some how i find it easier to talk to people on here. my doc says its a positive development that i trade conversation of any kind. i really appreciate it.
I'm allot like you, I'll email and chat here, but run in the other direction when a phone rings, lol. I avoid people when I'm out in the grocery store, if I'm in a mood where I don't want to talk. To make friends here you just hang around and get to know us, and you can click on anyones pic and then friend us, you will see where, then they get an email and will friend you back, then you can talk privately here.
Hello John and welcome to the forum, We are a pretty friendly bunch here. We usually toss out a question to the group about a new med, a side effect, a problem, sometimes even a situation we have had at a medical appointment. We often ask for support from the group when we are having a tough time with something in everyday life or in our treatment. Sooo, I have "friends" in the group that I have never met! They don't judge me if I have purple hair, big feet, dress weird or talk funny. I think you'll find that people are kind to one another here.
Why don't you try to give a little background about yourself, your med history? Maybe start with something like that if you feel comfortable. I'm sure you will make some new friends very soon!
By the way, I will also "add you as my friend." After I have done this, you can send me a personal message if you like. You'll have the hang of this in no time! Good luck!
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Welcome. We are here to help in any way we can. Making connections can be difficult, but are tremondously important. Thumbs up for doing this. Talk publicly, or privately by friending any of us. I promise you there will be no judging or shame. We all want everyone to get better.
Hello John. We don't have doctors on this site. We do have people who are or were nurses, health workers and lots of people familiar to all kinds of disease and conditions.
Many are familiar with anxiety. In my family we have social anxiety, performance anxiety, and I had medication induced panic attacks. That covers quite a bit right there. We trade stories and get suggestions. We don't have to trade emails or phone numbers or really even what country we live in. The real help comes from people listening and a side benefit is that we often find we have much to share and help others. Best of all, we really know we are not alone. We hear from people with the same problems and we know we can find a way to understand and help ourselves.
We will listen to what you wish to discuss about your situation, fears, and hopes. Wanting to find someone to talk with was my reason for joining. Hope to hear more from you, Karen
I'm suffering from medium social anxiety, but major agoraphobia and not comfortable talking to people when face to face or on the phone but I do fine here.
It's great to know that there are others out there who have the same problems.
I guess I am lucky in some ways as I live in the country and the nearest neighbor is 1 1/2 miles away so I feel fairly comfortable going out in my yard as I'm not likely to see anyone and my dogs bark if they hear someone coming.
There are alot of good people on here so you are sure to find a few that you can really relate to.
You will find a lot of Friendly people here. We ask questions on Health and sometimes an update of ourselves! Sometimes we will even joke around with each other. I have nice friends here that I never met but wish I could because I they sound so nice. Hope you enjoy your experience here, I know I do.
Hello John, I also deal with a lot of social anxiety. Sometimes, it takes every bit of strength from me to go out the door. I don't know how I ever functioned as a Nurse, I know I couldn't so it again. I also spend time on the computer the computer to connect with people. I try to get out and be around people, but I always fear I am going to have a pain attack and that in itself freaks me out.
I'm very happy that you are here! We can be a funny bunch, if you get to know the right people and things can get a bit goofy at times. OK, if I'm involved they usually get goofy!
But if anyone has a problem we rally round and support that person, so you can count on me and I must say that the others on this site are all some super positive and supportive people, great people, really!
I hope you find this site as much as a Godsend as I have. I've been here four years, with a tiny break when I closed my first account, but I HAD to come back because tis such a great place!
John & Ashley,
Welcome to a Wonderful site you will find some great friends here. I have senT friend request to both of you & would love to chat with you. Once you accept my friend request you can send me "private questions" there is a spot for this. Just push on my icon (adavatar" ) or just go to your friends group to send private messages. Private messages is a way to send personalized.messages & no body can see the messages on the main board, except the person you send the message to. "
First off John I am Very proud that you put alot of your history on the site add that was very courages ecspecially with the anxiety issues you have.
