she got in a wreck years ago. now weve been fighting roxys for almost 10 yrs. we take 3 to 4 30's a day. i got some subs from a friend and they seemed to work great for me so ive been trying to get her to switch to subs so we can move on with our lives together. i thought i was doing well until i read some of this. i dont know if i should ask her to switch now. im afraid it may be my doing to send us to a darker place. i started with a whole strip for 2 days. been doing half now for about 4 days. i have about 5 left and had planned to try to use them to finish up but it seems i wont be able to quit so quickly. i dont want to drag it out into another addiction thats worse. is it a good idea to try to quit on my own even though she may not do it at the same time, or should i stay on it and try to do it with her? we live together so i cant escape the r's even at home unless i can get her to do it with me. ive done it before without her but its impossible to make it stick. eventually i break.
How do you get clean with a spouse who sees pain doctors every month and make it stick? trying to l?
- 19 Mar 2012 by mikeh390
- 21 March 2012
hey Mike, this situation is called co-dependency/ co- addiction. AL Anon would be helpful for you, i say that AL Anon is easier sometimes to find and get to then Narc Anon, same principle, just easier to find, more prevalent meeting. They are there for the family and friends of addicts, whether it is alcohol or drugs. You would get support and suggestions for how other in your situation handled it. Of course you want to stay with your wife, you love her. With the help of a therapist or the AlAnon members, you may have to decide whether it is better for you to stay or leave. Knowledge and support will really help, we can provide some, but these types of situtations are kinda like tangled knots, you have to find which part of the snarl to attack first, so to speak. I hope things get better. You really should see a legit subs dr too. Subs are not a magic medication, they are one of the many tools in the toolbox or recovery, therapy is another. Support is another. Best of luck, patti
I was wondering if your wife has a REAL legit reason for taking the pain meds? The reason I ask is that my hubby and I are in a similar situation. I am disabled and have serious pain issues. I won't list them all here but suffice it to say that I will probably be on pain meds the rest of my life. My hubby started taking my pain meds after a car wreck but after he got better found that he REALLY liked them. It got really bad to the point of him taking them (knowing that I would suffer) and then lying about it. We almost divorced over it. He was very ashamed and didn't want to continue hurting me.
He went into a treatment center, got on subs and did the addiction therapy. This was a life saver for us and our marriage. That was 3 years ago. This was a miracle for him and he has been able to stay clean since.
So, this is our story and has worked for us. Just wanted to let you know that there is hope. He has no desire to take pills now and can even pick up my prescriptions for roxys with no problem. I wish you both the best of luck. Let me know if I can help in any way.
Your friend -Terri-
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