... different person. It's been 2 yrs now and I'm sad and tired. Does anyone know of an online support group. I think me and the kids are grieving
Post Traumatic Stress Disorder - Help, I'm drowning, my husband has PSTD and is a completely?
Added 25 Dec 2013:
Do you have any advice for families trying to cope with a husband/ father who has chronic PTSD. Every aspect of our family has been turn upside down.
Can it ever find its way back?
Bless you for loving him enough to try to cope. Is he getting help? That will be key to keePing your family together. As far as online support groups,.you've hit the jackpot here! everyone here is supportive and at least several have been in your shoes,I guarantee it. I came here at a very low point in my life and I've been helped numerous times by these caring people! So please stick around and feel free to ask questions;^)
hello Ruby bug
Sorry 4 the late response haven't been home... I have had severe ptsd since childhood but not diagnoised did to terrible upbringing... with that being said kaismama is right his mother needs to learn about this illness..mental health is just like treating someone that has a psychical condition and is real... so she needs to go perhaps to a session with you and your hubby or go to some sites and read and learn!!! I as well have been suffering for years but it is manageable now through counseling and psychiatry..and meds... like kaismama stated if he is not willing to work with this psychiatrist he isn't going to do his self any justice..he needs to work with the counselor and psych..to get to the bottom of his issues and deal with them and work with the professionals... if he does that you will see a differance... I will be praying for u and your family... feel free 2 pq me anytime and welcome to dc... hope u stay around a while, this site is full of beautiful people who r very caring and helpful and dedicated to helping all...
Hi Ruby. I've had PTSD for seven years. I'm not sure of the symptoms he's experiencing, so maybe you could elaborate on them and we can go from there. I understand how tough it is for families. For a few years my family excommunicated with me. I look forward to hearing from you. I'm extremely sorry for you and your loved ones.
I have read all of the posts here to see if I could add anything positive or beneficial in nature. I hope you don't mind the questions but something you said kind of hit me. You said he came home one day about 2 years ago and he was crying. Did he say anything specific about why he couldn't do his work any more? Did a particular case, incident or arrest or possibly a shooting affect him... that you know of? Some incidents can hit a person to the core and make you question what you are doing and why you do it. Does that make sense? Maybe he was questioning if he could even take care of his family any more because of what he has seen, heard, or been forced to do. Perhaps he finds his work now so objectionable.
You mentioned he is acting out like a willful teenager pushing everybody's buttons and boundaries. Do you happen to know much about his teenage years? I have to say by the way you describe his mother... sounds like some part of his past has been re-awakened and he is acting it out again. Maybe staying away from his mother would be less stressful on you. His children are unfortunately seeing a negative reaction from him and having trouble relating to him. I hope you and your children are in family counseling. I think you said he is retired from the force. Does he have a current workman's comp case pending from this situation? I mean if his current situation is work related... did they offer him any type of help or counseling?
I apologize in advance if my queries seem out of line or too overwhelming. For that i am sorry. However, if I can assist you in this situation I surely will.
Be safe, be well and take good care of YOURSELF AND YOUR CHILDREN. Even if this means temporarily separating from your husband so that he can see how badly you ALL need help.
Thank you for caring about my family and I's relationship. Ya no, I never thought things would change between my family and I . It took nearly 7 years to reach this point. It's wonderful to see them again this year. It was a long road finding peace with them.
I believe your husband needs a lot of Drs., and Counselors, college ediquette classes, anger management, maybe group therapy like we're doing on here. I realize it will take a lot on your part. Is there someone who will listen to him that he respects? For me, I didn't listen to anyone. Then when I was homeless for 6 mos, I realized what kind of person I was and went to a psych ward for 6 weeks, then into a foster home for 9 mos.. It's was a long process.
You can do this, with his cooperarion and excellent counselors and a psychiatrist. You'll have someone to share this experience with. It's lonely. You and your children are going through an extremely difficult journey. You have strength, and direction and love. You can do this as a mother and children challenge. Hang in there, whatever you do. Stay steady. I don't know, maybe you and your kids need meds to be more relaxed with him. Make SURE your husband gets some med, and, you need to talk to his doctor about it these dirastic changes. Walk with your husband through the journey of recupperation. You may want to consider a living facility to allow him to restore his health and give you and your kids a rest from all the stress and anxiety. Just a thought.
I pray you find a solution to your difficult life,
I'm am so sadden to hear of that your family couldn't stick by you.
It's so hard but I couldn't imagine leaving. We have good days but mostly odd days. Hubby has an odd way at looking at everything now. He is very immature , teenage like. Argumentative, somewhat lazy, lost, selfish, social skills are very poor, generally does weird things.
He was very sensible, responsible, practical. A police officer for 26 years. Highly trained and respected. Quick thinker, etc
One day went to work, mid shift came home a different person crying I can't do this any more.
That was the last I saw of my husband 2 years ago.
I know this shouldn't be about me but I feel like I'm drowning now.
I'm lonely , missing my old life, he doest seem to notice mostly
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