... and all that it entails as both of my parents as well as my aunt and my brother in law all passed from cancer over the years. As of December of last yr my 37 yr old husband had officially been diagnosed with colorectal cancer. It has since spread to his Liver. He is choosing quality of life over treatment. I support that. Some days are good and some days are bad. We live out each day the best we can and enjoy as much of each day as we can. We know what we will be facing in the end and how sick and how much pain he will go thru when it is him time. This last weekend we had an episode that was quite scary for me. On Saturday he for the most part had a good day. In the evening he took 1 Norco 5/325 mg to ease some of his pain. He started feeling better again so a little bit later in the evening after our son went to bed we got pretty hot and heavy for a bit. All seemed fine but after the fact while he was just sitting on the chair in our bedroom just clear as day he lost his entire short term memory. He did not know who I was. He did not know what city we lived in. He could not tell me how many children we have. He could not tell me anything about his childhood or siblings or parents. He could barely walk. He could not take a shower so I had to sort of give him a sponge bath. This lasted for about an hour and as the minutes went by he got more and more upset and frustrated and scared. I finally got him calmed down enough to sleep. I actually had to sooth him and rub his head constantly like you would soothing a child just to get him to fall asleep. On Sunday morning he was back to normal and completely has no memory of that episode ever happening. I never recall either one of my parents having an episode like this and I was the last family member to see either both my parents alive before it was thier time. Is this something that may be a reoccurance that I have to prepare myself for or could this be something due to adrenaline mixed with the Norco that he took. Or is this something that may be completely unrelated to his cancer. I work with physicians every day but this is not a personal thing I would disclose with the Dr's that I work with every day. Does anyone have any input on this? Any info would be greatly appreciated
The first thing that came to mind for me after reading your hubby's symptoms was a possible mild stroke. My father hallucinated on morphine but never lost his short term memory. I also wonder if his cancer could have spread to his brain? I would be contacting his doctor to tell him/her about this episode. I'm sure the doctor will want to see him right away. I'll keep you and your hubby in my prayers!
I wondered the same as Kathy. It is possible he had a TIA or small stroke. You probably should have called 911. You do need to let his Dr know this event occurred. They can do a CT Scan or MRI to see if he did have a stroke. It is also possible that the cancer is in his brain and it could have been a mild seizure. Not all seizures involve shaking and jerking. Some mild ones, the person can just completely "zone out" for a while and again they will have no memory of the event either. MRI or CT scan should help to determine if there have been mets to the brain. I dont think it has anything to do with the Norco at all. Dont feel embarrassed to speak to a Dr. They quite understand that people are sexual and in fact, many events can take place during sex or right after because sex is a vigorous activity. It is a great thing that he is still able to feel like having sex. Sexual urges measure a persons vitality so it is wonderful that you two are still having intimacies.
I'm so sorry that you and your spouse are having to go through such a thing so young in life! You do need to have him follow up with his Dr asap about this event though! It could happen again especially if it was a kind of seizure. If it was a seizure there are medications to control that.
Hello. I agree with Kathy that is probably a stroke. Should it happen again, give him an aspirin and get him to the hospital. There are drugs that will treat it. It can also be the cancer spreading. My mom had cancer of the liver and it suddenly affected her in the brain. In reflection, we realized that she was having tiny strokes. On that morning I went to see her she had a major stroke. Lost ability to move on half the body and lost speech, etc. happy the day before and coping. Then unable to talk after the next few months until her death.
This is one of those things that the two of you need to decide how to handle. Strokes are not uncommon as the cancer metastasizes. It is certainly time to get hospice involved if you have not. Things can go fast suddenly and it is best to prepare. I assume he has signed all paperwork regarding tubes, extended life, power of attorney so you don't have another decide his final days. Will is updated and funeral planned? Hospice is out there to help you with all of this and can send weekly nurse, aids to help bathe and volunteers to give you a break so he can remain home as long as the two of you wish.
I admire the strength and thoughtful approach the two of you have chosen. It takes real confidence not to fold under the pressure of others. If he changes his mind when the pain is intense and prefers radiation to reduce pain or morphine and other narcotics that is fine. He deserves to be comfortable from this point onwards. I wish you both wellness of mind and clarity to see life as it is. Blessings to you. Karen
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