He gets an erection okay, but he is unable to come... even after hours of stimulation, oral sex, and intercourse. We desperately want a baby, but we need him to ejaculate. Is this normal?? Has anyone else had this problem, and is it fixable?
My bf has taken Viagra, and now Cialis, but can't ejaculate on either and we want a baby! Normal?
Question posted by Sweet stuff on 30 July 2010
Last updated on 29 May 2022 by frantom
8 Answers
One study found that supplementing Cialis with over the counter L-Arginine had superior results than Cialis alone. That has been my experience stimulating to orgasm.
I had the same problem, I don't have a problem with getting an erection or reaching orgasm, I just tried it with my girlfriend for fun.
I found I stayed erect for hours but couldn't reach orgasm, my girlfriend had a great time!
I was a little frustrated but it was fun being a rampant stud for the evening
Definitely cut the dose. Same thing happened to me on both.
I would take half the pill (10mg of a 20mg C pill in my case, or 25 mg of a 50 mg V pill), I'd get nervous because I don't have an instant erection, and end up taking the other half. I'd be sporting a telephone pole, but no feeling whatsoever, and eventually I would just give up.
I finally decided one day to trust the half-pill. No issues. Felt like normal sex.
Too much is definitely a bad thing with these sorts of drugs. Use the absolute minimum dose needed to get an erection, and not a mg more!
I have the same problem using genuine V 50 mg or genuine C 10 mg.
However the problem dissappeared with me at 24 hours after taking the C but the erection quality is a bit less comparing to taking the same pill 2 hours before making love..
At 24 hours I reached orgasm within few minutes (within 5 -10 minutes).
What I will try next time is instead of taking the C 2 hours before making love
, I'll try to take it 4 hours before making love and I'll see.. If the problem still persist I'll take it 6 hours before and so on until I get the best equilibrium between erection and ability to reach orgasm in reasonable time.
Other option also is try to cut the pill.
It's really trials and it changes from one person to another
Good luck
I have been unable to come for over 7 months, last November 3 was my last orgasm with ejaculation. In March I had my 90th birthday and realize my age is a factor. I take several cardiac related drugs including Coreg 25 mg twice daily and Lisinopril 10 mg once daily, Plavix 75 mg daily and Pravastatin 40 mg daily. I take Cialis 5 mg daily for both ED and BPH. I have an appointment next Monday with my urologist and plan to ask him if there is anything we can do to help me ejaculate (come). Frequent ejaculations are good treatment for BPH. Even though I don't get hard I had been able to come with intense 15 to 20 minutes oral and hand stimulation.
I've had this same problem. I'm not on any anti-depressives or anything like that. I have no problem climaxing without viagra. But when I take it, I find I'm almost "too hard" and I lose sensitivity. This makes it a lot more difficult, if not impossible, to climax. He could try taking a smaller dose. I found that I could take half, or even less, of the prescription dose (by cutting the pill) and that would still give me the hardness I need, but wouldn't reduce sensitivity so much that I couldn't get where I was going.
Also, he should try abstaining for a couple of days before you're at peak fertility.
Hope that helps.
Not long ago I was having the same problem as your boyfriend. I have been taking effexor for depression for a year and a half. Found it to be better than other meds to regain sexual arousal than other anti depressants. Effexor still affects me, but viagra helped with remaining hard yet often unable to ejaculate.. Several months ago I was having muscle tone loss and sexual desire diminishing. Had testosterone checked and found out I was way below normal. Have been on testosterone for a month and a half and am doing much better. I almost am always able to ejaculate now. Hope this helps.
Some drugs for depression can cause this. Like Sertraline. Should be fixable, Some ejaculate before they get there. Think he needs to see Doctor.
He is currently taking cialis, but it's for sexual dysfunction, not depression. Thanks for taking the time to answer!!
I wasn't very clear on my answer, sorry. Depression could cause Sexual dysfunction. Sexual dysfunction can cause depression along with all the other mind altering moods. Being 75, it's a big hit on our manhood. age, PAD, late divorce got me, I think. The idea is still there. Good luck. Best to both of you.
Sweetstuff,
The problem may also be the amount of pressure that he's under to perform.
How often are you "trying"? Every day? Every hour? Every time you make love? Some couples find that when they relax and quit "trying" so hard, that conception happens much more readily. This may also be the problem for ejaculation. I have to ask, does he masturbate? Is he able to climax from his own hand? If so, then that's half the battle. If not, a doctor is in order. Also, if he does climax, how often before he can attempt another climax? If you're constantly after him to climax and ejaculate, you may be "running the well down to empty faster than it can fill" if you forgive the expression. Some reduction in frequency and pressure might help.
Finally, are you REALLY sure that he's on board with wanting this child?
I have the same problem. My problem is caused by taking Cymbalta. Cialis gives me an erection, but I can't ejaculate. It's very frustrating. So I have to decide between the benefits of Cymbalta and my sex life. I take Cymbalta for Fybrmyalgia and Depression.
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