.I too had an a AWFUL childhood as there was ALOT of things my step dad (Monster) did & my mother allowed it. But after several years of therapy I have resolved alot of that... Once I had kids I was so afraid I would not know what to do as I knew I NEVER wanted my kids to be treated in the matter...
So I took everything I knew growing up & did the COMPLETE Opposite... And my kids turned to new the kindest & biggest hearts like me. They work & Volunteer alot.. They are my heart & soul...
I believe almost Everyone on this site has had Alot of painful child hoods... I also believe that there is a HUGE FORK IN THE ROAD.. That EVERYONE has the opportunity to stand strong & not let it drag you down with it ... Or let that abuse be am excuse to Repeat the abuse inn your adult life.. Please I hope everyone takes the HIGH & MOST REWARDING choice.
I also have Social Anxiety so bad that I Very rarely go into ANY store. Thank goodness for my fiancee but know his health has gotten really bad. When I do go to a store it has to be a small store like a pharmacy.
After about 15 min. my Panic attacks kick in..
The social Anxiety really began 2yrs ago when I was forced to quit working due to all my medical conditions. I have Always had Panic attacks but they have so Much worse. I also have High Anxiety & depression & Agrophobia. Plus SO many more medical conditions once you go into my icon to add me as a friend you will see my bio that gives you a greater explanation about me.
That is something that would be helpful for both of you to Add a "Bio" about yourself that way people can get familiar with you & your history.
I encourage ANYONE that Wants our NEEDS a friend please send me a request.
I am a Great Listener & have been told by friends that I am a.Great friend I am an open book..i am honest & Do Not Judge anyone. I am very straight forward person & I Value friends & ALWAYS enjoy making friends... So I am here... I hope to talk to you soon.about Anything & everything..
Sorry for such a long post. Kathy
The first goal is to write write write. Expressing yourself in writing helps get it out of you. You are taking the first step John. Continue to write your feelings. I judge no one. As you continue to write, perhaps you will find some answers as to why you don't want to be socially interactive in person. Write your feelings here. We will support you. If you find you are unsure as to whether you want to truly open up to strangers, continue to write your feelings out on paper or on your computer. Then, reach out to your doctor and allow the doctor to read it all. This is a great avenue to relieve anxiety and stress. Are you a believer in God? Know you are worthy. The first step is knowing you are worthy. When you write, you can release all emotions and get to the root of your anxiety. Allowing yourself to trust in a healthcare professional is a wonderful step in getting the help you need. There is so much life to live.
It's not your fault but it sounds like you have taken an initial step in reaching out and that is phenomenal! Keep me posted on your progress and remember : knowing you are worthy is the first step in seeking help. Keep writing and sharing and I.pray you get the help needed so you can start living. I'll pray for your continued success in getting on the right path to the real John. GOD Bless.
I have social anxiety, depression, a brain injury which causes me to be forgetful, agitated easily, confused, and undecided most of the time. I don't like walking into crowded rooms where everyone is sitting down, if I see a small group of people that are high school age or college age walking toward me... I feeling like walking or running in the opposite direction! I've been bullied and used and am really nervous to about being close by anyone in those age groups because of that. I was recently insulted by a tall and lanky young dude while shopping at the local mall. I wanted to slap his face, but that would have meant assault charges and a steep fine for me and I'm pretty sure he would have got the upper hand. I hear you, I hate being afraid to talk to people, it get's me nowhere in life, I need to stand up and take no @#$#@# from anyone! [and that's hard to do for someone scared of violent retaliation].
I was so happy to come back by here and see you writing. Man, you have made a LOT of progress. You're writing about the gut wrenching pain in your past, you're going out, attending group and continuing to make friends on this site!
That's really great, and in just a few months. There are always going to be people and situations in life that irritate us. How we respond to being irritated is what's important.
It's difficult at times for the world to
understand individuals with closed head injuries. If someone has a handicapping condition that's easy to see, it seems that society can more easily accept this. When you're not in a wheel chair or don't have a visible disability, some people can be cruel.
In any case I am SO happy to see that you're still participating on this site, helping others and learning during the process.
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