I jus found out that my wife has been abusing hydrocodone. This is supposedly been going on for over a yr. $400-$800 a month. Whack I hear is roughly $3-$5 a pill. Could someone give me some advice??
I myself was doing the same thing but for around 10 yrs, but At $4-$5 a pill depending on what strength was available i was spending about $1200 a month over the past few yrs. Theres a good chance that she'll progressively start needing even more if it goes unnoticed to her, and she continues longer-I dont know if youve talked to her about whats going on, but there really isnt any way to help her without opening up a line of communication and confronting the situation. If shes like me she'll resist. I recently (a week ago) realized with the help of my girl and my family that i couldnt do it anymore, and it was ruining my life so i went to see a suboxone doctor and have been on that for a week with good results. That doesnt mean she would have to take the same route, i dont know how physically addicted she is but it is an option if shes unable to get off them on her own and it seems to be the most popular way of dealing with addiction .
At the length of time shes been taking this amount, there may be a less invasive way she could go about getting off the pills and the sooner the better. Maybe you could find an addiction specialist to talk to and get advice. Its very difficult to break an addiction, and she will need constant support and help with doing it. She also will need to be at the point where she wants to stop doing it too,if she doesnt want to its so much harder- the addiction manipulates everything and makes it very difficult to stop. It took over every aspect of my life, and no one could get through to me untill i saw how i was hurting people around me. I think the best advice i could give you is talk to her, feel out where she stands on it all and try and see if shes willing to get help for it. At that point depending on her willingness to make a move, will help you decide what you can do to help her. Theres a chance she wont have as hard of a time getting off as i did, but everyone is different. There usually seems to be an underlying cause people turn to the comfort of the pills, when they dont need them for medical reasons. The more information you can put out here, the more specific advice you will get back, and there is a lot of very helpful and caring people here that could help you. The 1st step for me was knowing that i was exposed, and everyone knew what i was doing. And it still took a long time before i actually did something about it,but eventually i realized i had no choice. I was given altimatums, and that was all it took for me to make the move. I didnt wanna lose the people that were most important to me.I researched my options, and chose the one i felt i needed. I hope you find some more answers,but the best advice may come from a specialist, or someone experienced who understands how the addicted brain works and operates- If you keep posting your progress here, youll probably get more feedback--- Best of luck
Depending on whether you want to confront her, you need to be prepared for the addictive response which is one of denial. If she is not ready as in hasn't hit a bottom yet, then she will probably fight you on this issue. The best thing for you to do is not enable her. Do not pick up the pieces when she screws up. If she spends all her money, don't bale her out by giving her more for example. Making sure she suffers the natural consequences of her behavior while difficult will be the best impetous to quitting.
Once she is ready to quit the addiction, she will have basically three choices: stop cold turkey and suffer the withdrawals, taper off the hydrocodone and avoid most of the withdrawals or take Suboxone to detox from the hydrocodone. Each of the methods have there pros and cons.
Best thing for you to do at this point is educate yourself about the disease of addiction, learn about tough love, don't enable her, and if you confront her with an ultimatum be prepared for her to lie about her use.
The following link may help you learn about addiction:
You can find more articles by googling "loved ones of addiction".
Hope this helps,
i'm sorry to hear that, but the advice i give is harsh and from a personal experience, so if i offend you i'm truly sorry that is not my intention at all. I was married to an alcoholic who was out of control, lost several jobs, custody of his daughter, me, his car. But an addict you can't help, you just can't they first have to realize they are an addict and if they do realize they are they have to want help. anything you do is going to piss her off and just cause fights, my suggestion is if you want talk to her about it, she if she realizes she is an addict and if she want's help, if not back off you'll make it worse, Now if you have kids, you need to start to concentrate on YOU and YOUR children, and let her drown.
My ex-husband shoot and killed himself last weekend because he couldn't handle being an addict and didn't want help and everybody was on his case trying to get him to goto rehab, always confronting him, and it drove him to suicide, the better thing would have been for everybody to leave him alone, stop bugging him let him deal with his addiction on his terms and he might still be alive today, now my daughter is without a father, and someday i'm going to have to explain what happened. So please take care of yourself and don't push her, you could push her over the edge, and if you have to leave her then that's what you have to do. I'm sorry again if this is offensive but iv'e been through it and my daughter's dad would be here today if people would have just let him deal with it when he was ready..
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