As the supporter of a loved one that is an addict, it is crucial that you take care of yourself. We have the tendency to pour alot of energy into helping others and forget to refresh our own energies. One place to get support as the previous poster mentioned is the sister group to Narcotics Anonymous called Nar anon. You can find meetings by going to the following site:
There is much support to be had from these groups and they can teach you how to cope with the trials and tribulations of addiction.
I think LaurieShay hit the nail on the head, take care of You!!
Also, if this person is going cold turkey, they are going to be very physically ill. Vomitting, anxiety, goose flesh, perspiring and have horrible body pain. If you are able to dust, vacuum and do general shopping I'm sure your loved one will appreciate it.
Best wishes and welcome to this site!
the one thing that rings true to me is that unless you take care of yourself then you are like a car running out of fuel, my mothers brother was addicted to a drug that is no longer on the market, her brothers wife passed away and my mother lived in fear that he would not survive, he would call and she would know that he was heavily medicated and out the door she would go, I have seen her go out our door and she would be so upset that her dress tail was shaky because of the stress, finally she helped him in every way that she could and she told him she was going to help him if he would help himself, he made the choice to reduce it but he would not stop I tell you this because her brother passed away due to renal failure due to the large dose of medication that he consumed, remember you do everything that you can to be as supportive as you can possibly be but just don't forget to take care of you. remember one thing this may have a very positive outcome to it and one of the things that I know that when you give of yourself it can drain things out of you far faster than you can realize, so remember you don't forget to take care of you! It is my sincere wish that your loved one makes a full recovery and that you and anyone involved do all you can but be the best that you can be also. I wish you the very best! caringsonbj (Billy)
I believe what everyone here is trying to really tell you is that by taking care of your own needs, you do not become a co dependant or an enabler. You can be there for this person you love, but that person is the one who has to want, & do this for him/herself. You can learn a lot from NA in the meantime about enabling & codependency whcih is very important. I went thru this with my son at the age of 14. I really learned a lot, & the place he was admittied to for a period of time, had meetings for families of the inpatient ,& NA meetings for families & loved ones. I learned a lot about not only my son & his problems, but my own, & how a loved one can accidently get into those modes thinking they are helping, but aren't. I also suggest the NA meetings as the others have posted. Hope this helps...
Please google The Thomas Recipe. It's a diary of Thomas' withdrawal off of opiates, and suggested otc and rx meds that help during withdrawal, including vitamins. I believe you can find the thomas recipe right here on drugs.com, just go to the blue bar above, try Drugs A to Z, put the thomas recipe in the search engine and you may find it there.
If you would like to let us know what symptoms your loved one is having, we can certainly help you out! Many of us have had every withdrawal symptom known to man... and woman, so feel free to ask.
I'll alert Mary or Laurie that you want the recipe, and perhaps one of them can provide a link for you.
Best wishes, and you are doing a great thing for someone else,
Thank you all for your responses. It's nice to know that someone cares about how we feel as well. This is not the first time going thru this. The only difference is I am sort of aware of what to expect, just trying to find out some duration time. I just went through 4 years of chemotherapy for cancer and was cleared last October 2011. Now I have to go thru his w/d from my pain meds. I love him do much and I just want my best friend and lover back the way he was b4 all this happened as he does. I just hope our love is strong enough. Thank u all again for your responses. I will keep in touch. Broken hearted.
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