I usually masturbate by rubbing my clitoris (penetration freaks me out) and recently I noticed that at the slightest touch of my hand, it just HURTS. When I walk in a certain way it hurts, when my clothing rubs me it hurts, and when i lay on my stomach it hurts. I saw online that it may be swollen or maybe something is wrong with the hood of it, but when I pulled back the hood I also say that it isn't shaped like a circle. It's like a circle inside of a circle, with the outer circle in half/open. Is that normal? There's no blood or anything. Please help. It hurts.
My clitoris/vagina hurts immensely - HELP?
Question posted by throwawayaccount444 on 27 March 2018
Last updated on 18 August 2019 by sunflowerpower56
3 Answers
sunflowerpower56
18 Aug 2019
I had this too and was so worried it was something more severe/permanent that I'd have to go to the doctors about! Like a sharp pain when bending down or when wiping or wearing tight jeans after pretty much any sexual activity I had with my boyfriend. After looking a little closer I found there was a hair stuck next to the clitoris under the hood, and after getting it out I had instant relief!
Suggest having a look down there but if you can't see anything then go to the doctors, it's definitely nothing to be embarrassed about!
NettieSass
28 June 2019
Have someone check with a flashlight while pulling back the hood of the clitoris. There may be a loose hair stuck there, and once it's removed, INSTANT relief.
Windchimes123
27 March 2018
Hi Throwaway,
I give you credit for your ability to describe a sensitive subject.
I had to look this one up because it's not your ordinary pain question... Lol.
Anyone who gets queasy should stop here because we are about to get clinical!
First, it concerns me that penetration "freaks" you out.
There is a definite correlation between physical pain and emotional fears that are hard to differentiate between the two.
I'm not discounting your pain. It's just something to think about because it will affect your health by:
- Not having routine speculum exams
- Difficulty obtaining birth control without having pelvic exams
- Lack of close of intimacy without having sexual penetration
- Difficulty with long term relationships with the goal of becoming pregnant
- Pap smears are an important part of your yearly exam for an early diagnosis of cancer.
Freaking out... Do you tighten up so much in fear that your muscles clamp down to prevent penetration?
There is a medical term for this... VaginismuHi Throwaway,
I give you credit for your ability to describe a sensitive subject.
I had to look this one up because it's not your ordinary pain question... Lol.
Anyone who gets queasy should stop here because we are about to get clinical!
Hi Throwaway,
I give you credit for your ability to describe a sensitive subject.
I had to look this one up because it's not your ordinary pain question... Lol.
Anyone who gets queasy should stop here because we are about to get clinical!
First, it concerns me that penetration "freaks" you out.
There is a definite correlation between physical pain and emotional fears that makes It difficult to differentiate between the two.
I'm not discounting your pain. It's just something to think about because it will affect your health by:
- Not having routine speculum exams
- Difficulty obtaining birth control without having pelvic exams
- Lack of close of intimacy without having sexual penetration
- Difficulty with long term relationships with the goal of becoming pregnant
- Pap smears are an important part of your yearly exam for an early diagnosis of cancer.
- Inability to insert tampons.
Freaking out... Do you tighten up so much in fear that your muscles clamp down to prevent penetration?
There is a medical term for this... Vaginismus.
The treatment is a process consisting of:
- Kegel exercises. Voluntary tightening and relaxation of the PC muscle around the vagina.
- Using a set of dilators starting with the tampons size and advancing.
- Physical therapy to instruct on deep breathing exercises while the woman inserts the dilator.
- If it is still not possible, the doctor can treat with Botox under sedation while inserting the dilator.
- Counseling is often recommended to hopefully determine the cause such as abuse, unhealthy first experience, etc.
You didn't mention your age.
Any vaginal itching or discharge?
How long have you had it?
Can you describe your pain...
Sharp, dull or burning?
Pain with urination?
Constant or comes and goes while in certain positions like sitting?
Does it feel like a raw sensation? Some women have described it like something sharp is rubbing ... Sand paper feel?
You DO feel like there is inflammation?
Is it your clitoris only or into the labial folds or into the mouth of your vagina?
Pain with Intercourse? I know you don't like to do it but have you done it around the time the pain started or recently?
Do you have normal periods?
Did you have any back injury prior to the onset of pain?
I'm asking these questions not only to be more helpful to you but there may be other women reading with the same symptoms.
It's very often underreported because of the embarrassment factor. It affects long term relationships for years before a woman seeks help.
I have information but it's kind of lengthy so I'm trying to narrow it down.
:-)
throwawayaccount444
27 March 2018
Hi, thanks for responding. I'm 22, and penetration "freaks me out" a bit because the feeling is very weird, and also I am a lesbian. So yeah, penetration, not the top on the list for me.
No itching or discharge.
It's a sharp pain?
It's been happening for about a week.
No pain with urination, but there is pain if I wipe too hard.
It comes and goes.
No raw sensation.
I am a virgin, so I wouldn't know (abstinent).
Yes to normal periods.
No back injury.
Windchimes123
27 March 2018
Ok .. Got it.
I’ll send you what I found out.
One thing I read was if it’s a clitoral pain, it’s generally not a serious problem.
However, psychologically, can have negative effects.
