i had sex with my boyfrind and 15days come over from period date.my urine pregnancy test is positive
So sorry to hear this! It is very frightening to face an unwanted pregnancy. You need to consult an OB Dr to discuss your options. You options are pretty much 1) you continue the pregnancy and you keep the baby 2) you continue the pregnancy and you give the baby up for adoption to a couple who really want a baby but cont have one of their own or 3) you terminate this pregnancy. I would advise you to talk to your parents, your boyfriend (I hope he will be mature enough to be supportive) and his parents altogether to decide what is the best course of action. Dont be afraid to tell the parents. They may be shocked and angry at first but they love you and they will come around. You may actually be surprised. You are not the first girl to be in this position and you certainly wont be the last. Sex is fun and it feels great but their are adult consequences as you are now finding out.
If you decide that terminating this pregnancy is your best option then you need to see a qualified surgeon who does abortions. Surgical abortion is the best way to go, IF you go this route. (I'm not saying it is the best option overall, just that if you decide to terminate that surgical abortion is the safest form of abortion and should be done by a qualified Dr in a facility) Abortions, even today, are not without risk. Women bleed to death every day from abortions. This is why it is important to go to a qualified Dr in a facility where they are trained to deal with hemorrhages. If you decide that giving this baby up is best then that is a beautiful, priceless gift that you give some lucky couple! There are so many people today who are loving, married couples, many are well to do, who cannot have children of their own and desperately want a baby. Choosing this option allows this little one a chance at a wonderful life and is the most loving, unselfish thing that you could do for your baby! You need to contact a reputable adoption agency so they can find the best couple for your child and sometimes they will even assume some of your expenses. Only you, your partner and you two's parents can decide what course of action is best for you, though. Remember that things happen for a reason. When I got pregnant with both of my children I was not prepared to have a baby. The first child, when I found out, I thought it was the worst timing and it was just the worst thing to be having a baby right then but having that child was the best thing that ever happened to me. My second baby, I'm ashamed to say that I prayed every day for several months that I would lose the pregnancy. But I didnt and that baby has turned out to be the light of my life! I cant imagine my life without him! Of course my situation was a bit different than yours. You have a little while to decide what you want to do. In the meanwhile take care of yourself. Any decidion you make is not without heartaches, unfortunately, but in the end everything will work out as it is supposed to. If you need someone to talk to you can always talk to me in a private message. All the Best to you!
Hi & welcome - since I don't know ur age, I'll just stick 2 ur question :-) If u did a home pregnancy test, I'd recommend having a urine & even blood test at ur nearest clinic. I'm totally pro choice meaning I would support *any* decision u make. If I've got ur timing right (15 days late), RU 486 should also be an option 4 u. It's a non surgical pill that induces abortion (there's info on this site - just type in the name) but can only be taken up to 7 weeks after missed period. For a standard suction abortion, the clinic I work at won't perform one until ur at least 6 wks along so the Dr can make sure that the embryo is visable & can be removed properly. If u decide 2 have an abortion, the first trimester (12 wks) is the safest & least complicatd.
I would never describe choosing 2 have an abortion as easy, so try 2 find a clinic that has counselors on staff 2 answer questions, hold ur hand, & be there 4 u after the procedure - it really helps 2 have someone u can talk 2 anytime if u need to. Best wishes & if u want/need 2 chat, just look me up!
If u don't want ur baby don't have an abortion.just my opinion. Their are people like me who would gladly adopt ur baby who either can not have more children or can not have children at all. Being able to conceive a baby is a blessing itself whether planned or not.that does not mean I agree on teen pregnancies but I'm pretty sure you get my drift if ur old enough to have sex.not being ugly just being honest.I wish you the best of luck.if u decide to keep ur baby and are not Ready for parenthood my husband and I spud be more than happy to apostle him or her. God luck with everything.
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