... am getting divorced because of the PE. Every sexual partner I have had has been disappointed and not very supportive so it became very cold and nit very affectionate, I have not had self esteem since I stated having sex and the depression and anxiety and lack of self confidence has really ruined my life in many ways. I am petrified to be out there single again snd fear I will never be able to get close to another woman. I don't want the shame and embarrasment anymore. I want confidence, I want to feel like a man. I have never tried any treatments, though I have been on many different meds for depression that have done nothing. What can I get prescribed that could help? I'm in the US by the way
Premature Ejaculation - I have suffered from PE since day one of having sex at 16, I'm now 40 and I?
Question posted by Serene40 on 8 Aug 2014
Last updated on 9 June 2019 by Madmax72
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Madmax72
9 June 2019
I understand your feeling very well I got this problem since 16 years old now I'm 47 years old this bloody disease ruined my life I try everything urologist,sex therapist,cream ,medication nothing working I'm hopeless I'm upset because I haven't got children !! I believe now must be genetic
Madmax72
9 June 2019
Could be thyroid problem? Check your thyroid gland because overactive thyroid disease cause premature ejaculation and check your other hormone levels SHBG, LH, DHEA, free testosterone and total testosterone levels
GregoireD
7 June 2017
I'm 38 and I've been running from intercourse because of my early ejaculation. I'm losing my relationship because I dont talk about it. I make my fiance feel unwanted and I'm not OK with that. I'm scared to talk to her about it because she has it set in her mind that I'm not attracked to her. Please help me I dont want to lose my family because of ej
Kikugee
1 Nov 2014
I have the same situation. That I'm 40 and have had PE since beginning. I was married at age 29 and still living with same partner. However she is getting highly depressed and wants me to improve otherwise she is gonna divorce. She has been supportive in the past but of late she is getting desperate as I can't penetrate her at all.
Did you find any remedy for you self yet? Was seeing a urologist helpful?
Bla1234
16 Nov 2014
Registered just to answer this. I also have had PE since the get-go, still do at 51. It is simply a life long condition without assistance. I realized that if I pulled out just prior to orgasm (around 30 seconds in) and came 'softly' (still came but just barely) and then immediately re-entered her and continued, I was able to overcome my condition. But THAT was the only way without drugs. Being drunk helps, but then your a drunk. One time my wife (now ex) talked me into taking one of her Paxil meds, said it helped her relax. We weren't talking about my PE at all, just a stressful day. I broke it in half and tried it. Didn't feel anything. About 2 or 3 hours later we had sex. Quess what, I had COMPLETE control of my erection. I wasn't fully hard, probably 3/4, but after about 5 minutes of straight fxxking, I realized that didn't have the urge to come at all.
After she got off hard, I simply decided that I was ready, was able to concentrate on having an orgasm and within a minute or so came myself. It was perfect. I swear to god, if I had control like this when I was younger, I'd have probably ended up marrying a different girl (my ex turned out to have a serious behavioral disorder that she never took medication consistently for and I had to leave her). Let me tell you something, since then I did the earlier mentioned "cumming quickly but gently enough to keep my erection" with another girl, and gave her 3 (and frequently more) orgasms most of the time we made love. Your relationships change DRAMATICALLY when you can do this for your woman. It just does. Satisfaction at that level really does mean something. Best of luck, the SSRI does work, although if you have a partner that can handle you pulling out for a few seconds (I would start missionary, pull out and have her get into a doggie position while I nutted, then entered again), you may be successful without the SSRI's. BUT YOUR GIRL HAS TO BE OK WITH IT. Most of the time as soon as they see you've come, they get an attitude and it's over.
Jaycar
26 March 2015
I have had PE for the past 19 years I didn't relive it was a problem because I have always been able to get my wife off by going down on her. I figured as long as she gets off I"m ok. Well not so much, she is on the brink of diviorce . I have been to doctors, read, pills, creams even went down the road of needles in my dick from the Boston group, that helped get rock hard until I ejaculated and but it didn't make me last longer., if the woman just wants penetration and you have ED what do you do? If she can orgasum but she rather have penetration? I am extremely messed up from all of this. I have two kids and they are the reason we are still together. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
Madmax72
20 July 2018
I got premature ejaculation problem since 16 years old my one extreme premature ejaculation now I'm 45 years old this bloody disease ruined my life I believe premature ejaculation problem genetic problem low dopamine cause premature ejaculation
kaismama
8 Aug 2014
Have you seen a urologist? This is something he could help you with. And probably at this point you need a therapist as well. Speaking as a woman who has had a man she loved who got ed after radiation treatment, if a woman only loves you for sex, they aren't worth it. I would never ever have left him just because of that.
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