i am 22 years & study yet so dont like to make relationship because studies .but a relationship will help to my succeed?
It can help. It can also be the source of problems when so busy with your studies. A romantic relationship takes lots and lots of time and focus. A friendship is someone to have fun with and enjoy some laughs and activities to relieve stress. Get involved with a club, roommates or classmates. Studying all the time may get you an A but it may not make you happy. Some college friends become life time friends. Give yourself a break and have fun. College is a rich experience. Enjoy the football, parties and new friends. Your future goals depend on a well rounded person. If shy, start slow. Write if you have more questions. Lots of friends here as well. Karen
I am 29 and a student too. I have major depression severe. I find that it is easier to focus on one thing at a time in order to be successful. life is stressful and hard and it will always be. just my thinking. there are things you can to do to relieve/reduce the stress and enjoy your life. it is best not to complicate things. keep things as simple as possible and you will enjoy life and things will fall into. relationships will always be there. whatever your preference- man and women will be there- they are dime a dozen- it is like a bus - a new one comes every 15 minutes- and you have plenty of time to get into a relationship down the line. school is hard enough you don't need to make it harder by adding in a man or woman the best thing that you can do is focus on you . put you first. make you your number 1 priority. do what will make you happy.
the most attractive thing to a man or woman is someone who knows themselves, knows what they want and need and goes after what they want and is not willing to settle. get your life right. and things will fall into place and you will meet someone who is about something because they see you are about something. they will say she has her degree, she a good job, an apt, nice personality and she takes care of herself. the best thing you can do is do good for yourself. if you meet someone on the way- great- but don't let that person distract you from what you are trying to do, AND DON'T LET THAT PERSON MAKE YOUR LIFE MISERABLE OR MAKE YOU UNHAPPY BECAUSE THEY ARE UNHAPPY, MISERY LOVES COMPANY TRULY, SAD TO SAY SOME PEOPLE DO NOT LIKE TO SEE OTHERS DO WELL AND TRY TO DRAG THEM DOWN BY PRETENDING TO BE THEIR FRIEND, BOYFRIEND/GIRLFRIEND, AND PRETEND TO CARE ABOUT YOU OR JUST SAY THE WORDS I LOVE YOU BUT DO NOT REALLY MEAN IT- BEACUSE THEY ARE UNHAPPY WITH THEIR LIFE AND THEY ARE JEALOUS OF YOU. YES YOUR SPOUSE CAN BE JEALOUS OF YOUR SUCCESS SO THEY TRY TO PULL YOU DOWN BY HURTING YOU- BECAUSE THAT IS ALL THEY KNOW HOW TO DO IS TO CHEAT AND LIE ETC. SO BE CAREFUL ABOUT WHO YOU PUT IN YOUR LIFE, THE COMPANY YOU KEEP- IF YOU WANT TO BE SUCCESSFUL AND HAPPY BE AROUND SUCCESSFUL, HAPPY, POSITIVE PEOPLE AND YOU WILL GO FAR IF YOU INVITE NEGATIVITY INTO YOUR LIFE - THE BAD BOY OR GIRL WHO IS DOING NOTHING- THEN YOU WILL BECOME LIKE THEM AND DO NOTHING- DON'T EVER LET ANYONE PULL YOU DOWN- DO GOOD FOR YOURSELF- REMEMBER TO PUT YOU FIRST- reach your goals, live your dreams make it a reality and have FUN- LIFE IS TO SHORT NOT TO HAVE FUN JUST BE RESPONSIBLE-CLUB DANCE HANG OUT WITH FRIENDS HAVE A DRINK OR TWO MAKE SURE TO LEARN YOUR LIMIT- HANG OVERS ARE NO FUN AND DON'T BECOME AN ALCOHOLIC - ALL THE MONEY YOU WASTE CAN BEST BE SPENT ELSEWHERE- NO DRUGS- NO ECTASY NO MALI NO CHEMICAL WEED NO WEED AND DEFINITELY NO COKE HEROIN CRACK METH ETC- IT IS BEST NOT TO START ANY BAD HABITS- IT WILL BE VERY HARD TO BREAK B/C YOU WILL ALWAYS BE TRYING TO REACH THAT FIRST HIGH AND YOU ACN'T REACH IT SO THEN YOU BECOME AN ADDICT AND YOU WILL FIGHT YOUR WHOLE LIFE TO BEAT IT-SHOP SPOIL YOURSELF, SPLURGE, EAT ,TRAVEL, GIVE BACK ALWAYS REMEBER TO GIVE BACK AND HELP OTHERS- LIVE A BALANCED LIFE AND TRY TO DO EVERYTHING IN MODERATION-
