Delayed ejaculation is a medical condition in which a male cannot ejaculate. It may occur either during intercourse or by manual stimulation with a partner. Ejaculation is when semen is released from the penis.
Causes of Delayed ejaculation
Most men ejaculate within a few minutes of starting to thrust during intercourse. Men with delayed ejaculation may be unable to ejaculate or may only be able to ejaculate with great effort after having intercourse for a long time (for example, 30 to 45 minutes).
Delayed ejaculation can have psychological or physical causes.
Common psychological causes include:
- Religious background that makes the person view sex as sinful
- Lack of attraction for a partner
- Conditioning caused by a habit of excessive masturbation
- Traumatic events (such as being discovered masturbating or having illicit sex, or learning one's partner is having an affair)
Some factors, such as anger toward the partner, may be involved.
Physical causes may include:
- Blockage of the ducts that semen passes through
- Use of certain drugs (such as prozac, mellaril, and guanethidine)
- Nervous system diseases, such as stroke or nerve damage to the spinal cord or back
- Testosterone deficiency
- Nerve damage during surgery in the pelvis
Tests and Exams
Stimulating the penis with a vibrator or other device may determine whether you have a physical (often nervous system) problem. A nervous system (neurological) exam may reveal other nerve problems that are connected with delayed ejaculation.
Treatment of Delayed ejaculation
If you have never ejaculated through any form of stimulation, see a urologist to determine if the problem has a physical cause. (Examples of stimulation may include wet dreams, masturbation, or intercourse.)
See a therapist who specializes in ejaculation problems if you are unable to ejaculate in an acceptable amount of time. Sex therapy most often includes both partners. In most cases, the therapist will teach you about the sexual response. You also will learn how to communicate and guide your partner to provide the right stimulation.
Therapy often involves a series of "homework" assignments. In the privacy of your home, you and your partner engage in sexual activities that reduce performance pressure and focus on pleasure.
Typically, you will not have sexual intercourse for a certain period of time. In this time, you will gradually learn to enjoy ejaculation through other types of stimulation.
In cases where there is a problem with the relationship or a lack of sexual desire, you may need therapy to improve your relationship and emotional intimacy.
Sometimes hypnosis may be a helpful addition to therapy. This may be useful if one partner is not willing to participate in therapy. Trying to self-treat this problem is often not successful.
If a medicine may be the cause of the problem, discuss other drug options with your health care provider. Never stop taking any medicine without first talking to your provider.
Treatment commonly requires about 12 to 18 sessions. The average success rate is 70 to 80%.
You will have a better outcome if:
- You have a past history of satisfying sexual experiences.
- The problem has not been occurring for a long time.
- You have feelings of sexual desire.
- You feel love toward your sexual partner.
- You are motivated to get treated.
- You do not have serious psychological problems.
If medicines are causing the problem, your health care provider may recommend switching or stopping the medicine, if possible. A full recovery is possible if this can be done.
If the problem is not treated, the following may occur:
- Avoidance of sexual contact
- Inhibited sexual desire
- Marital stress
- Sexual dissatisfaction
If you and your partner are trying to get pregnant, sperm can be collected using other methods.
Prevention of Delayed ejaculation
Having a healthy attitude about your sexuality and genitals helps prevent delayed ejaculation. Realize that you cannot force yourself to have a sexual response, just as you cannot force yourself to go to sleep or to perspire. The harder you try to have a certain sexual response, the harder it becomes to respond.
To reduce the pressure, focus on the pleasure of the moment. Do not worry about whether or when you will ejaculate. Your partner should create a relaxed atmosphere, and should not pressure you about whether or not you have ejaculated. Openly discuss any fears or anxieties, such as fear of pregnancy or disease, with your partner.
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|Review Date: 1/21/2015
Reviewed By: Scott Miller, MD, urologist in private practice in Atlanta, GA. Also reviewed by David Zieve, MD, MHA, Isla Ogilvie, PhD, and the A.D.A.M. Editorial team.
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