We have been together for 4 1/2 years! He was on a bad path and we talked, and we done this in home rehab, He was clean for 9 weeks we took drug test and everything! We were so proud of him! He was a addict to Oxys.Today he went to a friends house whom he lied about, He said it was a friend from church and it was some guy that sells drugs he is so xanax out! We are taking shifts an setting up watching his breathing, Its my shift now while everyone else is sleeping, and I'm so dissapointed! WHY did he do this :( & I cant just leave because im from Ohio and we live in Califorina. My mom just recently got married and moved into a smaller house. I honestly have no where to go if i would move back home, and I have a pitbull who we rasied since 5 weeks! and he is one now! i can't leave him, Im just so upset because i LOVE him so much and im worried bc he was doing so good! and then today he just goes and messes up! I really need advice and no one in my family no anything about his drug promblem, i just feel like im living two lives and I miss my family but im scared me and my husband have lived together for 3 years, i dont know life without him...
Addiction is a disease that is as much psychological as it is physical. Detoxing is only part of it. Your husband needs some kind of counselling to get past the reason WHY he uses. Until he faces those demons he will never be completely clean. He might try joining an organization like Narcotics Anonymous or he can go to a substance abuse counselor-whichever works best for him. Unfortunately relapses are quite common during recovery especially until he addresses those reasons why he uses in the first place. It might be helpful for you to go to family counselling or through Nar-anon so you understand the addiction cycle and can learn to do things to help him stay away from temptation. I'm going to add a link to a very informative site. It has quite a few articles on addiction.
Hi Mrs. SF... As sweet lemon suggested... if your husband has taken so many Xanax that you have to watch his breathing, the only place for him to be is in the ER... call 911!!! In the ER they have a drug specifically used for reversing the effects of Xanax and like drugs in the benzodiazepine family.
Your husband is a sick man and needs to get in therapy if he indeed wants to stay clean. Dzoobaby gave excellent advice so I am not going to repeat it here. Also read the info from the links that Dzoo sent you. If you really do love your husband I don't feel that you should leave him. Help him get some help. I am not undermining the pain through which you have gone because I know how difficult it must have been and is to deal with this. You need to also take care of yourself. I would recommend Nar-anon as Dzoo has recommended. This group is for family members of addicts which tries to help you understand the disease of addiction and also helps you find ways of coping.
Please try to get some help for you and for your husband.
I will pray that God will lead you in the right direction.
Please let us know how you are doing. Someone is always here for support... please take care...
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