Like any other pain, the stress is if it’s going to go away. Luckily, it’s been only a week.
I will get back to you shortly.
:-)
Windchimes123
27 March 2018
Initially, I think it’s better to NOT
do the textbook but to help understand the anatomy as to how and why it happens.
It’s an embarrassing subject so women suffer in silence.
It’s good you brought this out and into the open.
Goaskalice(dot)com gave a great description without the medical-speak.
The GLANS (tip of the hood of the clitoris). This little ball of erectile tissue is located directly above the opening of the urethra and directly below the pubic bone.
So here is a brief anatomy of the clitoris.
The GLANS (tip of the hood of the clitoris):
This little ball of erectile tissue is located directly above the opening of the urethra and directly below the pubic bone.
The SHAFT :
Depending on an individual woman's anatomy and her state of sexual arousal, the glans may or may not be visible. When women become sexually aroused, the erectile tissue in the glans becomes engorged (swollen), much like the penis, and increases in size and sensitivity.
The SHAFT:
The clitoris narrows directly behind the glans and continues back into the body, where it meets with the nerve bundle that transmits the incredible signals that the glans receives.
The HOOD:
Both the glans and shaft of the clitoris are covered with this fold of skin that is actually the upper part of the labia. The hood seems to protect the clitoris from too much direct stimulation. When a woman is not sexually aroused, or when a woman is in high arousal, the glans retreats under the hood and is out of sight.
*
The hood of the clitoris contains glands that produce a lubricating fluid called sebum, which allows the hood to move smoothly back and forth over the glans and the shaft of the clitoris. When sebum accumulates, it turns into a white, cheese-like substance called smegma. Smegma, in turn, if it is not washed away with frequent bathing, can harden and rub between the hood and the shaft similar to a grain of sand under an eyelid — the result is an irritated clitoris that can produce incredible pain at the merest movement.
Tight jeans or pressure from sexual stimulation can be excruciating. Accumulations of smegma can also cause the skin of the hood to adhere (stick) to the shaft and glans (similar to what can happen with a man who has foreskin). These clitoral adhesions can cause pain and irritation as well.
Usually, frequent bathing and good hygiene can prevent or resolve this problem, but some women may have narrow openings to their clitoral hood that make it harder to wash away built-up secretions. If you have recurrent episodes of clitoral pain, you may want to try soaking in a steamy tub and gently moving the skin around the clitoris back and away from the glans — don't tug or forcibly retract the hood since this can cause further pain and irritation. These gentle "stretches" can, over time, widen the opening of the hood, allowing more freedom of movement for both pleasure and washing.
Next, I will look up the different causes and treatments.
Thank you Alice for the above information.
:-)
Windchimes123
27 March 2018
Initially, I think it’s better to NOT
do the textbook but to help understand the anatomy as to how and why it happens.
It’s an embarrassing subject so women suffer in silence.
It’s good you brought this out and into the open.
Goaskalice(dot)com gave a great description without the medical-speak.
The GLANS (tip of the hood of the clitoris). This little ball of erectile tissue is located directly above the opening of the urethra and directly below the pubic bone.
So here is a brief anatomy of the clitoris.
The GLANS (tip of the hood of the clitoris):
This little ball of erectile tissue is located directly above the opening of the urethra and directly below the pubic bone.
The SHAFT :
Depending on an individual woman's anatomy and her state of sexual arousal, the glans may or may not be visible. When women become sexually aroused, the erectile tissue in the glans becomes engorged (swollen), much like the penis, and increases in size and sensitivity.
The SHAFT:
The clitoris narrows directly behind the glans and continues back into the body, where it meets with the nerve bundle that transmits the incredible signals that the glans receives.
The HOOD:
Both the glans and shaft of the clitoris are covered with this fold of skin that is actually the upper part of the labia. The hood seems to protect the clitoris from too much direct stimulation. When a woman is not sexually aroused, or when a woman is in high arousal, the glans retreats under the hood and is out of sight.
*
The hood of the clitoris contains glands that produce a lubricating fluid called sebum, which allows the hood to move smoothly back and forth over the glans and the shaft of the clitoris. When sebum accumulates, it turns into a white, cheese-like substance called smegma. Smegma, in turn, if it is not washed away with frequent bathing, can harden and rub between the hood and the shaft similar to a grain of sand under an eyelid — the result is an irritated clitoris that can produce incredible pain at the merest movement.
Tight jeans or pressure from sexual stimulation can be excruciating. Accumulations of smegma can also cause the skin of the hood to adhere (stick) to the shaft and glans (similar to what can happen with a man who has foreskin). These clitoral adhesions can cause pain and irritation as well.
Usually, frequent bathing and good hygiene can prevent or resolve this problem, but some women may have narrow openings to their clitoral hood that make it harder to wash away built-up secretions. If you have recurrent episodes of clitoral pain, you may want to try soaking in a steamy tub and gently moving the skin around the clitoris back and away from the glans — don't tug or forcibly retract the hood since this can cause further pain and irritation. These gentle "stretches" can, over time, widen the opening of the hood, allowing more freedom of movement for both pleasure and washing.
Next, I will look up the different causes and treatments.
Thank you Alice for the above information.
:-)
Windchimes123
27 March 2018
Sorry for the duplication
:-(
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