FOCUS ON YOR STUDIES get the best grades that you can get, IF YOU NEED HELP GET HELP SPEAK TO AN ADVISOR ABOUT INTERNSHIPS, AND DIFFERENT PROGRAMS, JOIN CLUBS, BE ACTIVE IN OTHER SCHOOL EVENTS figure out realistically what you want to do with your degree prior to graduation make your degree work for you- it so sad to see people with degrees working in a field that has nothing to do with their degree- just working, not living and enjoying life and then they feel like college wasn't worth it- college is definitely worth it- a degree is worth it-you have to make a plan prior to graduation which many do not do , figure out what career you want- in your school go to career services they will have a test that you take online answer honestly and it will try to match you with jobs that match your likes and personality- if you agree with it great AND DO HAVE A LIST OF YOUR LIKES , WHAT YOU ARE GOOD AT, WHAT YOU BAD AT , YOUR SKILLS AND EXPERIENCE- KNOW WHAT YOU WANT FROM A JOB IF IT IS MONEY, TITLE, PRAISE/PRESTIGE, SHORT HOURS, WEEKENDS, VACATION, TRAVEL , BENEFITS WHEN YOU SEE THE COUNSELOR- BECAUSE YOU WILL FIND THAT WHAT YOU THOUGHT WAS YOUR DREAM JOB - MAY NOY GIVE YOU WHAT YOU WANT- IT MAY HAVE LONG HOURS LITTLE PAY NO RECOGNITION ONLY FROM THE PEOPLE YOU HELP NO VACATION NO BENEFITS SO DO YOUR HW FIRST- RESEARCH DO YOUR DUE DILIGENCE INVEST YOUR TIME IN YOURSELF - KNOW YOUR SELF- LIKES, DISLIKES, WANTS,NEEDS, WHAT YOU WILL TAKE , WHAT YOU WON'T, WHAT YOU WILL DO WHAT YOU WON'T DO - JUST BE HONEST WITH YOURSELF AND DON'T APOLOGIZE. IF YOU WANT MONEY WELL YOU WANT MONEY IT IS NOT A DIRTY THING- AND DON'T LET ANY ONE MAKE YOU FEEL BAD FOR CHOOSING THE LIFE THAT YOU WANT. REMEMBER IT IS YOUR LIFE.THINGS WILL GO FASTER AND SMOOTHER-take the jobs they give you and research it pro, con, how long you have to study, do you need advanced degree- if so how much will it cost and how much longer you will have to be in school, look at the salary range for that job, look at how many people get hired in that job especially in your state to find out if it is really worth it- go on bls.gov it will help you out WITH CHOOSING A CAREER. DO INTERNSHIPS ONCE YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT YOU WANT TO DO. IF YOU CAN'T GET A FORMAL INTERNSHIP- GO TO A PERSON WHO WORKS IN THE FIELD THAT YOU WANT AND ASK THEM CAN SHADOW THEM- BASICALLY YOU FOLLOW THEM AROUND AND GET TO SEE HOW THE JOB REALLY IS - SO WHEN AN OPPORTUNITY FOR INTERNSHIP OR EMPLOYMENT COMES UP THEY WILL HIRE YOU. AND VOLUNTEER IF YOU CAN AT THE ORGANIZATION SO THEY SEE THAT YOU ARE HUNGRY, YOU HAVE TO HAVE DRIVE. ALWAYS LOOK FOR OTHER WAYS TO GET INTO AN INDUSTRY- IF THE FRONT DOOR IS CLOSED GO THROUGH THE WINDOW- WHEN THERE IS A WILL THERE IS A WAY. USE YOUR SCHOOL PRIOR TO GRADUATION LIKE A YEAR BEFORE TO SET YOU UP SO YOU CAN BE ON THE PATH FOR SUCCESS AND EMPLOYED BY GRADUATION. DON'T WAIT TIL IT IS TOO LATE. AND DON'T WAIT FOR PEOPLE TO DO THINGS FOR YOU - YOU HAVE TO DO THINGS FOR YOURSELF AND PEOPLE WILL HELP YOU WHEN THEY SEE YOU ARE MOTIVATED AND ABOUT BUSINESS TO BE SUCCESS WITH A DEGREE HERE IS THE FORMULA- GOOD GRADES, INTERNSHIP, VOLUNTEER, EMPLOYMENT- REAL WORK EXPERIENCE IN THE FIELD THAT YOU WANNA WORK IN, JOIN CLUBS, EXTRACURRICULARS LOOK GOOD, GET YOUR DEGREE- WHEN YOU LOOK FOR EMPLOYMENT THEY WANT YOU TO HAVE EDUCATION, WHICH IS THE DEGREE EXPERIENCE WHICH IS AN INETRNSHIP ,VOLUNTEER WORK IN THAT FIELD, AND A GOOD ATTTUDE, POSITVE, WORK WELL WITH OTHERS, HARD WORKING, MOTIVATED, DEDICATED, PAY ATTENTION TO DETAIL,PLEASENT, DEPENABLE, ON TIME, SOMETIME STAY LATE AND WEEKEND, OR COME EARLY,COMPLETE ALL TASKS ON TIME, GIVES BACK TO COMPANY COMING UP WITH NEW IDEAS I KNOW IT IS LONG BUT IT IS GOOD ADVICE GUARANTEED SUCCESS IN THE WORK FIELD IN LOVE THAT IS A BOOK. BUT ALL THINGS WILL FALL INTO PLACE WHEN YOU PUT YOU FIRST AND GO AFTER WHAT YOU WANT DON'T WAIT FOR ANYONE PATIENCE IS A VIRTUE AND GOOD FOR THE WORKPLACE BUT WHEN YOU ARE TRYING TO GET AHEAD MAKE SOMETHING FOR YOURSELF DON'T WAIT DON'T BE PATIENT GO AFTER IT MAKE YOUR OWN HAPPINESS!!! I HOPE THIS HELPS. SORRY FOR IT BEING SO LONG!!! AND ANY TYPOS
Hi, i don't think you should seek a relationship for this reason, you will likely find that you don't choose a partner for mutual adoration and could end up with someone who isn't really 'right' for you. If you were to meet someone who you were attracted to and feel you are ready to make the investment in to a relationship then why not give it a go? I suffer with mental health issues and i am single, it is the choice i've made for myself. I still see my friends and family regularly and i managed to go on a trip around South Africa alone, meeting friends & like minded people along the way... It is always nice to have company though, and my brother & sister are both in committed relationships & very happy. I think you need to be open to the idea and see where life leads you, don't hook up with the first person you meet unless of course you think they might be the one. I hope you get what you want
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