... also take 16 mg. of subutex. i would like to keep the baby, but I don't want an innocent baby to suffer ANY problems because of my selfish decision. Please help. Should I abort? I am 39 years old. No children & my fiance thinks I should abort the fetus & go to a treatment program to safely stop my Ativan & Subtex use. Any advice would be greatly appreciated..Thank you
To the best of my knowledge, neither the benzo or the subutex will cause birth defects, but you should get your subs dr and ob to help you, this is one area that the Dr should handle for you. If you don't have a subs dr who has handled a MOM TO BE on subtex, see if he/she can call around and find an ob who has, then are out there. Subutex is actually better to be on than opiate methadone, or even suboxone, if a patient is pregnancy. I can't say for sure if your dr will taper you down or not, but this decision should be discussed immediately with your subs dr. We answer alot of subs questions here, and we do have some people with medical experience who answer and they have also said to ask the subs dr to help if you are pregnant.
The article I read on MSNBC, about moms on methadone, suboxone or subutex, said, that if the drs know, they are prepared to treat the baby, if they don't, the nurse recognize the cries of babies whose moms were dependent on opiate or opiate replacement and ithe pediatricians then treated that. This article also said many suboxone subutex babies had no withdrawal at all. The benzo will likely have to be tapered off of, but you may be told to stay on subutex. This isn't really a hopeless situation, you just need to be in the right hands medically . I knoe you are probably scared, but know we are here for support. Get your subs dr involved and get the dr to find you an obgyn who has experience treating moms to be on subutex and benzo. They are out there and are willing to help. I have a niece who is a nurse who does specialized nursing for babies born to moms to be like you. She would tell you to tell your subs dr, get an obgyn involved who can treat you and find a pediatrician who can help too. It's not hopeless, just a bit more complicated. We are here if you need us. Patti
Niether suboxone or subutex has been studied long enough and is in pregnancy category c it shouldnt be taken while pregnant my cousin was on sub got pregnant and was switched to methadone which has been around for a really long time then after she had the baby she could have switched back to sub but she was doing so well that she chose not to talk with your Dr and see what he or she says.
Opioids dont cause birth defects but babies can be born dependent but like Patti says, this can be managed if it is known about ahead of time. I would encourage you NOT to abort this baby if you want to be a mother!! You are just going through the throws of guilt right now! Is killing a child better than being born dependent on a medication? I know that is harsh but I want to get through to you before you make a big mistake! The baby isnt addicted, he's just dependent and can be weaned when he is born IF he even has withdrawals. There are many times many babies who are perfectly healthy who were born dependent!! I think if you abort this baby, it is going to haunt you for the rest of your life!! If your Dr isnt supportive, then you need to find a new one!! Now that you are pregnant, you may qualify for State help that you didnt qualify for before. You are 39 y/o and this may be the last chance for you to be a mother.
Yes, you do have more complications than the average mother but they are not insurmountable problems! Please see about getting some help and consult a good obstetrician with experience dealing with dependent moms and babies before you make any decisions that you cannot change. This is a little life you are dealing with and he should have a chance at life especially since he IS wanted!!!
Hi,weather or not you have this baby is up to you.but dont let your fear of being on sub or a benzo sway your dicisson.just make sure all of your doctors know what meds your on.then you all can come up with the best approch of going through with having or not having this baby.right now.just the fact that your asking questions proves your not that selfish.keep yourself off any other stuff for now talk with your doctors and have a beautiful baby... subzero... pete
I hope this doesn't come off harsh but you are asking direct questions and direct answers are really the best...
Curious, do you have the "courage to stand alone now and follow your heart"??? I am asking this question because you stated this in an earlier post when you were previously pregnant. What if this is it??? What if you couldn't get pregnant again OR are you not really sure about your fiance and don't want to raise a baby alone??? Yeah, there is lots to think about because it isn't just you any more, know what I mean???
It seems that your dilemma isn't about whether or not to keep the baby but more about your fiance and his feelings. Are you concerned he will leave you if you keep the baby??? I'll just throw this out there... he isn't worth having if he isn't willing to accept the responsibility for the situation in the first place. And saying abort first then go fix yourself seems like a cop out from him. It is just as it is... and he took you just as you are and had sex with you just as you are and on the medication you are on and without protection and now the two of you have made a baby... His comment to go abort it and fix yourself just blows my mind! That comment hits me like, "go take out the garbage" already. Know what I am saying??? There is no feeling from him or warmth for that matter in this situation. I don't believe there was even a "let's pray about this because this is one we need help with". Understand what I am saying here. I am not going to tell you to go abort and I feel like you need to talk with someone who will help take the "scary" stuff out of the equation... like your med situation. I don't think this is a problem for you...
Perhaps this IS your time now. What if you could never get pregnant again and this was your one and only chance??? Do you want children??? Well, if you do and he doesn't better to find out now, huh???
On the other hand, I am wondering why you never took precautions after your earlier experiences or your fiance for that matter, if you didn't want children or at least understand the risks of continuing to have unprotected sex because of your previous pregnancies...
This is a serious situation and I believe you need to look deep within yourself. You won't be the first woman on medication to get pregnant. Talk with your doctors like TOMORROW and don't leave the decision up to your doctor either. I believe that is an area where far too many of them would just say "abort" if you don't want it and not hold anything sacred ANYTHING for that matter...
I hope I have given you lots to think about because your question is begging for more questions than a simple answer.
I hope you will continue to post on this one and if you need extra support... please ask. I am here for you and so are others.
First I want to say I'm so sorry you are carrying all this pain, secondly your choices are yours to make and noone.. NOONE will judge them. It's a wonderful thing you even got to a clinic. Also wonderful you know you have a problem as a lot of people don't. My advice would be to see a counselor and decide what you want and need and work on what got it all started.. been there. I haven't taken Subs of any kind but I read everyday how life changing it is not to chase high anymore. Now this pregnancy thing is a private matter period. To keep or not to keep is your call and I would not advise anyone to do anything but what they want because if you aren't capable of handling all of it.. you set yourself up to be in an abusive situation again.(drugs). That being said if you need us we are here.. most of the day/ night. Think and search your heart and decide and that's that. Noone can lead, live or force you to take any action you do not want.
I wish you the best and hope everything mind body and soul will be at ease someday so you may rest and enjoy your life once more.
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