It makes me sad and angry to hear women say that their partners want to leave them b/c of their mood swings from the pill. As women we have to deal with all these horrible effects of birth control, men do not. I would think that a man would be supportive and sympathetic of the fact that a woman has to go through this. Why stay with someone who is not suportive of you, are you not deserving of support? -Laura
I haven't heard that as an excuse yet. Some men just aren't capable of thinking of others. Some women think they do something to deserve bad treatment. In a marriage where somehow everything bad that happens is your fault, as in this, its not me its you because of your mood swings, you truly get trapped because you start feeling they must be right. Your self esteem drops to the point that even a strong person is afraid to strike out alone. I was in a marriage where my husband constantly told me I was useless, until he had me believing it, and were it not for several friends I would never have had the nerve to leave him. I am not a weak person, I have always been confident and strong, and he could do this to me.
Sometimes it is hard for a woman or man to leave a relashionship that is abusive. They feel that they are not capable to move on without the other spouse or companion. My first marriage started vocal abuse then turn into physical abuse so we parted. I kicked him out and he went to live with his parents. I myself just had lost my job but I had not told him yet. I got evicted and moved into a room in a house for a week then went to a different province where I only had to pay one month rent witch was all I had left. I then got evicted from there and a new friend took me in because I would of been on the street a this time. That gave me the chance to get my life together again. I was a really hard time in my life but I got trough it because I know God was always watching over me! By the way it is hard for some people to put themselves in your shoes so the support is not there.
Fear of change keeps people from leaving a tough situation. Doubt and anxiety are the rulers of this thinking. It takes a strong woman, not just smart, to want change. And courage to leave. Some men will wake up by seeing a therapist with the woman. Some never learned empathy. True of women too. I applaud all who have the supporting spouse and the courage to solve their dilemma.
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