Hello everyone. Let me begin by saying that my wife and I are both addicts. Like many,I have been reading the post the past couple of years as a result of my opiate addiction and subsequent detox experiences. This is my second experience with CT detox (wife and I detoxed together first time) and 2nd time was even worse than my first CT detox. I am on day 7 now and feeling much, much better. Like most, it all started with a medical condition (back problem) with my doctor throwing 10 mg/325 mg perc's at me like they were candy. Then he decided that he was going to become a dick and make me virtually beg for future prescription's b/c he was afraid of the drug police. Long story short, I turned to the street and was consuming 80 mg oxy a day in combo with 2 to 3 percs. I can't believe I let it get to this point. I was a Division 1 athlete, MBA, and highly successful in the business world. Never had an addiction until I was 33 years old, b/c of these damn pills. Long story short, I said screw this i'm done and had my first detox. it was pure hell. 22 days later I was feeling great. Then my wife goes into the hospital with severe pain and finds out she has MS AND a torn disct. She gets all kinds of opiates and as a result we start again. Also, once again, we turned to the stree to supplement. I decided, again, screw this b/c I have to be strong and take care of her the rest of her life... not to mention my children. So, I detoxed again and I am on day 7 and starting to feel great again! However, I have a BIG problem. I live in a house with an addict! She is my best friend and soulmate! She is supportive and said that she will never so much as mention when she is going to the dealer to buy pills or the drug store to pick up prescriptions. She said that her quit date is September 1. However, she watched me detox this last week and has scared the holy living shit out of her. She remembers the hell of her first detox and my experience only worsened her fear. I know full well the pills are in the house! How in the hell do I cope with all of that damn temptation!? Please help
Please help! In recovery and my wife is an addict!?
- 26 May 2011 by sunandfun703
- 28 May 2011
- drug dependence, pain, addiction, detox, opiate
Added 30 May 2011:
Update: Day 11 of sobriety! I am feeling soooo much better. Still say the mantra every single morning, “one pill and it is over”. Getting a charm to add to my cross necklace tomorrow with the inscription, “05.20.11 O.P.A.I.I.O”.
You are in a very precarious position. First your wife could taper off the pills slowly to avoid the majority of the withdrawals. Takes a strong constitution but it can be done. She could also check out detoxing with Suboxone. She would have to taper from it eventually but might be worth investigating. Secondly, she needs to lock them puppies up so you can't get to them. I had to change my playmates and my playgrounds to get clean. You don't have that choice so she will have to help. I wish I had a better answer but I don't.
Hang in there, you are clean right now and with a little prayer and conscienciousness you will make it. Keep on posting.
You aren't going to like hearing what I have to say but I'm going to say it anyway. Two addicts cannot live together unless they are both of the same mind, and even then it is very hard. If her cutoff date is Sept 1st, then she doesn't want you back until then - it's that simple. You stay away from her until she is clean and gets everything out of her life. You cannot be around it - locked up or not. Don't be in the same house or even around her at all till she is clean. It is very hard for two addicts to make it, but it can be done. Take some advice: Go to church, listen to what they have to say and both of you put God at the center of your lives and your relationship. Then you can make it. God bless -
Maybe you should start going to a 12 step group, or even inpatient or outpatient rehab in order to get support dealing with YOUR addiction issues. Me - I have been to a gajillion meetings and thereby have learned a lot from other people - you know, how they cope on a daily basis. Doing anyone of those things might work for you and shore up the strength of your sobriety. I would also get a Big Book. Most of it bores the crap out of me, but reading the stories really helped me not pick up during extrodinary times.
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