***WARNING: Long winded, but straight-forward advice based on personal experience.***
I used
cocaine for about two years, and I know what you're saying. I'm a professional who runs my own business - not some junkie raver. Yet like everyone else, I'm just as vulnerable to addiction as the next guy. I used anywhere from a gram to a quarter ounce on an almost daily basis. I've experimented with a lot of different drugs, but nothing ever consumed my life as much as coke did. It was the first drug I would have dreams about using and it seemed to consume every outlet of my life - even when I was sleeping (or when I could actually sleep). I have not used coke for more than two years now and every day when I wake up, I feel great knowing that it no longer consumes my life.
I have advice for you and you aren't going to like it. I didn't like it either when I was in your situation, but I eventually realized I had to accept it and face it. So here I go...
Friends
You mention friends you can't get ride of. Face it man, what is your friendship with this people all about? Is it so you feel the comfort of having other people to get high with? Is it because of so many coked out sessions with these people that you get that weird, yet fake, "coke bond" with them? (You know how people are extremely friendly and patronizing when they do coke together - I too developed my own "coke family"). I had a lot of people who I considered great friends at the time, but I had to face the fact that it was either these "friendships" or my life. It hurts bailing on these people, but you absolutely have to do what's best for you. It will hurt to cut them out of your life, but if you truely want to get clean, you're going to have to do it.
I never realized how much these people influenced me until I stopped associating with them. Once I started feeling normal again after quitting, I finally told them straight up that as long as they were using, I couldn't hang out with them. I told them I absolutely didn't want them to invite me to use it again and that if they were truely my friends, then they would respect that.
Don't lie to yourself. When you're addicted to cocaine, you develop a weak mentality where you'll almost always find a way to justify getting high. My strongest advice is to cut these people out of your life until they clean up as well. Hell, when I quit using, it actually set an example for a couple of my junkie friends and they in turn cleaned up following my lead. Make new friends that are clean. Taking yourself out of situations where you'll be tempted to use is one of, if not the biggest step towards cleaning up.
Rehab
As I said before, I wasn't you stereotypical street junkie that had to steal things and sell them at pawn shops to get high. I have a college degree, run my own self-started business and from an outsiders view would actually be seen as a respectible person. But I was living a double life. I thought I could keep up with my work and personal commitments and still use at the same time, and I honestly did without anyone knowing except for the people I used it with.
I finally went on my own will to a treatment center, aka rehab. It was a hard decision for me and I really, REALLY had to humble myself and attitude to do it. I didn't want to go to those meetings either because of having to sit with "those people." But honestly, when you boil it down, you're just as same as the unemployed high school dropout when it comes to addiction. I made more money and had an education, but I was still a junkie. I was extremely reluctant to go to my first group meeting. I hated the idea of sitting with a bunch of other people and talking about my problem. I was also being way too judgemental of the other people I would be there with. But seriously man, lose that attitude. When you're a cokehead, you aren't any better than them and you have no room whatsoever to judge them.
Don't rule out rehab. Once again, you have to humble yourself to do it - I know I did. I forced myself go to a one-on-one evaluation with a consouler for the first time, dreading the idea. I felt like a total loser and thought I would get stuck with some asshole who didn't understand my problem at all. But after talking to the guy for 10 minutes, I was finally able to tell someone what I was doing. Someone who actually cared and would help me help myself.
A big misconception I had was that I just needed to quit the cravings. I WANTED the cravings to quit. I needed to know why I decided to turn to drugs and what was keeping me from quitting.
Don't think you're too good to go to rehab, because as long as you're addicted to coke, you aren't. You're only saying that because you're afraid, but there's nothing to be afraid of. Support is one of the best tactics for cleaning up, not bull**** like accupuncture (And for your information, I tried that and hypnosis, but it was just a waste of money because I was back using the next day. It didn't help me find the root of my problem).
There isn't an easy way to get clean. It's a process that takes time and the motivation to follow through. So bottom line:
1) Break away from the "friends" you use it with. 2) Don't turn your back to rehab or treatment programs. You aren't too good for it and once you clean up, you'll appreciate it.
You may hate these ideas, I definately did, but this is a much better option that using for the rest of your life. It won't be easy, but if I can do it, I know anyone can. It will be rough for awhile, but things will get so much better in your life in every aspect. I promise you.
I hope you actually read all that. You sound a lot like I did when I decided to quit and I really want you to listen and think about what I said. Take care of yourself and be strong.
Peace,
Dan