to her all the time, but when I do I make sure that she has an orgasm as well. I've tried viagra, I didn't like how it made me feel. I felt like my nose was stuffed and my pulse felt like it was raised. The other thing that helps also is that if I can't get an erection, my wife tells me not to beat myself up about it. Instead I find other ways to help her reach orgasm.
FIRST you have to find out the reason why he is having this problem . there are several questions a proffesional will ask him and you will pinpoint the problem. I take testerone .they did bloodwork and found with my medications my levels were low I rub cream on my back everyday and in no time I was a lion again lol, did not have to take viagra or any other blue pill
hi i have ed and have used all of the oral drugs with little or no effect. i recently tried MUSE intra urethral supposatories 500mg. to very good effect,after insertion avery good,hard,erection occured within 5 to ten minutes,which lasted about 30 to 45 minutes,it was wonderful,i hope this helps you both.the drug name is ALPROSTIDIL
I am diabetic, have had prostate cancer, was previously on blood pressure medicine. In other words, I have had all the strikes against me. I too had a serious esophaguel cancer which seemed to be most harmful to my sex life.
I have tried the main ones over the years, Muse, Viagra, Levitra, Cialis. All worked for awhile and then everything got so expensive and no insurance coverage for ED drugs, I tried the generic on internet. Some of them worked but all seem less potent than the professional ones.
Your doctor should give you some samples, the do me.
I tried the vacuum pump and it works. My wife seems to be turned off by it but she likes the results. Large Firm and will last until band is removed. Can not leave on more than 30 mi.
Now, my doctor just gave me a prescription for Trimix. This is a solution that you inject into the base of the penis and you must have specific instructions to do it right with no harm. They recommend not to use it more than 10 times a month. That's not enough for me so I will use a combination of the pump and Trimix.
Giving yourself an injection into the penis seems OOOOOOO SOOOOOOO BAAAAADDDD, but it is with a small needle and hurts for only an instant and the results are well worth the moment of pain.
Good Luck and God Bless You Both. By the way I am 73 but still try.
He should discuss this with his doctor. I did, and My Dr. ended up testing my testosterone level, and I ended up with Androgel. It helped alot after a couple of weeks. My attitude and sex life greatly improved.
I was on several meds when I was 45 and one of the drugs I was on caused severe weight gain which lead to type II diabetes, but at the time I didn't know that I was diabetic. I started having a little trouble achieving a full erection and maintaining it just every once in awhile, so I consulted my family doctor who ran tests and gave me the news about my diabetes. I read everything I could on the subject and its terrible side effects on the human body. I came to only one conclusion and that was to exercise more and lose the extra pounds I had put on by maintaining a healthier diet. I lost the weight and no longer test positive for diabetes, and guess what ? now at well over 50 and without viagra, and all those other erection pills I am enjoying sex with my lady 3-5 times per day. I feel like a young 20 something again and it was all about diet and losing the weight, and leading a healthier lifestyle. Your doctors will tell you the same thing, and they ain't lying.
Thanks for your insight. However, my husband does exercise but cant over do it because he is an amputee. If he walks to much he hurts his wounds on his stump. He eats healthy and is not on insulin or on pills but still checks his blood glucose levels everyday. We are still trying Levitra but he is still having trouble getting an erection. Right when the pill starts working he masturbates and has an orgasm but does not get erect enough for penetration. It is getting there but it needs to get harder in the head of the penis. Is there anything else you would suggest we try besides just the pills? Maybe sex therapy? I look forward to your response. Have a great day.
All natural Meds are B.S. , they may work pyschologicaly,
There are other ways to go for ED , The injection works,called cavajet., or a surgically placed pump,they are great , just turn the knob and up it goes. Of course Medicaid will not be a big help. Look on YOUTUBE
From a personal experience I've tried a lot of the pills that are out there for getting it hard. Most of the natural products I tried were crap but one worked for me and I've been using it ever since. It's called Virection.
