My husband is getting more and more frustrated with my depression, anxiety and borderline personality disorder. We continue to be open to med changes, but even i am tired off feeling out of place in this life. Someone tell me they can relate. I have also noticed he is picking up on my negativity and has also voiced suicidal ideation. I feel so panicked cuz im not a very good supporter of others when im just trying to make it through the day.
Hey sweetie, i think we're all just trying to make it through the day whether we're mental or not. You mentioned that y'all are open to med changes. Are you open to couples therapy? Does your husband fully understand your physical or mental condition? Him understanding exactly what the doctor has said about your ailments are cue to both of y'alls mental state. Also you need to take his feelings into consideration. Especially if he's voicing such strong emotions as suicide. We're her for you but who's there for him? I'm not taking sides. It's just we all need some kind of support group in order to be strong for ourselves and the weak.
Pepper gave you a good answer. I'll add to that: YES! I know what it's like to feel out of place. How I'm chained to taking my meds at certain times and can't just take a nap or sleep anytime I want to because I'll miss important medication times. How I'm feeling not so hot, maybe depressed, and not into doing something others are. How I have to carry my meds with me and stop to take them while away from home--- even in front of other people. They can't understand these things. Only people like us can. So we need to support one another. Enlist family and friends into your support people if you can.
If you or your hubby have suicidal ideation, you need to see your Drs. pronto!! Medication may need adjusting and your Doc should know how you feel. I highly recommend finding a good counselor for you both: 1--Work on reasons for suicidal thoughts 2--help hubby to understand you and himself better 3--teach each of you how to cope with your own problems and each others 4--Learn how to support each other 5--keep your marriage strong during the tough times 6--learn how to have fun and be happy together! 7--learn how to observe the other person for important "tells" or clues about where their mental health currently is to report to Drs. and counselors at app't's. and thus help each other.
Your husband is your care giver. He is frustrated and worn out. If you are seeing a psychiatrist or psychologist please ask him/her to consider talking with your husband. Association breeds assimilation... he may be reacting to your depression. Please ask him to get help. He is valuable to your recovery. Your doctor will know how to help you and him.
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