very intelligent. I was wondering if anyone could give me some ideas on how to approach this person. It is so bad, they even avoid windows and doors for they lead to the outside world, where this person is so afraid to be. Since I will be visiting soon, it would be helpful to know how I should handle this situation. Thanks for your ideas/////////
That's a really tough condition to have and I've never heard of someone being fearful of windows or doors that had it. So I assume that means hers is rather severe. I guess you approach them cautiously and in a sensitive manner. A lot of people don't understand agoraphobia so showing understanding would probably be of value. A lot of people with anxiety think they have agoraphobia but they really don't. Myself included! I'm just more comfortable at home and having an anxiety attack in public can be embarrassing and challenging to escape. I think Paula Deen had agoraphobia years ago.
beYounRepair this is Chuck1957 first when i was first diagnosed with agoraphobia you never heard of it,Infact the doctor did not know what it was it was the nurse that rememered something she had read in her continue ed for her licence,Sadly many people that are said to have it don't now this was about 36 years ago and i had been going to shrinks for 4 years,during that time i developed many other thinsg from frustration and free studies that they say i should never do again,i wish this was a phone call its hard to say we are all different i am proud that i fought so hard and was able to support my family for over 40 years it was my legs getting crushed that did me in and i was forced to retirement.Anyway my friend the best is ask him nicely i know you have some restrictions what would you be comfortable with doing even if its in his house depending on what stage he is in,big fear of crouded places,me i go out to eat rare because mouth is so dry i cant swallow or feel like i ...
am going to throw up another problem for some which i don't have is fear of wide open spaces like outdoors woods,,thank god that is one of my favorite things to do.Many real agoriphobics can't even get out there door to see a doctor But the best is to come right out and ask him when i get comfortable with a person i trust them and am much more able to do things but it can change on a dime.like allow him to sit at the end seat so he can get up and go to the restroom or what ever I HOPE you are more luck and he is doing as good as myself you have to just come out and say i understand some things are hard for you is there something you would be more comfortable with.give him hope tell him you have a friend on the computer that under most conditions he is able to do just about anything now with the help of the right medications,by the way i did hypnosis 3 different times and dr. no help, biofeedback,cog.therapy its none did anything for me we are all different what helped me the most was reading books a great one is hope and help for your nerves by dr claire weeks you havve to be careful some books if the person does not know any better are very dangerious.once i got through the hyperventing and learn breathing technices is what helps me the most.he may be much better than me they call many people this when they are just generalised anxiety ect.show you understand and don't make a big deal and ask it is worth it but in the lenght of time before they got me on the right medications i developed high anxiety,depression,my PTSD kicks up at times this is from backflashes of getting held up at the pharmacy and having a gun twice shoved in my throat if i can help you please let me know but the thing that helped me the most was learning not to focus on symtoms when your heart skips right awaay i work on my breathing most the times it well be i am breathing shallow,you have to breath deep so your stomach comes out inhale and exhale very slowly slows down the pulse,and rapid breathing glad to answer any questions you have we are friends so you can send me a question etc.we can be normal..this is why i believe so much in chemical imbalance. Chuck1957 retired pharm technician cpht..port or.
I agree with what JonNova and Chuck said. Just be relaxed and give him space. The main thing is stay calm and ask questions about how he feels and is there anything you can do to help him to be comfortable, but don't over do it as that may cause him to be really uncomfortable.
Hello BeYond and Everybody else that bared their Souls sharing about
this disease called Agoraphobia. I have learned so much, just reading all
these true responses. Wow-Thanks so much for everyone's courage and
willingness to even talk about it so people can be educated////////////////
Stay Strong and Keep Your Faith~~your friend,~~D-Squared~~
Chuck- you have really been thru it. You are so brave...
Some people with severe agoraphobia become confined to even just a room in their house, such as their bedroom. Sounds like they're avoiding windows and doors because they do lead to the 'outside' world, and agoraphobics essentially become afraid of the 'outside world'. Initially it might be difficulty driving, shopping, going to restaurants. Unless they get help, their world often shrinks. Some become housebound (I was housebound with agoraphobia for a period of years-but then a 'visiting' therapist pulled me out of it, and I gradually started leaving the house using systematic desensitization and progressive relaxation... ). I was able to get my life back. How to handle the situation? Be very gentle, don't push, accept them as they are. Encourage them to talk to a therapist - maybe you can find someone who will do phone therapy. Also, they've probably developed agoraphobia because of panic attacks.
If they can somehow get to a dr and start on medications, that will help. This is a really tough problem. I used to go out to people's homes who were severely agoraphobic and help them slowly get out, using cognitive-behavioral techniques. I'm considering doing that again as I hate to hear of anyone suffering like this.
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