... social nxiety/phobia for yrs. but have been doing very well for yrs. with tx. and therapy. My "new normal" has been that I'm usually very outgoing, easily talking with people I know well or just meet in line at a cafe. But when I get depressed (I also have bipolar disorder) I turn inwards and my life seems to be tunneled. I get extremely anxious being around people. Even walking less then a half a block to get the mail, I keep my head and eyes down, praying i won't run into anyone. I'm currently NOT deppressed and have not been experiencing these feelings at all. BUT, I recently became friends with a guy on a fb, thru a very good mutual friend of ours. My very good friend suggested i become friends with this guy based on a common interest we have. So, this "new" friend of mine- we started messaging on fb, bout mutual interests. i was very comfortable and forthcoming/outgoing. Not an iota of a thought in my mind bout a "potential" boyfriend, at all. But now, we have talked on the phone once. A very good conversation bout 2-hrs. He's not trying to pick up on me at all, nor me him, but all of a sudden I'm so anxious and thinking bout him all the time. And just wanting to run away, stop contact, ugh blah. I know exactly why. Because I've been in a social vacuum for a longtime. A few periphery friends, but no social group where i live. all my friends live in another city. I've been in a social vacuum for a long time. Loner, homebody, etc. and enjoying that status at this particular time. I'm not lonely. So, since this person happens to be a guy I'm freaking out now that we had a really good phone conversation I feel scared, anxious, like he's better then me, ARRGHHH! I KNOW i'm making a mountain out of a molehill, very aware of that it's the ANXIETY thats making me feel so uncomfortable. I take clonipin among other meds. take my clonipin as prescribed always, CEPT today, took one prn, no biggee , blah, blah, blah..I'm sorry, not per se asking a question just venting my feelings hoping someon out there can empathize, has been in my shoes?
I understand exactly how u feel I really could walk a mile in your shoes. I'm very sorry u feel so anxious I know how horrible it is n no one should have to go through that! all I know is clonopin never worked for my anxiety.I have very bad anxiety so my tolerance for benzos is very high. I take Xanax for my anxiety. maybe u should tell ur doc the meds aren't workin? well I hope I at least made yuh realize there r ppl just like u n some have it even worse.. wont get into my story:( but have a nice dayy n try to make the best out it:))
Hi Julie! Sounds like you're having a c--- y day! Me, too. I understand how you feel. I'm missing out on life because of this lonely trap. You're alright. It's just my opinion, but I think this guy took you by surprise. For me, I would go sky high. I'd be scared to death. I sure hope you don't turn out like me. You're smart enough to seek wisdom from our group. How many people reach out to others when they need encouragement, or wisdom, or knowledge? Nobody's better than you. We all have gifts and talents. Never, and I mean never, compare yourself to others. What do you have to gain? Misery, sadness? I think it was Mark Twain that said "Patience is doing something else in the main time." That's easier than it sounds, but, oh how true it is. Do you like music? Whatever it takes to get you out of this anxiety. Sometimes I do 25 jumping jacks and that helps. A relaxing bath. I also say the Lords prayer. I'm sure you have a list of things to do when you're anxiety stricken. When it's happening to us, I don't think we're rational enough. Fight! You will get past this. God bless, and take care. We're here for you. Find something to do in the main time. Anna
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