so tonite, my panic attack got so our of controll my husband had to take me to the er, i was given xanax by mouth .5 dose, and a shot of atavan. so as you see its getting way out of controll. my husband seems to be losing his cool, he dont and never will understand my illness, i told him its an illness that needs proper care, and if it dont it can get bad. i told him maybe he should go find a support group that will be able to help him understand what im going thru, that im not doing this on purpose, i hate every second of my day and nite, i was reluctant to taking xanax and a small dose of attivan,but i was desperate and it helped tremendously. tomorrow i go to therapy with a lady in kailua, hers is faith and christian based, then tuesday i go to my trauma therapist, she will help me dig deep to see whats creating this havoc in my life, i thought i was gonna die lastnite, i began to panic and was about ready to admit myself into a pshych ward, i see nothing wrong with that either. so on top of losing nana, im tapering of percocet, and now dealing with menoupause and hormone changes, so yeah you could say my world is pretty fu__ed up rite now. thanks for any and all feed back i can get, ty helpmehawaii
I'm so sorry you had such a bad attack.Your husband needs to read up on panic/panic attacks and anxiety,i understand how you feel,my other half does'nt get it either and i dont think anyone that does'nt go through it can properly understand!! Its been nearly 3years since i was diagnosed and my fella still dont know what to do when i get an attack(although since my dose of xanax has been upped,i dont get them as frequent),but i was like you once too!
I'm happy to hear you're going to therapy tomorrow with faith/christian based,that will do you good,you're obviously a religous person and also the other therapy along with that will help,give it time,it wont work overnight but you will and CAN overcome this!!
You certainly are going through an awful lot and its talking its toll on you,but there is light at the end of it all,a battle yes,but you will get through it!!
Please let us know how you find the therapy,in the meantime did they give you xanax in the hospital to take at home? I know you''re reluctant to take them but you obviously need them for now,you need to start helping yourself,if its only to take these meds while you are going through therapy and especially to get you through this tough time!! My thoughts and prayers are wiith you!!
I truely hope you start to feel better soon,here for you if and when you need to talk. You are not alone in this!!
I want to offer my support as well. I am so sorry to read that you had such a hard time of it! I don't know what time it is there and if you are going to the therapist later today or tomorrow, but I sure would like an update!
Personally, i feel you have not had a chance to truly grieve! You have lost your nana and did you not also lose your nephew? At your house? Sweetie, you have been through a TREMENDOUS amount of anxiety and sadness this summer and anyone would need down time to grieve their loss. And, trying to work and taper on top of this is just overwhelming to you emotionally, mentally and physically. I do so hope you can have someone talk to your husband for you. Sometimes it takes hearing it from a person in the medical field. Otherwise we may not convey the seriousness of our illness and words and emotions can get in the way. Not saying men are mean, but they do like facts. And, if someone can share with him factually what is going on with you, I believe that can and will ease a LOT of stress from you and help educate him as well.
Please, please let us know how you are doing!
Best and big hugs to you!
Hi HelpmeH, I fully understand the severity of Panic attacks. I am primarily bipolar 2. I really did not have a a full blown panic attack, until 3 years ago. My wife had to take me to the hospital also. They shot me full of IV Valium. No one will ever know how it feels, unless they have been there. I mainly wanted to comment on your Husband. I have put my wife through Hell over the last 3+ years. Long story. She had to do CPR on me from a suicide attempt until the EMS arrived. I was in coma with a breathing tube for 5 days. I had no right to put her through that. Our lives and relationship has changed drastically. She will never fully understand my disease. I can't expect her to. What has helped us so much, is her going with me to all my Psyc appointments, we have made her a part of my treatment plan. She has read up on my disease and try's her best to understand. We have some very close friends that know all about me, they are a great support for her.
She did not want anything to do with any support group's at all. There have been many times she just hated me in the beginning. I am not saying everything is just happy and bright now, I have to be constantly aware of her trauma, and do my best to help her. I know she cannot help me. She spends allot of time away, doing things with our friends. Our sexual relationship is gone, Due to my SSRI meds. I am working on that part as hard as I can. Be overly Patient with him, don't be hard on him when does not understand. This is a very lonely disease we have. This GROUP has helped me more than any thing has in the last 3 years. I had no one to talk to about any of this. No one really wants to hear about it anyway. My wife is so glad I belong to this group, I spend a lot of time here. Before I would just be on the couch all day. I only wish I had an answer for you ! Thank you for sharing your panic attack, I had forgotten how bad it can be. Stay strong. Dave
Please don't be too hard on yourself. You are going through alot of changes both emotionally, physically and hormonally. I think the medicines you are taking are fine for now especially while you work through your issues. Maybe your husband could attend therapy with you so to help each of you understand what is going on with the other. The therapist could see you both together for a little while and then if time allows you could finish up alone. I'm glad you are seeing a faith-based counselor. Trusting in the Lord to carry you through this time is so important. Pray unceasingly and remember we are here for you.
Your sister in Christ,
Sorry your going through such a rough time. I feel your pain and I'm in the process of going through medication changes and my anxiety has got worse the past couple of days but not to that extreme. It's important to have a good support system. I know I get frustrated at my boyfriend when he says "you can control your situations" and I like to beg to differ when it comes to anxiety. I know there are breathing techniques and what not but for one to fully understand they have to have experienced it themselves as well. I'm glad you have people to talk to when I'm anxious I find breathing techniques to be helpful such as take 3 breaths in and 6 breaths out. Try not to stop going to certain areas and try to push yourself to go back to things you were anxious at I know it's easier said than done but once you do it praise yourself. I find staying a way from caffieen is helpful too along with working out take a little walk or do yoga in the morning.
I'm trying these things to help too! Good luck and remember your not the only one out there like this you have plenty others who experience the same thing!
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