... and we are newlyweds. He has tried Levitra however it isn't working and we now have arguments from this. I feel this is making our relationship worse. We have been married about six months and I have never had more than oral with him. My needs as a woman are not being met. After 30 minutes game is over. What else can my husband take or do for us to both be more satisfied? He gives up and goes to sleep and I am left upset. I want to help but don't know what to do. Anyone have any suggestions?
1 Jan 2010
Do you really love this man or do you just want him just for sex? You knew from the start that he had diabetes. With diabetes comes much illiness and heartache.
You need to do two things. Firstly take him to see a Urologist, then both of you see a sex therapist. If you do not do these two the marriage is over. You married for better and for worst.
I now give you homework. Read everything you can about his illiness as when you married him this is yours too.
1 Jan 2010
Of course there are other medications, such as cialis and viagra. I read where the sex therapists are saying to use them no less than 10 times before saying they pills don't work. They also don't work immediately, it takes at least 30 minutes. The most important sex organ to me it the brain and you two need to be on the same page. You probably need to both be very relaxed and not let this stress you when you are trying. Some extended foreplay for both of you should help. When I say use the pills at least 10 times, of course I don't mean in the same day, use is separately 10 times. The more comfortable your husband gets while using these pills, the more likely they are to work and they will work more quickly.
8 Apr 2010
All natural Meds are B.S. , they may work pyschologicaly,
There are other ways to go for ED , The injection works,called cavajet., or a surgically placed pump,they are great , just turn the knob and up it goes. Of course Medicaid will not be a big help. Look on YOUTUBE
31 Oct 2010
I was on several meds when I was 45 and one of the drugs I was on caused severe weight gain which lead to type II diabetes, but at the time I didn't know that I was diabetic. I started having a little trouble achieving a full erection and maintaining it just every once in awhile, so I consulted my family doctor who ran tests and gave me the news about my diabetes. I read everything I could on the subject and its terrible side effects on the human body. I came to only one conclusion and that was to exercise more and lose the extra pounds I had put on by maintaining a healthier diet. I lost the weight and no longer test positive for diabetes, and guess what ? now at well over 50 and without viagra, and all those other erection pills I am enjoying sex with my lady 3-5 times per day. I feel like a young 20 something again and it was all about diet and losing the weight, and leading a healthier lifestyle. Your doctors will tell you the same thing, and they ain't lying.
10 Dec 2010
I am diabetic, have had prostate cancer, was previously on blood pressure medicine. In other words, I have had all the strikes against me. I too had a serious esophaguel cancer which seemed to be most harmful to my sex life.
I have tried the main ones over the years, Muse, Viagara, Levitra, Cialis. All worked for awhile and then everything got so expensive and no insurance coverage for ED drugs, I tried the generic on internet. Some of them worked but all seem less potent than the professional ones.
Your doctor should give you some samples, the do me.
I tried the vacuum pump and it works. My wife seems to be turned off by it but she likes the results. Large Firm and will last until band is removed. Can not leave on more than 30 mi.
Now, my doctor just gave me a prescription for Trimix. This is a solution that you inject into the base of the penis and you must have specific instructions to do it right with no harm. They recommend not to use it more than 10 times a month. That's not enough for me so I will use a combination of the pump and Trimix.
Giving yourself an injection into the penis seems OOOOOOO SOOOOOOO BAAAAADDDD, but it is with a small needle and hurts for only an instant and the results are well worth the moment of pain.
Good Luck and God Bless You Both. By the way I am 73 but still try.
24 Dec 2010
hi i have ed and have used all of the oral drugs with little or no effect. i recently tried MUSE intra urethral supposatories 500mg. to very good effect,after insertion avery good,hard,erection occured within 5 to ten minutes,which lasted about 30 to 45 minutes,it was wonderful,i hope this helps you both.the drug name is ALPROSTIDIL
19 Mar 2011
FIRST you have to find out the reason why he is having this problem . there are several questions a proffesional will ask him and you will pinpoint the problem. I take testerone .they did bloodwork and found with my medications my levels were low I rub cream on my back everyday and in no time I was a lion again lol, did not have to take viagra or any other blue pill
19 May 2011
I am also type 2 diabetic and I have issues with maintaining erections. Thankfully my wife is understanding with me. Maybe I can't make love to her all the time, but when I do I make sure that she has an orgasm as well. I've tried viagra, I didn't like how it made me feel. I felt like my nose was stuffed and my pulse felt like it was raised. The other thing that helps also is that if I can't get an erection, my wife tells me not to beat myself up about it. Instead I find other ways to help her reach orgasm.
22 Oct 2011
You are both losing out on a beautiful side of marriage. Admittedly, being a male, I understand his frustration and embarassment better than yours. But I see the difference for my wife, too. There are other pills that he could talk to his doctor about, different drugs work better for different males. I would suggest stressing the advantages of his seeking the help of his Doctor (who WILL understand). Another possibility is an implant. (No drugs to possibly interfere with his diabetes medications.) My Dad had one for many years before he passed, - - and loved it. Hope this helps :)
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