When is it time to go on disability?
- 6 May 2013 by mysteriousprincess
- 7 May 2013
- depression, disability
I used to define myself as a cheerful, content and independent person. But I've been going through an unhappy period since around Christmas time. I have a mother who has been severely clinically depressed for over a decade. But she has of late become more destructive, suicidal and angry. The stress of being around her has broken something inside of me. I am overwhelmed now by feelings of guilt, anxiety and self-criticism. My life seems to be becoming smaller and smaller, I've lost the desire to leave the house and am out of work. I've seen psychiatrists of course, so far medication is not helping me. My family wants me to apply for disability because I haven't pulled my life together. I don't want to apply for disability. I feel as though I am not disabled by depression, I think there are some legitimate life issues I am facing that I have the ability overcome with a little guidance and more time, maybe support groups and plans. I don't want to become a person unable to support myself. My family has told me that I'm not a judge of what my capabilities are, and to let the experts decide that. I feel uneasy about this. These are big life changes and I think they are being made too quickly when it may not be necessary to make them at all. Part of me feels like I am strong person, and that my life is being taken out of my own hands. But maybe I am wrong, and I should listen to the advice that I have been given. I know there are others out there listening. What would your advice be to me. Based on what I have said do you think I should pursue disability now? Is this a hasty decision or is it rather the healthy thing to do?
Thank you for anything you might have to add,
Is admirable that you want to work, however, with a mother who suffers from depression its likely that your depression is physical not situational so you have to rely on meds. If you can't get it under control you are disabled. If you can't go to work or Leave the house its a disability. I think that when you would apply they will want to know that you've tried and didn't just throw up your hands and say poor me. You certainly won't get rich if you get disability, its not alot of money.how about health insurance if you aren't working? There's alot to think about and I know you're in no mood for that now. Hopefully you will find a med that works. What have you tried so far?
Hi, mysterious! I'm sorry for all you're going through. It's bad enough that you're having a hard time functioning and working. That's a disability and what disability insurance is for ~ to assist you through a difficult period. You've paid for it throughout your adult life and now it's time to take advantage of it. It's no reflection on you and it doesn't have to be a permanent situation. You can just use it until you're back on your feet.
Good luck with your medications. How and what are you taking? It can take awhile to get the full effects and sometimes you have to try several different meds or combos to find what works best for you.
My advice to you would be to accept the help that is available to you. You don't have to do it all alone. This is an open and caring community, so feel free to post about anything. Anytime.
Best wishes, WCV
Disability does not have to be forever. It can just take the pressure off one of the many fronts you are assaulted with. It will give you time to find answers, get stronger. Sometimes we have to let go of being the strong one. Let others help us. Someone said that depression is when you have been strong for too long.
Hang in there you are not alone.
Hello. Depression can be overwhelming. Going from one drug to another and waiting for effects can take a long time. Disability is out there for you. I would be happy to walk you and others through the maze. Disability on a job is one type. Disability with social security is a second.
In order to be successful, you will have to show all the meds you have used and what the results are. This is from your physician and not just your story. The letter is the key component for success. If you have been working hand in hand with a psychiatrist overseeing your medications, you are half way there. If you have not, you will be best to start working with one. Another letter that helps is from a psychotherapist who has also given diagnosis, determination of therapy effectiveness and so forth. These show how serious you have been in receiving help and the difficulties you have had. The actual diagnosis and predicted outcomes will be the deciding factors. Again, from the specialists.
Working with depression is very difficult. We drag at our jobs, put off deadlines and go through painful days. If the disability is from work, talk with personnel about this. The HR department can walk you through this and help you apply. If no such thing where you work, you will get help at social security. That application is online and takes quite a while to fill out. Your diagnosis is critical at that point. Calls to local social security can help with the forms. They are there to help.
Lots more to do. It will take time right during a period where you have little energy. Benefits take quite a while and there is little money there as it is based on a percentage of what you are earning the past two years. A friend to fill out forms and gather paperwork will be a blessing for you. If money is not tight, the break can be a time of deep healing. If money is tight see if you qualify for Medicaid or other programs in your state.
When life is under control again (and it will be under control again, as I have faith in you as do others) recieving Soc Sec allows you to earn $200 a month without losing benefits. This may not be much, but it lets you get back into the job world and see if you are ready. After that amount they continue reducing monthly payments for every $2 you earn. Again, it lets you get back into your life and all the possibilities. When you are done, celebrate. You will find more in you than you thought. Karen
Google 'Allsup" They have a 97% sucess rate , Read what they have to say and click to see if you qualify. Like others say it could take a while so the sooner you apply the sooner you will get benefits. They do all the work , you will only have to go to a doctor or two. Like others said, If things in your life change for the better, you can always go back to work. If you're not up to it , have some one else fill out the short form. They will call you or notify you if they think you have a chance very quick. The sooner the better. Good Luck Jerry
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