My boyfriend of three years has a pain pill addiction. I dont have a pill addiction or do not do any drugs. I have tried everything I know to try to help him overcome this addiction. But he cannot stop even though he says he really wants to! He spends far too much money on this stuff and lies constantly about everything. someone please help me understand what he is going through. Its like he has no emotion at all anymore... like he doesnt care that this is ripping us apart! I just dont understand how he can choose pills over our family
Opiate addiction is a very bad(take it from mr cuz I REALLY KNOW!! He's lying because when you get "sick" from "dope" I call all opiates dope because if you use them for anything else they are dope. Because it is a very bad withdrawal & he knows if he gets his next bump he'll be right again,but its a never ending circle until you get locked up(cuz nobody unless they have BIG$ can afford it) 2) your gonna DIE,or get help. There isn't much you can do yourself but maybe if you can talk to him & let him know there are ways to come off opiates that aren't to bad to deal with the withdrawal. So those are your choices or bail? Tough but one of those 3 things I said will happen or he'll just make your life miserable until he self-destructs,your choice & not one(except stopping) is fun. Good luck.
Hi auntkim - I really feel for you. Its a nasty, lying, cheating, thieving disease! Addiction robbed me of my strong, natural maternal instincts until I got clean/sober and realized how I had literally been "taken over" by the drug of my choice, opiate/narcotics, that I had become addicted to. One will continue to use despite all the negative consequences that have and will continue to happen, depending on how far the disease has progressed. Your boyfriend may want to stop very badly, but what he doesn't realize when he's in the grips of the addiction, is that he has lost the ability of "choice" over his addiction. And, nothing short of a psychic change or spiritual experience (not necessarily religious) will short circuit this progressive illness. He really isn't choosing the drug over family because he's lost that choice, or power, or control over using.
When/if he begins withdrawals, he will feel like he absolutely must have the drug to be "normal". And, at that point, he WILL have to have it to feel normal! The only thing you can really do is find yourself many Al Anon (I prefer) or NarcAnon mtgs, and go whether he wants you or you want to go or not. Then, you will realize that there's more to life than him and his addiction drama. You will begin to plan a life that may have to be lived without him. You cannot help him. It will have to come from within him. Hopefully, when he sees you going on with your life, that may also be an impetus for him to change, but his change must come from him. I wish you good luck because its so much better on this side of addiction! Jillian Oh, and P.S. Hide your valuables because he won't be able to keep himself from stealing from you or whomever he needs to get his next pill, etc.
I understand exactly what you are feeling as my bf is highly addicted to opiates. He started a suboxone program a few weeks ago which helps the bad withdrawal symptoms and he seems to be ok. We actually have sepeated due to al of the lies and its a long story but I do know that if he doesnt want to quit making him do it wont work long term. I would say research the suboxone and talk to him about it and see how he feels. Good Luck!
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