Opiate Dependence - New to this site. Need help/insight!! My younger brother (20 years old) is?
- 28 Nov 2009 by ebroal88
- 29 Nov 2009
... addicted to prescription pain killers--both opiates and sedatives I believe. A year ago our family found out he had been abusing these drugs for many years as well as many others after dropping out of school (college) twice and stealing close to 10k from my parents, close family, and me due to his drug addiction. He has been in and out of rehab 4 times now in the past year and for 5k a pop for each rehab is stress full financially on my parents. We have relocated him to a city and into a halfway house away from the area where he began using. He is on his own but my parents provide financial support for his recovery and rehab. This has worried our entire family but it has taken a SEVERE toll on my parents. I fear my brother will be on the streets very soon as my parents are cutting him off for good. He constantly receives moral support from family and concerned individuals. He has a vast support group but the stealing, lying, and secrets are taking their toll on family members and friends.
He knows the pain and the harm it causes the people who love him as well as the harm he does to himself, yet it seems to not make a difference. It runs in the family as another close family member died of the same 2 years ago (ODd on Rx pain killers). My brother will surely die if continues on the same path --Ive seen it happen...
Does anyone have any insight from a similar experience? Is there something our support group can do to help? Is there anything besides constant support and rehab that can help?
There are many support groups he can join, the question is will he. There are also support groups for family members and it sounds like you and your family need a break and some support from others who have been down the same path you have. AL ANON is for family members and loved ones of alcoholics or drug addicts and can be really helpful. They have chapters all over and it is extremely cheap, they ask for a $1 donation at each hour long meeting and you don't have to give that if you can't afford it. You will be able to talk to many people who have experienced the same things you have and it will teach you new ways to handle your brother and help you not feel so guilty. If your brother managed to find pills all the time, he will be able to find a job and a place to live. He will figure it out and I hope you and your parents don't feel too guilty when you cut him off.
Even if he relapses, it is not your fault, He has had a bunch of chances and he will learn, but he has to make the decision to quit. He can go to NA or AA and that will be a support group to help him stay clean. Even if it is AA, they will still help him. Please drag your parents if you have to to an AL ANON meeting and you will all start learning how to help yourselves not be enablers or feel guilty, and how to implement tough love for your brother. Good Luck.
wow 10K i would say Rehab would really be the best... Narcotics anon. and suboxone (if you ask, on the forums, Robert_3 somthing somthing he knows alot about this med and it helps with tapering off without getting high)
He is 20 years old. He knows what is good for him and what is not. He is going to do what he wants to do. Your parents have done everything they can do. Even more than they should. It is time for them to say no more !!
Some people have to learn through tough love. He has it cushy right now, as he has breakfast, lunch and dinner and a place to live. Maybe some jail time would be good for him. He will get attention, he will get square meals and a bed. At least you know he will have a harder time to do his stealing. Drugs are plentyful there, but so are drug tests.
If I was you, leave the talk line open. But do not give him any money at all. Do not give him a home. He is on his own now.
What he does need now is lots of prayer.
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