I started treatment recently & I have had 2 counseling sessions but my counselor is on vacation I haven't been to counseling n 2 weeks & I have another 2 weeks before she's back. I got a job & lost it in a week. I can't seem to keep my head above water. I have put some applications in but I haven't heard anything from any of them. I have thought about trying to get on disability but I don't know if I can wait that long to get money coming. I don't know what to do.
Let's look at the positives, in this job market with both a mental and physical condition, you managed to actually secure a job, that says a lot about you. You were able to represent yourself so well at interview that you got a job offer. Secondly you are participating actively in counselling in order to improve your life and have a partner with whom you can communicate and is also actively supporting you.
The other side is that it seems you are just not ready to return to work and the fact you got a job and lost it within a week clearly demonstrates that. You are pushing yourself way too hard and being too impatient for instant results. You need to concentrate on getting yourself to a stable place first, all the panicking about money and putting a strain on your partner is just making more anxiety. You need to just stop applying for jobs until you get to a better place and then take a fresh approach. Don't think about applying for disability, go and do it, you may or may not get it or in the end you may decide that you don't want it but if you don't do it either way you will never know.
Just start doing one productive thing a day that makes you feel that you are making progression, little by little build on this.
Believe your partner, relax, love and allow yourself to be taken care of and loved. You are worthy of his love. You are blessed by it. Your time for reciprocating this love and support will come to, that is the beauty of good relationships.
Blessings to you.
Hi! I'm sorry life is so hard for you right now. I also understand how it feels when you are in the position of being out of work, having no money and at the same time trying to deal with a mental health condition. Where do you live? I was out of work for several months and kept trying to find a light at the end of the tunnel, but it took me a long time to realise that i wasn't in a stable enough condition to start a new job. Even more so because of the field i work/am qualified in. I started off claiming 'Job seekers support' and that came through very quickly, although it wasn't much, it helped. I am now on the equivalent to 'Incapacity benefit' while i am trying to work through my mental health problems and build up my life again so that i am strong enough to get back to where i once was.
Do you have a good support system in place? Are you happy that you are getting good support and understanding from your counsellor. A doctor or psychiatrist can help support a claim for financial support while you aren't well. Have you looked in to what benefits you may be entitled to?
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