My boyfriend and I had sex for the first time 2 days ago, we used a condom and he didn't ejaculate but when we stopped we realised the condom had ripped. I found a website that said that pre-cum could contain sperm if he had ejaculated in the previous 72 hours. He says he hasn't, can I be sure I'm not pregnant? Or should I take emergency contraceptive?
Dear Hellie, I am going to suggest you do use the emergency contraception plan, IF you don't want to risk pregnancy. It works best, the sooner you take it. Unfortunately, your boyfriend will NOT feel each and every sperm, and could have had some escape, into the condom, and there is a chance you could be pregnant. Believe me, risking an unwanted pregnancy is something to really think about. The emergency contraception kit will likely cause your cycle to be off , it could come early or it could be late. I have read enough posts here from ladies who took it to know it often takes a couple of months for the cycle to straighten back out after use of something like Plan B, but they weren't pregnant. I think it recommends using these types of emergency contraception kits within 72 hours of unprotected sex.
No one can tell if you are pregnant or not yet, not even a dr, since it has only been 2 days, but if you fear an unwanted pregnancy, protect yourself, by making sure with the emergency contraception kit. And then, see a dr for some regular birth control, so you won't have to sweat this thing out anymore. Also, Plan B is not to be counted on several days after you take it for upcoming unprotected sex. That is another question we get often, will it protect again for a few days. Proper lubrication and using condoms that are fresh out of the box and wrapper, and within the sell by date, will usually prevent a condom from tearing in the future. Best of luck, you a in my prayers. Patti
This is exactly the reason for emergency contraception!! Yes, I think it would give you extra coverage to take it. You have 72 hours but the sooner the better! Sperm can be released at any time during the sex act, not just during ejaculation-this is why withdrawal method doesnt work well. Remeber though, if you take Plan b or Next Choice, it can mess up the timing of your periods so dont panic if your period doesnt come when you expect it. Most women bleed a bit after taking the emergency contraceptive then their next period may be delayed by this. This is pretty normal and no cause for concern. If a month goes by and no period, you can do a pregnancy test. If negative then it is just the EC delaying your normal cycle.
If you are going to be sexually active now (and usually once a guy gets some for the first time, he will want to continue getting it as often as you will allow him!), I suggest you make an appt with your local family planning clinic or your gynecologist to discuss birth control options. Condom failure sometimes happens when a couple is new to them. Be sure when he puts the condom on that he leaves a little bit hanging off at the top for the ejaculate. If he pulls it smooth over the head of his penis, it will break-you have to leave a little "pocket" at the end. Also, if the condom has been in his warm little wallet for a while, it is more likely to break because heat breaks down and weakens latex. A lot of guys carry one condom with them in their wallet for months waiting to use it, not realizing that his body heat can cause the condom to weaken. It is best not to carry one until he knows he will use it or buy one when needed. It is actually better for you to carry one in your purse because at least it wont be exposed to body heat. Discuss other options with your provider. You might decide that the Pill or Depo or even a diaphragm is a better option. You may want to still use condoms to protect against STD's even if you do go with another method so it is good to know how to use them properly. It is also recommended for you to use a spermicidal foam with condoms because, if there is a breakage or slip, the spermicide will help to protect you by killing any sperm that gets outside the condom. Good Luck!
The ladies above have got you covered thoroughly and I just learned some very valuable info.. I have 2,teenage girls. One had a baby at 16. I have raised baby and she has about finished high-school. It's a big deal, and even me grown up wasn't prepared enough for a new little one coming fast with no plan. I agree protect YOU at all cost, no matter what. Very best wishes, and thank you ladies for the lesson here. Fantastic job!
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