My husband is 56. About 3 years ago he went into congestive heart failure, during the testing process they had him do a colonoscepy(not spelled correctly). They found cancer in his colon and near by lymp nodes. They removed 18" of his colon and a couple of lymp nodes and said they got everything. He took a chemo pill for a year and did pet scans every 3 months. For a year all was going well and then all of a sudden they said that he was in stage IIII colon cancer. It had spread to lymp node near his lungs, stomach and liver. We then found that he had cirrohsis of his liver as well. He did drink but not like an addict but did drink a couple glasses of wine a day or a rum and coke. Over the last 6 months he has gone through aggressive chemo therapy which we just found out that it has not help, as a matter of fact the cancer has spread more. He also has spent many days in the hospital with severe acites (fluid build up). He has lost over 60 pounds in just the fluids they have been draining over the past 6 weeks. We have an appointment with the liver specialist very soon. My day's are filled with heartache watching my husband suffer. He is not in much pain but is very uncomfortable. He is not jaundice (not spelled correctly) but sleeps all day and gets a little confused. Since the cancer is in his liver and he has cirrohsis and acities what are the odds of his servival? I'm scared!
It is not looking good at this point to be perfectly honest with you but there is no expiration date on people. Even Drs cannot tell you how long someone will live. The confusion comes from the build up of toxins that his liver is not getting rid of. See what the specialist has to say. When it begins to spread through the lymph system, it is usually not a good sign. Enjoy your time you have and live day to day at this point. Do some praying if that comforts you. This is a tough time and your job is a difficult one but dont give up just yet. Talk to the Drs. What are the Drs saying? They can give you estimates but bottom line, his time is his time and that might be soon or it might be 5,10, 15 or more years from now. I had a close friend of the family who was given less than 6 months to live and he made it 5 years after that so dont give up hope no matter what they tell you. It has a lot to do with the patients will to live as well.
DzooBaby gave you a great answer, and I can't add much more than that. I just want to emphasize how important will power and a positive attitude are when dealing with a catastrophic illness like your husband's. My dad decided the day he was diagnosed with cancer that he would not live more than 6 months --- he didn't. When I was diagnosed with incurable cancer, I decided that I was going to win the battle, and I have for 10 years. I hope your husband will find the will to fight, as well. Cancer is a horrid disease that affects not only the patient, but the entire family. I know that you feel helpless knowing there is nothing you can do to help him. Just know that you being there to support him in his fight and showing him your love will give him strength that he can't find within himself. We never know when the Good Lord will issue our ticket to come home, so pack as many memories and love into what time you have left with your husband, whether it is 6 months, 6 years, or 60 years. I will be praying for your husband and you too!
God bless you!
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