My hubby started on Subs last Wednesday... first few days, he said that he actually felt normal. Then the w/ds began. The sweats, nausea and all that good stuff. Here the past few days, his sleeping pattern is very screwed up. I called into work for a family emergency day and he literally jumped down my throat. So, after he went to try to lay back down, I called the place where he first started his treatments and asked them what I could do for his restlessness. They told me to tell him to up his dose to one more time of day. I felt like I buried myself then. It is now after 3am and I dread telling him what I done when I feel like I was trying to help him. I told him that this is OUR problem and we are gonna face it together, but he thinks that he is a burden just cause I called in this ONE day. I want to help him. We all need and love him so very much, but I don't want to make him disappointed in me. Any help like really really fast would be gladly appreciated...
I noticed that you posted this 2 weeks ago but I thought that, if I left you a response, it could be helpful.
I am sure you are out of the w/d stage by now. But, I can promise you, your husband is probably still not sleeping. More than likely, he will not sleep again (comfortably) for a very long time (months to years depending on the severity of his addiction).
I personally have seen it effect people for years. Recovering addicts always wonder why they are not sleeping. They also become extremely irritable. The clinical answer is that opiate abuse causes a change in the chemical makeup in the brain. This chemical imbalance within the brain causes the insomnia (as well as other consequences). If you have some time to learn about opiate abuse and the chemical and mind altering effects on a person, read, “The Selfish Brain.”
His doctor and/or psychotherapist can prescribe him non-addictive medications to help with sleep. I personally suggest seeing a psychotherapist; they are the most abreast to the newest medications and treatments for addiction therapy. And treating the addiction is only one part of the process. Opiate abuse also causes severe depression. Something got him to become addicted to opiates, so that needs to be treated as well. He should probably be on an anti-depressant.
There are a lot of really great new tests out there (blood work/lab), that can show what a patient can metabolize as far as medications are concerned. These tests eliminate the waiting game and back and fourths with what medication the patient is responding too and what is working and what is not. If a patient can not metabolize a specific medication, then clearly, it will not work to their benefit.
I know he feels like a burden, he is ashamed and probably has plenty of guilt – this is why he has seeked the treatment of Suboxone. But remember, if an addict does not have any feelings of shamefulness or guilt, then he has no reason to stop, so this is a good thing. He is realizing his addiction. I can voice an opinion about Suboxone as well, but I don’t feel that this is a time or place. Subxone can be a miracle drug, if used correctly as a tool for recovery.
If I can give one piece of advice, it would be to show support to your husband. Encourage the 12 step program and his attendance at NA or AA meetings. He needs to work the steps to maintain his recovery and sobriety. But, I would also, not blame yourself. You did not cause this and you can not cure it. The only person who can fix it, is your husband.
For an addict, addiction is the only disease that you have to convince yourself you have (and others). Addiction IS a disease and it will eat you alive if you allow it too.
I always use the analogy of cancer. If an addict was told they had cancer, I am sure they would seek treatment immediately and do the best they could to fight that disease.
He can not take responsibility for having the disease but he can take responsibility for dealing with the disease.
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