I've waited a month to get the nerve up to ask others this question; Something I'm ashamed of and maybe others are too. The only time I shower is if I have to go to the Doctor. Before I was put on these medications (they're listed on profile) I would take 2 showers a day! and wear makeup! Now it's as if it doesn't matter. Am I still Depressed??? Should I tell my New therapist next week??? Anyone else ever experience this??? Please be honest.
Depression; If you never leave the house, do you find it hard to wash your hair and shower often?
Added 8 Dec 2013:
Thank YOU all so much!! The Dr. has me taking 75mg Wellbutrin Twice a day/ and Pristiq 50mg once a day; In addition to all the other medications you read on my profile. My question is now; Do you all think this is a good combination of drugs to be taking? Most likely No, If this severe problem I have is depression. I've always been too ashamed to even tell my Dr. or Therapist. You guys are the first; God Bless each and every one of you for helping me find out what my problem is. I'm not thinking clear at the moment, I've been awake almost 36 hours, it's hard to explain. I think I should take a few notes with me (for the first time ever) to my Dr. and Therapist app. next Wed. I need to stop hiding things out of shame. You all are my true friends.......I cry as I type this.
Yes, what you describe sounds like symptoms of depression. I would definitely discuss with your therapist and doctor. Sometimes the first choices of medication for depression aren't the right ones for us. Thank goodness there are many to choose from until we find the right one(s) for us.
Yes Sue fighting depression this is very common we don't care about our regular needs,PLEASE TELL YOUR THERAPST NEXT VISIT this is a good sign that whatever you are taking you are still showing signs of deprression or
could be you have not been on it long enough some of the meds can take 4 to 6 weeks to work but it is importaint to tell you therapist next time you go..this is very comman do not feel bad about yourself dear we just loose the care of ourselves and how we look good luck my friend it gets better Chuck1957 retired pharmacy technician Cpht.
I started having panic attacks in the shower so I started only showering when I had to then I got to the point where I wasn't gonna let it control me so I started showering every other day until I got that under control. I still have panic attacks while I'm out doing something or knowing I have to go to the dr or something else. I too suffer from depression and it's a terrible thing. Your not alone.
Oh Sue 4 - you are writing part of my story. B/c someone opened up to me earlier, I am going to open up to you now, You are not alone!! I have many medical problems and it is physically difficult to even leave the house. And I don't, unless I have no choice, and even that requires days of planning. I get so tired so easy, in a lot of pain, and when I must leave home, even for just a short drive to grocery or pharmacy, I do everything I can days in advance, including showering the night before so all I have to do is get dressed and leave. Glasses hide my eyes, so I am down to a fant lipstick that doubles as blush so I don't look so sick. I am ashamed to admit this, but I have gone as much as a week or more without even getting out of bed except for restroom. It is a big day for me to shower AND wash hair, then put on clean pj's. My housemate does a lot of errands for me like p/u rx's and a lot of times the grocery.
I only go when I need something I am embarrassed to ask him to get for me. I have been sick for a very long time, but, totally disabled since 2004, and every year I fall deeper into the painful issues that just seem to keep coming. My family knows I am sick, but, they live in another state and don't realize how bad it really is. You are not alone!! I understand what you are saying. There have been days, (today one of them) that I had to go to pharmacy. Haven't showered since Tuesday. Showering, dressing, doing hair and make up and I would not make it out the door, so I simply jumped into a pair of jeans and headed out the door. Back in pj's, and ready to curl up in bed. I am being as honest as I can be. There are a few people who may be shocked when they read this, but, that is okay. I bare my soul to you so you will know you are not alone. Some days when I do HAVE to go out, and I have done things ahead of time to prepare, I usually find that it was nice to get out, even if the only person I speak to is a cashier at some store. I understand, hon, I am living it this very moment!! Will be glad to talk to you and help in anyway I can, even if that is just giving you a place to let your feelings out... Hope to hear from you... *big hug*
When one suffers from depression hygiene isn't that important for different reasons, one being as you mentioned, it doesn't matter to us for various reasons, maybe the depression has us feeling very fatigued, tired, or depression can give us a feeling of I don't care. Who am I going to be around anyway, whats the point nobody cares about me anyway (that's the feeling of worthlessness with certain parts of depression) Whatever the reason you should absolutely tell your therapist as at times this can mean your depression is getting worse.
