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Seroquel - Hey all First time post and I am so sorry it is nota fun one. I am honestly thinking?
Added 13 Mar 2013:
I don't know why the rest of my post did not come through. I am a soldier back from Afghanistan and I am honestly thinking my family would be better off without me.I just think financially and by not causing problems with my grown children. I will never go to a Hospital again and all the shrink does is add more Meds. I am not going to admit to the Dr or Hubby I am feeling this way
I think it would be the kindest thing to do for my family
Your family would not be better off without you! You are just feeling that because you are depressed and not feeling good! You need to go see the doctor and tell him that your meds are not working for you. He cannot help you if you don't tell him. Also it takes time for a med to work. Do not give up! You can do this. I was really sick when I was given Seroquel for a major depression. It gave me a psychoatic episode! I had left my depression go hoping it would go away. I got really ill and was in hospital for 6 months before the doctors founds meds that worked for me. I did feel like you alot and am glad today I got help! It was not easy at all but I am now depression free and feel happy and back with my husband and 2 kids. Dannian go and get help now! DO NOT WAIT PLEASE!
Take care and keep in touch o.k.
Dannian, I'm so sorry you feel this way especially after you have sacrificed so much for your country! It is hard to feel depressed but things will get better. Smiley is right. You are responsible for getting yourself better. It does take time and trial and error to find the right combination of meds and time to get your head on straight again. Please, please never feel like suicide is the only answer. It will scar your loved ones for life. I had two cousins, one on my moms side and one on my fathers side who killed themselves. Both at age 17. It destroyed their families! Their parents and siblings were never the same again. These boys left gaping holes where their lives used to be. You dont want to hurt your loved ones this way, especially your precious children. It would scar them for life-truly, I know from experience how much destruction suicide does to loved ones affected by it. No one is better off, ever!! You can get past this and get better.
Suicide is such a selfish act. If you truly love your family, you will not do this to them. You should talk to your husband. He may not realize that you feel this way. If it were the other way around, would you want him to feel as you do? Or your son? Everyone is different as to what helps to bring them out of deep depression. For me, it was my oldest son. My mother always told me "your life is what you make of it. You can choose happiness or you can choose to be miserable" and it is true but sometimes you do need meds to help with brain chemistry and it can take trial and error to find what is best for you as an individual. Find yourself a support group-sometimes it helps to find others who are dealing with the same feelings as yourself. I truly believe that no one understands what you are going through like another person with the same problems. For me, it is chronic pain. My family doesnt understand my chronic pain. They dont have it and even if they would try, they cannot truly know what I feel and struggle with but others, many friends I have on here, truly do understand because they live it every day just like I do. I go to them when I need someone to understand. There are many on here who struggle with the deep dark hole that depression is and they would be glad to help you and listen to you. There are even other Vets like yourself who are now struggling to find their place in the civilian world. I know some of what you have experienced because my son is a soldier too. It is not an easy job. Get counseling if you need to. Dont discount the help of a good counselor to help you work through things and they can help you to get your head around your life and problems and help you to see the right direction. No one can do it for you-you have to do it yourself but there are many who can help you find that direction. Never, ever give up. Your family loves you! If your son missed you while deployed, imagine how hard it would be for him to miss you forever! You are special and losing you would make this world a much darker place! Never feel that suicide is the answer because it is NEVER the answer!
Please please know that your family would not be better off without you. Especially if you take your own life. Suicide leaves an irreparable hole that no one or nothing can fill. It had to be difficult going thru that over there. Even now, my nephew will never be the same as he was before he went over there. But he has 3 sons and a wife who need him more. Please get help however you can. You are a survivor and your family needs you! Please listen to what is said in the other posts. They are words to live by. You are in my thoughts and prayers.
Dannian please know that everyone is right. Your husband and the rest of your family would feel guilty thinking that it was their fault. I grew up with a girl whose mother killed herself and that poor girl had so many problems just trying to live her life. She was only 7 years old at the time and it stole her childhood from her.
There is help out there and there are lots of support groups here online and ones that you can go to and meet people.
You made a big step today reaching out to us so keep reaching out. We can help each other.
You made a huge sacrifice for your country and mine. I am so proud to know you and get to say thank you to you.
I understand feeling that your family would be better off without you as just 2 weeks ago I was there too. I came very close to doing it too, but someone had other plans for me because while searching for info on how much med I needed, I found two wonderful websites to help me and this is one of them.
We are here to share our problems to make them easier to handle and to help each other.
Please take care of yourself and get some help so that you can share your life with your family
Please, Dannian, don't let your service be for nothing. Don't let your motherhood seem worthless. There are many who,prayed and waited for you return. They knew it would be hard. Yes, you survived while others did not. Carry on the dreams of all you knew and embrace your family. They waited for you.
The drugs are helping and will not have to be your life. Just for now. Just for now. I have a rare disease. The drugs help me get through now. Do you see? I am slowly dying, not because I want to do so but because there is no cure. I have survived terrible and cruel treatments from family. You don't recognize how lucky you are to have a family to return to. So lucky you are. This is beatable, the pain you would cause is beyond that you endure. It is not the legacy of a soldier. It is not what any child wants to feel from their parent, or aunt, cousin, friends. To feel unloved, uncared for, unwanted. Abandoned after waiting all that time. It is not the legacy of one such as you. Write and tell your story. Let others know in anonymity. I am here to listen. You can be well. You will be fine. Look for something to believe in. God, self, any and all.
I would take your pain in a moment if it meant life. Your family would surely want it. in truth i would take your pain in an instant and leave you the chance of love again. I remain here for you. Karen
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