Hello. Thank you for recommending a natural product. I have mentioned this to him before. Just to let everyone know who has been responding to me here about my problem with my husband's ED. We have stopped arguing over this and I have reassured him that the oral he performs on me is great. I also may buy a sex toy for us to try and maybe this will be a good way to keep the spark going in our marriage. Where do you get this Virection from? How does it work? I will mention this to him however if he does not want to take any pills I can not force him. The doctor increased the dose of Levitra but he does not want to pay so much money for it. Medicaid will not cover this medicine. We had any argument one night when I found out that he ripped up his prescription I felt that he ignored my needs and did not want to give trying the medicine again a chance. I am hoping my solution with the toy will work.
I will mention the Virection to him and hopefully something better will happen for us soon. I love him for everything he does for me. He is sensitive and supportative in the way he cares for me. He is a loving person and I realize now that I need to continue to be sensitive to his needs and feelings as well. The past month we have come a long way in this situation. Thanks to everyone here and to you for your recommendation.
The Virection that you recommended is a scam. I tried to order it online but my bank would not authorize the transaction because it is in the Netherlands. I do not know if you had this problem with ordering it but I will not be able to try Virection. Is there something else that you would recommend for ED? Preferably something I can buy at a store like Walmart would be easier to get for me. Thanks.
Of course there are other medications, such as cialis and viagra. I read where the sex therapists are saying to use them no less than 10 times before saying they pills don't work. They also don't work immediately, it takes at least 30 minutes. The most important sex organ to me it the brain and you two need to be on the same page. You probably need to both be very relaxed and not let this stress you when you are trying. Some extended foreplay for both of you should help. When I say use the pills at least 10 times, of course I don't mean in the same day, use is separately 10 times. The more comfortable your husband gets while using these pills, the more likely they are to work and they will work more quickly.
Thank you for your understanding and helpful information. When there is an appropriate time for both of us I will share with him what you said. I am glad that someone like you can relate. Have a great day!
It wouldn't hurt to compliment him and rebuild his ego. Men can get their egos hurt really easily and believe me, ED about crushes them. Remember there are lots of different sexual activities and those might help with his (and your) arousal level and may help the medicine to work. Hope things get much better.
Do you really love this man or do you just want him just for sex? You knew from the start that he had diabetes. With diabetes comes much illiness and heartache.
You need to do two things. Firstly take him to see a Urologist, then both of you see a sex therapist. If you do not do these two the marriage is over. You married for better and for worst.
I now give you homework. Read everything you can about his illiness as when you married him this is yours too.
I do love this man and I am learning about his diabetes my mom has diabetes also but I have a mental disorder Shizoaffective and he needs to learn about my illness too. When he ignores me I get super depressed. I am doing the best I can with the situation. At first he wouldn't even try any medicine. So I give him some credit. I didn't marry him just for sex because obviously I have never had more than oral. I am very faithful. I have mentioned a urologist and sex therapist and he sees says no about both. He said he sees a doctor. His doctor has not referred him to a urologist but I am worried because he has a male urinal he uses every night. He doesn't like therapists when I mentioned that also. I will mention this again to him and I will continue my homework but he needs to continue his homework too. Good suggestions you gave me but a little harsh in the way you delivered it. You didn't know all the facts. I did not much about diabetes when I met him.
I did not know it affected men that way. I don't want to lost him because he is a great man. With my bipolar illness there comes much illness and heartache as well... have a great day.
Sometimes I am harsh. But there were so many holes in your question I could see that you were holding back, you too having a mental health problem, is something that is Very important.
Then try doing things together. It does not matter what it is. Do it together. Anything from Candy Making to Auto Repair. Do this on a Saturday. If money is an issue. Get a paper route together. You need to make the marriage fun. Innercourse is not everything. Yes, this would be nice. Quiet walks on the beach. Or a walk in the park. A hug for nothing is something you both need.
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