I hope you feel better soon,
I have a 9 to 5 job, and I struggle with this on a daily basis! I think I've developed a pattern that I made for myself while I was severely depresSed. Its important to not so that. That being said, this is what I do, I will buy a new shampoo or soap that I really think I'll like, I will take a long bath instead of a shower, maybe not wash my hair every time and try to make the experience as enjoyable a possible. Try this and it may not cure you, but it will make you hate it less. Lol
I have struggled with this issue for years. There is nothing to feel ashamed about. As you can see there are many people who struggle with this too. I have been in your shoes and talking to my therapist helped alot. I hope you are able to talk to yours and just be honest and tell him/her how you have been feeling. I like to take a bath with candles and some good music try something that makes you feel relaxed and maybe that would help. Take care of yourself and know that you have people here that care about you :)
I can remember days I did nothing or just a quick sponge bath. Never any makeup, even if I had to go out. I am fortunate that I am so much better because of the right meds, a good therapist and prayer. I am back to showers, washing my hair, makeup and even ear rings. There is hope
and a good future. Never give up.
Oh yes, depression will cause this for sure. Yes, you should tell your therapist so that he/she knows where you are at in your depression so you can be treated as you need. If a full shower is too hard just sponge bath everyday so you get back into the habit of better hygiene until you feel better, Don't worry it will come it is just really slow getting over a depression. Also depends where you are in the depression. I had two major one hospitalised twice for those. I was so bad that I would start washing and could not remember if I washed my hair or not, I would get confused what I had just washed. When I got better and started to go home on weekends I even had trouble shaving. I forgot how so don't feel bad that this is happening just go with the flow it will come back when you start feeling better and getting over your depression. I pray to the Lord Jesus that you will be healed from this depression quickly and get your life back on track.
Sounds like too many antidepressant medications to me. A pharmacist once said the reason these are prescription drugs is because they are so dangerous. And maybe try getting some rest, eating good food, taking a walk outside. If you were taking two showers and wearing makeup then do the same other things including stopping all of these medications and you will be back to two showers and wearing makeup right. OK hugs and kisses and God Bless you.
Go try transcendental meditation for the depression and getting centered in your mind and body.
Confide in your doctor. He/she will not be surprised. In fact, it may be possible to get some help for you. I have an aid come twice a week to help with bathing. She perks me up just with us talking. I was taught to be polite so I have to get out of bed and do the work. Some days I dress and some days I do not. See if there are some good solutions for you that you haven't really thought about. It is the doctor who can order the help. Or your therapist. Time to help yourself. The change will do you good.
Oh, and it isn't as weird as I thought it would be. Being a private person I found an actual freedom by not caring about that one thing, who knows what you will find? Karen
Oh my... yes, all that you have written is as though you wrote my words, ... word by word,so ashamed,so embarrassed always. Never wanted anyone to know... not even my children. Have tryed desperately to keep it to myself. I attempted to share this info with my doctor once and as he set quietly an stared at me,I was so self-conscious an stopped in Med sentence. THANK YOU FOR BEING THE BRAVE ONE !!! Thank u, thank u, sincerely fayfaith,
Absolutely been there and done that! NO SHAME!!! You are severely , clinically depressed. These are classic symptoms. I was exactly the same after the death of my beloved child. I lay in bed and never moved, never washed, found it a mental chore to even use the bathroom. I was completely depressed. After three, yes three years of this horror I just snapped out of it. I sort of woke up out of a fog... a grieving,lost fog. I had not even realised that much time had gone by. I managed to save myself. However it would have been much better if someone would have recognised how sick I was and got me the proper help. The proper thing for you my sweet one is to go to your therapist and talk,talk,talk! Tell him or her everything, and I mean all. Get it OUT of you, even if only for catharsis. Also you will definately benefit from the wellbutrin. It ( in my opinion) is wonderful for that kind of deep, dark depression. I was on it a long time ago and it worked like a charm.
I dont use any antidepressants any longer but i have tried them all and wellbis are great! I wish you the best of luck and lots of love and smoches! P.S. Put on that make up and go rock it out girfriend! xoxoxo Chantel
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