I have been married for 11 years. Has has been verbaly abussive. I am diagnosed w bipolar, by the way. This past year he hit me across the eye, cheek. After that he raised his hand to hit me several times, to scare me. He has even scared me with his truck, like he was going to hit me. I took him to domestic violence court, about the truck. He lied in court and i did not confrot him, and he walked away free of all charges. When i left the court house he was waiting on me at my truck. When i saw him i turned around and started walking back to the door. He saw me and started screaming. I took off my shoes and ran into the building. He came in after me, security stopped him. He was caught on tape this time. While we were in court his truck had gotten repossesed. I talked to the repo guy and he said the police took pot & pills out of his car. There were scales to, but the officer did not take them. I knew he smoked pot. I had no idea he was selling it. I defenatilly did not have a clue he was on pills. I am scared for him. No matter what has happened i love him. Dont get me wrong after chasing me into court, were he has warrents at, i will not hesitate to call 911 if i see him.
I am bipolar also. If I understand you correctly, you are still together with your husband? You may benefit from some alanon or narcotics anonymous meetings. Are you familiar with them? I highly recommend you check some out. You would get the support you need and it would help you cope with your stressful situation. You can find them in the phone book under alcoholic anonymous or narcotics anonymous. Make the phone call and briiefly tell the person your situation and they will help you find some meetings.
Your husband has a problem which you are not responsible for. You can't fix him. He has to want to get help. You need to take care of yourself and your family first and foremost. Do you have kids?
Were you able to identify the pills you wrote in about? It may not be important to know their identity but you need to stay away from his use as much as possible. I would hate to see you go to jail because of him.
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You say you love this "man". Actions speak so much louder than words.
Does he love you? Is abuse love? Please ask yourself these questions.
Also, do you want to model this for your daughters? That it is OK for your husband to hit you or go after you with a vehicle?
Very glad to know you left him and are now safe. Please do not allow your husband back into your life until he has a few years of sobriety under his belt, if you even decide you want him back. There are so very many single, real men out there that would love you and not be abusive to you. Please know that you are worth more than your husbands brand of "love"!!!
Best wishes to you, and please keep us informed on your situation, we care,
im bipolar also,putting your hands on anyone in anger is wrong ,please get him to see it makes things wourse,even if you love him ,dont let anyone do this to you,there is no reason if he loves you to harm you anyway -take care of your self it must stop[!you forsure are worth it .
The most important thing you did was realize you deserve so much better than this!! NEVER look back and feel sorry about pressing charges or leaving this abusive person. He does not deserve to have you. I am happy to hear you are safe and away from him. Look forward to building a new life for you and your children. There are real men out there who treat women with respect and would NEVER raise their hand to them or hit them. Only cowards who are afraid of REAL men do this. They feel power over women and think this is how you control them. Keep looking forward, stay in support groups and do what is best for you and your children...
I will keep you in my prayers.
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