a month ago i lost my nana, administered cpr till medics arrived, deep down i knew she was gone, but hoped for a miricle, since then, i cant sleep, im affraid of the dark, affraid to sleep, and always think something serious is wrong with me, i have 24/7 panic attacks and feel like im going crazy, anyone please can you give me advice, at the same time, im on a taper from percocet pain meds so im going thru little withdrawls, and im in a surgically induced menopause, removed ovaries, so all in all, im a mess and it feels as if im dying at times, just wondering if i will ever get thru this
Though it doesn't feel like it right now, you will get through this. Your going through a natural grieving process because of losing your nana. It will take time to heal from this pain. You are also going through physical changes that are going to take thier toll on you emotionally. I believe you mentioned you are in therapy. I think this is a great idea. It would allow you to process some of your feelings about losing your nana and willl help the anxiety you are experiencing. I would recommend an antianxiety med for short term use such as xanax, but with your drug history it would be risky. I promise it will get better. When is your next appointment with the doctor? Are you going to discuss another type of HRT than the premarin was it?
Here for you whenever you need to talk,
Hello helpmehawaii. I really can't say much more than what Laurie said. We're a small group, but very caring. And although miles apart, we can all sense one anothers hurts and pains. Time will heal. Feel free to post as often as you need to. Theres always someone here to share and care.
Hi, Laurie and Pledge have already posted great responses. I just wanted reciprocate what has already been said, in the sense that you are going through so much right now, it is completely natural for you to be feeling this way. I was with my nana shortly before she passed and found it harder to get over than my brother and sister. I think the fact that you were right there with her at the end will leave your mind thinking about that situation as it is such a big thing to process. I found that i kept reliving the moment that i last saw my nana. I guess somewhere within, you need to try to find peace. Just think about all the good times you had with her, all the times you laughed, all the things you did together. And don't be sad, because she is in a better place now, where she isn't ill and feels no pain. Don't be hard on yourself for feeling the way you do.
Have you seen you doctor since your nana passed? Maybe there is something that could help you feel a little better? When i had anxiety in the past i was given beta-blockers (propranolol). I don't know if this would be at all suitable for you, but just a suggestion. Try to keep your chin up and realise that you are doing a good thing in tapering off the percocet. It will feel better in time. Just take it easy and try not to overthink things.
I understand what you are going through,my gran passed away 3years this Nov,she was like a second mother to me,i was so close to her like you with yours. I found therapy helped along with some meds to help with the panic.My panic and anxiety went into full blown after she passed and i also felt like i was dying and thought what i was feeling was'nt normal and that there was something wrong with me,i still struggle with the loss of her around and her company,but it does get easier,for months affter her death i was like you just reliving her dying,forgetting the good times,but now i can think of her and smile more often than cry. It takes time,but you are going through a whole lot of other things too,have you tried estradot for the menopause?I have been on that the last few weeks as i also was thrown into menopause from hormone injections due to endo,i found they helped a little,at least took the "feeling i'm going off my head",maybe suggest that to your doc,its another form of hrt.
I wish you all the best my friend,and just think your nana will be looking after you and she will help get you through this hard time!!! I dunno if you're religous but speak to your nana like you used to,thats what i do when i'm finding it hard to cope,it does help!!
I lost my mom to suicide on my bday so I can relate to the inability to sleep and etc I also have been diagnosed with ptsd but have suffered panic/anxiety attacks im not on 100mg lamictal 3 2mg xanax 3×daily and 2mg Valium 2mg 3 times daily. after yrs of just xanax I built a tolerance to it. after 4 days of being on the new meds im feeling better. the attacks still come but nowhere near as bad. I have suffered severe panic and anxiety attacks for 20yrs. good luck and keep me posted! your friend cristal
I am so sorry about your loss. Death is a tough thing to deal with and of course you are grieving. Having panic attacks is not out of the ordinary when u lose someone. I have Panic Disorder with Agorophobia and it is very difficult at times to live with. I have to take Xanax and other anxiety meds to combat it. I would recommend Xanax b/c it is def. the most potent benzodiazepine, but also short acting. Maybe a longer acting benzo. like Valium or Klonopin would be better. Some ppl get hooked on benzos; I have never had a problem with them, but then again they don't get me loopy or high b/c I have Panic Disorder. They just make me feel normal, but for others, there is an addiction risk, so I would go with Valium which has a very long half life and long acting. God Bless and plz take care and talk to your doctor about getting on something for a short time. All my prayers go out to you.
Helpme I am so
sorry about your nana.
Listen you are not the only
One to feel this way I did to when
My dad passed away I think you should
Tell someone and get some emotional
And psycolgical help. I didn't when I shuld have and waited 8yrs don't suffer like I did. Don't be affraid to get some help with that your hormones do to the menapause,stress,anxiety,grief hony get some meds to help balance it all out. Of course you are gonna grieve and you should in the correct ways. Without fear and with the rest you need to relax talk to yur nanna from time to time she is just in a better place no pain no anxiety I'm sure she is proud of you and I'm sure in your heart u know she is here for u like I'm sure she always has been! You are not alone we will all here at dc be here for you! Please talk to any other friends and family they are going through it as well confide in them. Maybe someone can stay with you and so u will be there for each other. And call for a therapist maybe even group therapy for u and your loved ones. I wish u luck please keep in touch. Jaime } litlmommag
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