I’m 31 and recently started wondering is this what’s wrong with me? Help!!! Has anyone just found out they were suffering from this?
Yes, many adults find out that they have ADHD as an adult. As adults our symptoms are different than in children. We are distracted easily, have trouble prioritizing things in our lives which also makes it hard to hold a job, its hard for us to stay focused on tasks and to finish them out. We tend to be disorganized, restless, and easily distracted. Some people with ADHD have trouble concentrating while reading. The inability to stay focused and follow through on tasks can derail careers, ambitions, and relationships. Often we have trouble with self control so we anger easily and have difficulty controlling anger, we have impulsive behaviors, blurt out answers or interrupt conversations or give rude or insulting answers without meaning to. Some adults with ADHD can focus intently on things they enjoy or find interesting -- the ability to hyperfocus. But they struggle to pay attention to tasks that bore them. The trouble is that many tasks necessary for success in everyday life are dull, from making a grocery list to filing documents at work. People with ADHD tend to put off boring tasks in favor of more enjoyable activities. We tend to have trouble "multi-tasking" and distractions that come with every day life interfere with completion of tasks. Many adults don’t learn that they have ADHD until they get help for another problem, such as anxiety or depression. Discussing poor habits, troubles at work, or marital conflicts often reveals that ADHD is at fault. To confirm the diagnosis, the disorder must have been present during childhood, even if it was never diagnosed. Old report cards or talking with relatives can document childhood problems, such as poor focus and hyperactivity. We tend to be daydreamers at school and work and we often got into trouble for talking and not listening to our teachers and/or not completing assignments. Most ADHD'ers are highly intelligent-we think outside the box which can be a good trait to have in some jobs. We just need to learn the skills to organize ourselves better. We tend to be more at risk for abusing alcohol, drugs or smokers. Sometimes these sorts of behaviors are ways of trying to self treat our symptoms. If you feel you might have ADHD, its good to see a psychiatrist as they can go through a checklist of traits common to ADHD and diagnose it as well as treat it. Medications are usually stimulants to stimulate parts of the brain we need to use and turn off parts of our brain that we dont-we have trouble filtering out thoughts and sensations more than people without ADHD. Some adults find that counseling helps them better or as well as medications. Counseling for ADHD focuses on getting organized, setting helpful routines, repairing relationships, and improving social skills. There is evidence that cognitive-behavioral therapy is particularly helpful in managing problems of daily life that are associated with ADHD. I would recommend that you google "ADHD in adults" and read over more about ADHD traits in adults and if you find you have a lot of the traits then see a psychiatrist and talk about the options that are best for you. Adults with ADHD don’t outgrow the condition, but many learn to manage it successfully. Long-term treatment can reduce problems at home and at work, bringing patients closer to their families and their professional goals. Hope this helps, but truly, be sure to look it up and do a bit of research. My children have ADHD and in researching their condition I discovered that I, too, have had undiagnosed ADHD all my life! There are several good websites with info on ADHD. Good Luck! Remember you are not alone and this condition can be managed quite well once you are given the right tools!
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