I went to rehab to get off vicodin. I was taking 30 a day and it took me 6 weeks to recover and I still don't feel quite myself yet. My husband was an abslolute dream through the whole process. I couldn't have done it without him. As a matter of fact... I felt so comfortable talking to him about my withdrawls and my temptations that I stopped going to counseling because he was all I needed. My Husband has now failed me because he threw my addiction back in my face last night. I don't need reminding of how I screwed up my life and the lives of my loved ones. I got off the pills for my family. Now I can't trust him. What do I do? And because of what happened... I am sad to say I have slipped up and took vicodin today. All that hard work FOR NOTHING I feel like a POS. PLEASE HELP
Hi, You are NOT a POS!!! You just let the situation with your husband lead you to use. Just get back in the saddle. You can do this, you did it before, successfully. Don't let anything or anyone get in the way of your sobriety!!
And don't make excuses, like your husband throwing your addiction in your face, so you can say F it, I'm gonna use again. You must find new support, perhaps a close friend, family member, or NA meetings.
Keep fighting the good fight! Or do you want to go through withdrawal... again and again??
I wish you the best,
Congratulations for putting in the effort, you are not a POS my dear we all mess up and noone is perfect. The first thing you need to do is get back into recovery even if it means going to NA meetings or back to inpatient or outpatient programs. Explain to your husband that this hurt you deeply and has to stop that you are trying to get better and what you need right now is support not critism and guilt. Surround yourself with sober/straight people for biggest support and that may help. Next you need to be honest with yourself and your doctor so you can get all the help you need to get back on the right road. Please hang in there and don't give up it will work out if you keep trying and keep up the determination to get straight. Good luck my friend and write in and let me know how you are doing if you would like to, but please don't give up slip-ups do happen you just need to keep up the determination and you will make it, much love and respect, marjorie zych
All that hard work for nothing? I think NOT! You slipped up and have nothing to be ashamed of. Marjorie is right! And so is sweetlemon. If I counted every time my hubby threw something back at me (usually a spur of the moment reaction) it does hurt. I've slung some mud myself too. But we all need to get over the shame and blame. It's useless and all it does is hurt our feelings. Don't let it bring you down. You aren't a loser, you're a winner in my book. Come here for support. It's a great site to let your feelings out, vent, and no one judges you. Keep up the good fight. And remember, you are not alone.
Hi bgregh; So you're a bad Girl HuH! You betcha' ! Somebody oughta' dig a hole, toss you in and bury Ya' ! Shit girl "You ain't got enough fingers to count the times I... and about 1,000,000 others screwed up before we got "the message"! The people in A.A. or N.A. will take you in 'till you get it together [don't laugh, i've seen it happen many times when a situation occurs where your ol' man turns into a "rat bastard"! YOU... ARE THE MOST IMPORTANT PERSON IN YOUR LIFE"! Get off the pity pot. It's full of "poor me's"! Join AA/NA. You don't worry about friends, you just get to meetings. [I made 8 meetings in one day, just to see if I had the balls to do it.] They will make friends with you ! ! ! You tell them what you told us.
Then you go up to your ol' man and in a level, even voice tell him who your staying with [till you get solid sober & WHY! !] Then go, and every time you feel a guilt trip comin' on... you say to yourself..".I AM THE MOST IMPORTANT PERSON IN MY LIFE"! It sounds complicated, it really isn't! There's a "Zillion"! NA's & AA's withover 20 yrs. sober. We can help you, IF , you ask ! ! Sacosam
This is the mmost common complaint of people in recovery. I thought I had done such a wonderful thing by getting sober thirty some years ago and was so surprised when my husband kept throwing things in my face that happened 20- 25 or 30 years ago. I would do comething wonderful like save the business a few thousand dollars and he would say - "yeah but when you did this in 1992 yadayada yada." I went crazy the first few times and did have a relapse over it after many years but it was not his fault. He went thru hell too and all I could do was think about was what a wonderful thing I did. Not saying this is your case, just mine, but sometimes, we addicts are so focused on ourselves that we con't take the time to consider what our families are going thru. They expect us to be "fixed" and on with life as usual. Back to normal life so to speak.
I just expected too much from him but I needed to be reminded that I was a work in progress because of 'myself' and to keep it simple and not remind him of this different life I had to live by myself. Families get sicker than the addict and sometimes they don't get the help we did. Be aptient but everyone out here has been thru it. Just don't make a problem out of reminding him that you need too many strokes because he probably thinks he is the one needing the strokes. Best of luck - lived and and still do - it is hard tho I know how you feel. Sometimes just the serenity prayer works for me to get myself back in perspective.
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