... me.want to change but how?
Have you thought about councelling?There is sometimes an underlaying problem that causes insecurities in us.We just dont know what it is and therapy could be a good way of letting go or getting it out of you.
I was also very uptight in the past and could'nt take a joke,i'd storm off ina huff and act a right miserable git,i thought everyone was always laughing at me,talking about me,it was paranoia,then i'd feel so guilty for been that way and acting like that around people,i'd feel ashamed and embarrased and could'nt forgive myself for how i was goingon,buti honestly could'nt help it,the more i tried to stop the worse i got, suffer from anxiety/panic disorder so i was very paranoid and nervous-(edgy if you like to call it)around people,even friends and family,but i found the therapy helped a little with that.I still have my panicky days and sometimes my anxiety will hit the roof but not so insecure like i was,maybe you should try it?? Anything is worth a try to stop you feeling miserable
This is something that needs to be addressed in therapy. A good therapist can help you understand why you react the way you do and will help you develop coping skills for these situations.
I found rational emotive therapy very helpful when dealing with my self esteem and social situations. I still have some anxiety but it is alot better than it use to be. It probably doesn't matter the exact type of therapy you do, but addressing these problems verbally and with specific exercises will definitely help.
she is right about counseling, It's not easy to do by yourself, I have a friend who has a hard time, he will just tell me I don't know what to say. he is very quiet and he has a hard time responding to people, He went so far as to go to college and wanted to become a teacher, he just freeze's up when it comes to talking with people, I know he wants to change he is on medication but in my mind I know he would feel better and his coping skills would be easier to deal with if he saw someone, I don't think the medication alone will do it. You have the right to feel like you're not uptight, really we are alike in so many ways a lot of us trying hard to get through as best we can, You deserve to be the best you can be. You are special and you need to fight this
Hi, Boy I know what you are going through. I have Social anxiety disorder and I get panic attacks and anxiety attacks. I did go to therapy and it did help me a lot. I started to understand me for the first time in my life and I am 55 years old. I always knew something was wrong but I did not have a name for it. I was very depressed and I did not want to be around people and I did not leave my house for a year. I know that I am this way because of things in my past and going to therapy and talking about things made me find me again. I still have my bad days and I do get attacks every now and than, but I have learned how to control it. I now have a part time job. I still do not like being around people but at least I can deal with it more.
If I get a bad attack,I try breathing or thinking of a safe place in my life and if it gets worse , I then have to take a xanax, but first I try like hell to get though it on my own.This site has helped me through some really bad nights, sometimes just writing down your feelings can help a lot. Try to think of when and why the first attack happen and what you were dealing with in your life. Learn to know what it is that triggers the attacks. Write down your thoughts and feelings each day. I do it and it has heped me. We are all here for you and you can always talk to any of us at any time.It takes a long time to forgive yourself but you can do it. I have to fight like hell each day and it is hard but you can do it. You have nothing to be ashamed of. All of us have gone through some very bad things and we do understand. If you have a hard time talk to your doctor or a close friend or family member that you feel safe with and let them know how you are feeling. I would try to get therapy and see if that would help you first. You may just need to talk through your problems, you may not need to be on medication. Try this first and see if it helps. I am here for you. Your in my prayers and keep the faith. Take care.
Search for questions
Still looking for answers? Try searching for what you seek or ask your own question.
Posted 19 Jan 2010 • 3 answers
Generalized Anxiety Disorder - I have some unusual questions about gad and social anxiety disorder.?
Posted 14 May 2010 • 1 answer
Posted 3 Oct 2011 • 8 answers
Posted 17 Aug 2012 • 5 answers
Posted 15 Jun 2014 • 1 answer